"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi im new here, got one quick but difficult question

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So i've been going out with this girl for awhile. we both flirt a lot. anyways long story short, she was cooking me lunch and she said that she "trusts me". what does this mean? How do i proceed from there?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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whereiwanttobe said:
So i've been going out with this girl for awhile. we both flirt a lot. anyways long story short, she was cooking me lunch and she said that she "trusts me". what does this mean? How do i proceed from there?
Test her. Ask her to close her eyes then rub your hand under your sac and ask her to smell it. Ask her if it tastes like chicken.

Jesus, I crack myself up.
 

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funny...but seriously, how do i pursue this relationship further. (background: we're not gf/bf)
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Test her. Ask her to close her eyes then rub your hand under your sac and ask her to smell it. Ask her if it tastes like chicken.

Jesus, I crack myself up.
Haha that's great.


Have you read the DJ Bible yet?
 

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not thoroughly? Is there something that I should know that deals with these situations???
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well your question seems pretty vague since there's not a whole lot of background to the story. Plus it could mean about anything. But I would suggest reading this: http://www.sosuave.com/articles/trust.htm

Even if it doesn't answer your question completely, it might help you figure out where you're at progress-wise.
 

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thanks for the link! this breathes a lot of confidence in me... I believe we're attracted to each other, now i gotta figure a way to kiss her...
 

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kiss her

What are you waiting for? Why dont you just kiss this girl? Have u EVER kissed a GIRL? What is the worst thing that she can do to you.. NOTHING

r u a MAN or r u a little girl.. make a move before she finds someone else to fulfill those NEEDS..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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update: i used the techniques described in the kissing article by giving her the "look" and doing push/pull. it got me a lot of kino and giggling from her, but no kiss yet. ill keep u posted. Is there a way to speed it up?? Should i subtly bite my lips or some **** like that, that gives her more of a clue??
 

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******update***** so we both went to the gym together, then we went for ice cream, then she made me a hot plate back at her place ( she lives with her parents). As she drove me back home, i went for a kiss on the cheek....got it. She was happy about it, but damn as I got out of the car...i thought to myself, "I should have went for the lips!" THIS GIRL IS ONE OF A KIND. I know ppl post that all the time, but let me tell you what she has done for me. She always opens the door for me ( think: bronx tale-the door test) She is polite, she helps me with stuff that is in my way...ie pick up my room, or if im holding too much stuff, she carries some of it. We always have a great time and we're both very positive together. She is a 10. The girl has looks but shes so innocent and naiive, which gives her more appeal because she was raised right. Anyways i guess im trying to justify my lack of going for the lips kiss by trying to say that i want to respect her boundaries,

but damn, ALL YOU DON JUANS, help me here, WHAT DO I NEED TO DO...TO SACK UP AND GO FOR THE REAL KISS????
 

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Act like a tennis shoe, and just do it.

If you like her show her, don't say anything just kiss her. She may be shocked but if you are in good standings with her then it won't be so hard. All you have to do is overcome your own fears and man up. I know it may seem like sky diving or bungie jumping but trust me it's not. It's more like walking into a room in a house you've never been to before. You're more then likely prepared for what's on the otherside, even if you don't know it.

Man up and go. If you need more motivation, just think about how sh*tty you'll feel if you do nothing and she moves on because you didn't. I'm talking from experience here, THAT feeling, the feeling of not knowing, will eat you alive. It will stick with you for at least a year, if not more.
 
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