Hi! I'm boring, quiet, and have no personality!

[Vice]

How can I fix this!?

All of this reading about changing from a wuss to DJ has made me change my personality... to an empty shell.

I was at a party today, and I didn't really talk to anyone, and when I did try to, most of the people didn't hear me.

What can I do to develop a new personality? I spent months kicking out my old one, now I need to replace it with a new one that's awesome.

 

[Stéphane]

You need to work on your inner game, you need to find hobbies, and things you like to do. The best way of doing that is trying everything you can think of until you find something you like.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Boy, can I relate to this. It used to be that it took me a while to warm up, now I never even get started. When I try to liven up, people just look at me like I'm a freak.
It's like, before, I relied on dumb luck, but at least I felt like trying sometimes...after absorbing just enough of this stuff to be dangerous, I seem less gamed than ever.
There's got to be a point where I'll pick up momentum again. It's GOT to get better.

 

[superchristx]

Not everybody succeeds in every situation. Parties are tough, people sometimes move and think as one in a party, and if you aren't part of that mental mass you can't crack you way in your change the flow. Maybe you can find a more intermediate scene to practice in before you try parties and clubs.

Was this a party where you already knew the people? It is hard to become a new self when people are around who expect the old you.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Build your life around your passions, and passions that don't result in a "high" of any sort, such as drugs, video games, or even sex for that matter bcuz that will get you big time too.

Your 17 so you're probably in high school, you've still got time. Spend your last high school years or even early college years to find something you really like.

A course in high school that interests you the most that could result in a career that you'd really love doing....an extracurricular activity such as a sport (or hobby like stephane said) that you really LOVE doing, whether playing competitively or not. For example martial arts is one of those things i'm really serious about.

Why am I saying this when you say you have no personality? Because finding things of substance that you really like to do gives yourself substance as well. Consider it like the foundation to a building. It will build up your personality. The mere fact that you are doing something you love will give you some confidence. Girls can see that. It gives you something to talk about...so you won't be so boring! It will give you personality.

The quiet part can be solved with some confidence. You can still be a "quiet" guy as long as you aren't shy. Being a man of few words, but saying the right stuff at hte right time is perfectly alright. Work on your inner game as said earlier in order to know what few words will work .

Whatever you do though, don't pursue activities just to get approval from women. Chase paper, not skirts.

 

[The Inside Man]

Hey Vice, you are still very young, I remember at 17 I was just beginning to come out of my shell. Alot of really cool experiences are going to happen to you in the next 5 years. Don't take high school too seriously, except for the grades, to get into a good college. I only talk with about 5 friends from my whole high school class and I knew alot of people when we graduated.

Interesting people do interesting things. I was just thinking tonight about the many different experiences I have had since high school and how they have changed me. For the better, I think. Lost and confused is on point, esp. about finding good hobbies that don't revolve around drugs. I smoked weed for a long time and I wasted some opportunities...but it was a learning experience for me so I do not regret it.

Heres some starting tips for you, that have worked for me. Mix n Match take only what you think you would like. But be open to meeting new people and doing new things.

Study different religions. They offer different worldviews that may give you new insight. I am not saying convert, but study. Buddhism, Taoism, Islam, and Christianity are all religions I have studied alot in school and out. I am a Christian but reading about other religions gave me some different perspectives.

I am a very active guy and I think that makes my life interesting for me. You are at the perfect age to start lifting weights, you should try it. Almost everyone looks and feels better with an extra 20 pounds or more of muscle. The hard work will build inner character as well. Try some other sports like paintball, mountain biking, martial arts or maybe boxing.

Travel...around the U.S and to different countries if you get the opportunity.

Volunteer work is a great way to feel good about yourself, help other people, and meet cool down to earth people too.

Learn a different language.

Talk to people everywhere. It is really hard to do this if you are introverted I know, I took a job waiting tables that forced me to talk to people of all ages and races. Now I feel like I can chat up anyone, and I do talk to random people very often. If you do this it won't feel strange when one of the random people you talk to is a hot girl and you end up getting her contact info.

I'm kind of rambling here.

Also as L+S said, find something that you love and are passionate about. It may take awhile. For me it is physical activity and learning about politics and philosophy, and my religion.

I not a loud, boisterous guy(well sometimes when I'm drunk but that is quite rare), but I am still outgoing. I like my time to myself as well.

This was kind of a ramble but I hope you can get some ideas from this post.

Tell us a little about yourself...Do you have any hobbies? ever play any sports? What do you like to read about?

 

[redspicyflag]

Seriously?

Your myspace gives off a different vibe

My advice is have fun

 

[oneshot]

Seriously?

Your myspace gives off a different vibe

My advice is have fun

:yes:

 

[Vice]

Tell us a little about yourself...Do you have any hobbies? ever play any sports? What do you like to read about?

I was never really good at an extreme sport I started and I needed money for a car so I sold my $1800 equipment.

I no longer really have hobbies, I used to mod Xbox video game systems (Installing lights, painting the case, cutting parts of the case and adding windows so you can see inside, etc.) but I stopped that because I was collecting too many spare Xbox parts and they were just sitting there, wasting space. They still are.

I'm looking into Parkour, I've found that that's an interesting thing to do, but only by myself. I'm pretty bad at it, but I still do it for fun. I also, in fact, DO work out.

I played soccer in middle school, and then stopped. I'm a Senior now, and I have not played any sports in my past years at high school. But I AM going to join the boy's track team soon.

I used to read ALOT about geology and prehistoric biology, and now I read mostly about human social behavior (ex. stuff on this site, and books reccomended by David Deangelo)

 

[Leporello]

Yeah... find what you enjoy, and find other people who enjoy it too.