"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hi, I'm SolidGold and I have "oneitis"

SolidGold

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Hi all.

Let me introduce myself. 22 years-old. Hate the relationship/dating thing. Love having a different girl every night I go out.

But the other day I met a girl that was different. I was falling in love. So I approached her and got her number. Yesterday I asked her for a date. She agreed.

So today there I went to meet her. And I started to feel nervous and anxious. And I got there and not only was she there, but also her older sister and 6 of her sister's friends. A table full of cute girls and I was upset because I wanted to be alone with her.

And this made me realize something: I got "oneitis". And guess what: she wasn't different and I got stupid.

"Oneitis" -> avoid it... BIG TIME.

That's all.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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pdx1138

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How rude of her not to mention she was bringing an entourage.

I would have dismissed her for that regardless.

Hey at least at 22 you realize the error. I didn't bust out of that weakness til mid 30's.
 

VladPatton

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Besides avoiding Oneitis, you should also avoid this girl as well. She pretty much made a mockery of your date, man. It's called low interest. She has little-to-no interest in you. I don't care if there were 1,000 cute girls with her, they were probably there for a goof and laughed at you afterwards. Not cool.

Tread with caution, this girl is fücked up!
 

FinalWay

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VladPatton said:
Besides avoiding Oneitis, you should also avoid this girl as well. She pretty much made a mockery of your date, man. It's called low interest. She has little-to-no interest in you. I don't care if there were 1,000 cute girls with her, they were probably there for a goof and laughed at you afterwards. Not cool.

Tread with caution, this girl is fücked up!
I second this! Drop her! No more...
 

SolidGold

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I know guys. The worst thing of it all it's when I realized I had become one of the guys I used to make fun of: a WUSS!

I'm recovering now. This girl is "dead" and life goes on ;)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

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