"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hi, I'm SolidGold and I have "oneitis"

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Hi all.

Let me introduce myself. 22 years-old. Hate the relationship/dating thing. Love having a different girl every night I go out.

But the other day I met a girl that was different. I was falling in love. So I approached her and got her number. Yesterday I asked her for a date. She agreed.

So today there I went to meet her. And I started to feel nervous and anxious. And I got there and not only was she there, but also her older sister and 6 of her sister's friends. A table full of cute girls and I was upset because I wanted to be alone with her.

And this made me realize something: I got "oneitis". And guess what: she wasn't different and I got stupid.

"Oneitis" -> avoid it... BIG TIME.

That's all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How rude of her not to mention she was bringing an entourage.

I would have dismissed her for that regardless.

Hey at least at 22 you realize the error. I didn't bust out of that weakness til mid 30's.
 
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Besides avoiding Oneitis, you should also avoid this girl as well. She pretty much made a mockery of your date, man. It's called low interest. She has little-to-no interest in you. I don't care if there were 1,000 cute girls with her, they were probably there for a goof and laughed at you afterwards. Not cool.

Tread with caution, this girl is fücked up!
 
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VladPatton said:
Besides avoiding Oneitis, you should also avoid this girl as well. She pretty much made a mockery of your date, man. It's called low interest. She has little-to-no interest in you. I don't care if there were 1,000 cute girls with her, they were probably there for a goof and laughed at you afterwards. Not cool.

Tread with caution, this girl is fücked up!
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I second this! Drop her! No more...
 
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I know guys. The worst thing of it all it's when I realized I had become one of the guys I used to make fun of: a WUSS!

I'm recovering now. This girl is "dead" and life goes on ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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