Hi Everyone!

[DeConel]

Hi everyone,

this is my first post. I have been an active reader but today I need your advice about a girl (well, dont we all)..

Ok, I'll try to explain the situation in a nutshell...

I am currently seein 2 girls. We dont have anything serious going, just sex partners. so besically i am happy with my life at this point.

but this girl working at my local gym is tryin too hard to get my attention.
i really dig her looks and she is walking around like a barbie doll. but she looks like 18-19 and i am 26.

she is walking in to weight room and acting like she looking for someone, but whole time she is staring right at me. when I make an eye contact, she gets kinda hiper and throws her hair to the other side..and acts like she doenst know what to do.

couple days ago, i was walking to the area where they have the water fountain, I know she is watching me but kept walking with out looking around, and suddenly turned my head and looked at her!.. she turned to red..and i mean literally RED!..

ok, here is the thing she is working there and i go there almost every day, i really dont wanna deal with an immature 18 year old
everyday!.

shoudl I go for it or let this one slip?. I mean i would rather have her than have the other girls but I think she really is too darn young and immature for me...??

any suggestions?

Thanks.

 

[flyinshark]

Hi and welcome!

Ok, so you looked at this chick and it's YOU who turned red? If so, then why did u mention this? Is it because you are now uncomfortable around her?

I see no problem with you going out with an 18 year old barbie girl. Just because she acts funny when she's around you doesn't mean she is immature. Maybe she's shy, and from what you wrote she is trying to attract your attention.

You would lose a nice oportunity if you didn't go talk to her at least. You've got nothing to lose and possibly lots to win.

 

[DeConel]

I corrected it..sorry she turned red not me..LOL..

flyinshark, I really don tknow. I feel like shes gonna do something
stupid, like turn me down or something...she is kinda acting childish. I really dont wanna have problems at the gym since I go there everyday.

and is it ok to flirt with the employees?

or is it ok for her to flirt with me?

she is not a member but an employee...

the reason i am interested bout her is because she is around 9.5
while the other 2 are around 7

it would be a nice upgrade, and i really dont think i could handle
3 girls at the same time or at least i am not that advance..

 

[flyinshark]

The thing with female employees is that you cannot know for sure if the fact that they smile/look at you means that they are attracted to you or if it's not simply a technique to keep you as a customer.

Is it ok for her to flirt with you? haha, funny question, i dont know if you realize how that sounds... Nonetheless, the answer is that it depends on you. Only you can answer that.

Is it ok to flirt with employees? You can always try, but the chances of success are not very high i think. A cute female employee at a gym must have had LOTS of men flirt with her before, so she is most probably used to it and almost immune to any attempts by anyone.

So, don't set your hopes super high, but definitely AT LEAST strike some conversation with her. See if there's a chance she'll go out with you and go for it if you see an oportunity!

I understand that you dont wanna mess up bad and have to see her everytime you go at the gym and remember your failure each and every time. That's why i think you should approach her carefully and only ask her out if you have a good vibe from her. If not, drop her and just stay friends with her. But that's me...

 

[DeConel]

and bout turning red ...

this broad is milky white..you know the type right...slap her
your hand print will stay on her for a week..guaranteed!..

thats why she is changin color...LOL

 

[Sart]

WTF???

This chick is giving him a vibe and he makes her blush? She is putty in your hands frend. Your problem is you are asking the wrong dudes. Most of these guys couldn't get laid in a fukcing brothel.

If you un nerve her, and especially if you make a chick blush...she's yours.

 

[DeConel]

ok, i'll try to talk to her tomorrow..lets see what happens..

probably she will act like..uh oh what!? dont now?!..all shy and syit...

will see

 

[Recluce]

imo if you wanna get with her then go for it. you really have nothing to lose. if she's doing these things then she's into you.

i really wouldn't worry about her working at the health club. she's there a lot longer than you are and has a lot more to worry about than you do.

 

[Tazman]

but this girl working at my local gym is tryin too hard to get my attention. i really dig her looks and she is walking around like a barbie doll. but she looks like 18-19 and i am 26.

she is walking in to weight room and acting like she looking for someone, but whole time she is staring right at me. when I make an eye contact, she gets kinda hiper and throws her hair to the other side..and acts like she doenst know what to do.

Dude, when I first started reading this I was getting nervous as hell. The EXACT same thing happened to me at a gym I go to about 3x a week, and I'm also 26. Sad part is I'm a virgin, but that's another story. I say you talk to her and atleast get a test drive.

At my gym it was blonde girl who always wore makeup and had tanned skin. She would make all the guy's heads turn. I couldn't believe she was actually staring at ME. I fvcked it up big time because she made some bold moves like walking by me frequently and giving me hard stares. She even smiled as she was walking toward me and I turned away like a dumb ass. Go for it man.

 

[Legend]

she sounds like a sun shine girl.

If this situation is bothering you, you can always go when shes not working, or even change gyms.

 

[flyinshark]

You guys dont really understand what blushing is all about. If you really do (i.e. you blush/blushed yourself), then i apologize, but if not, then don't jump to conclusions so easily!

When a girl blushes, it doesnt necessarely mean that she's into you. Blushing can occur for the oddest reasons you can imagine, and unless you have blushed yourself before you cannot even begin to understand what blushing actually means.

The hair thing she does is much more a sign of interest than her blushing, i just wanna say that. Thank you.

 

[DeConel]

yeah she act like a LTR meterial...

i actually never had this kinda situation...all the girls i been with were actin normal..

1-eye contact
2-smile
3-green light
4-convo
5-date
6-bed

when i establish eye contact with a girl, i expect to recieve something in return..
with this girl..its different, she is changin colors..LOL
acting all shy and stuff.

or maybe i never actually chased a 9.5..thats why...

tomorrow will be interesting...

 

[Sart]

You Know the Answer

Go with your gut son, you know the answer. You dont need the support of 100 keyboard geeks who have read and re read theory fifty times, like on the actual definition of fukcng blushing.

Man, you feel a vibe and make the bytch blush, pocket her...she is YOURS.

 

[DeConel]

UPDATE:

ok guys, first i'd like to thank you all for your suggestions.

here is what happened....

i went to gym early today...i saw her talking to another female employee..i didnt pay attention and started my workout.

right in the middle of my shoulder workout :woo: i noticed that they are talking bout me lookin, gigglin etc.

so i finished my workout, walked through her and said could you please call the manager?

her: uh oh hold on please (picks up the phone and calls the manager & acting nervous) (other girl is standing there too)
me: hi, my name is xxxx xxxxx
her : hi xxxx, i am xxxxxx
me : wooow, (i have a hard to pronounce name! usually only 1 out of 10 pronounce it right, and this chic said my name just the way it sounds in her first try)
me: woow, i am impressed...
her: did i say it right?
me: perfect pronounciation...only few have said my name right. you really got my attention now!
her: oh oh yeah i am good at these things, language skills etc(BLUSHHHEEEDD...SHE TURNED REDDDD)LOL

manager walks in.
I asked a bull**** question to the manager bout upgradin my membership plan..
he explained the options , I thanked him..hes gone!

back to the chick::woo:

me : you know what?
her : what?
me : i like to take you out sometime, if thats ok
her: uh, (RED RED RED) yes, i love to go out with you (she didnt even blinked, accapted right away)

other girl : ok , guys..i'll leave you 2 alone, giggles, and she looks at her in a way like "you go girl!"

me : how bout tonight, what time you get off?
her: at 7, but i 'll be very tired, how bout tomorrow night? (saturday)
me: oh, sorry, i have plans for tomorrow night..ok then we'll do it someother time. (steepd away from her alittle, just like i was losing my attention)
her: ok then tonight! ( ina excited voice tone), ill be beat, but ill drink couple energy drinks, ill be fine.
me: (get closer her again) ok gimme your adress, ill pick you up
her: (writes down the adress)
me : 8:30?
her: 8:30 ok

i went back to my workout
on my way out, i huged her and said : ill see you tonight..
she said: cant wait, i'll drink the whole case(pointing the Red Bulls)
me: hehe, ok bye
her : bye

I left....

guys, i tried to write convo word to word but i may have skipped acouple of things...

so i have a date tonight..and yes she acted really mature and was very happy that i talked to her.

if anything interesting happens tonight, ill let you know...

 

[Tazman]

That was excellent, let us know how the date goes.

 

[flyinshark]

DeConel, you handled the discussion like a pro! The girl is crazy about you too, so you're in business

Congrats and have fun on your date tonight!

 

[DeConel]

thank you guys...

i was seriously thinking bout talking to her but you guys gave me
the boost..probably i would let this one slip...i am glad i didnt

interesting highlights:

more nervous she got, more confidence i had..pushed her more
so probably, chicks use the it too, when we get nervous, they know they have the control and use it. and i believe it continues the way it starts...so they control the relationship. I was the alpha
male, i let her know that the minute i opened my mouth.

lesson learned: never act nervous ever!, or atleast try not to act nervous. but probably they sense it, so hiding is not a wise thing to do.

another thing, i was really wrong bout her behviour. I thoght she was acting like a 5 year old. she took it like a mature person.
i still dont know how old she is..but as i said probably around 18-19.

and whats up with the humor...redbull, energy drink stuff...
she is funny..i would never thought she could have sense of humor..

again without talking to her, i would have never known..

lesson learned: grow some balls, and talk to her no matter what!
otherwise, you will assume things and probably lose a great opportunity!

with every chick, I learn something new.

again thanks guys, ill let you know tomorrow...

 

[DeConel]

UPDATE!!!!

ok guys, there it goes..

I took her to a nice restuarnt, had a nice dinner, great convo
perfect chemisty, after the dinner, we wentto a nice bar and had couple of drinks ang guess what!. she got drunk with 2 beers?
took back to her house (she lives with roommates), I didnt want to take her to my place, ill explain ina minute.

went to her room and boom boom boom, i woke up at 5.30am and left a note (she was sleepin) thanked her in the note and left.

i dont think i ever wanna see her again!
she freaked me out!, i told her that i'll be goin overseas for vacation for 2 weeks, and she started to act like a 5 year old spolied kid?? !! oohhoohhoo nnoooonnno I dont want you go!

WHAT THA F? we just met!!! hellloo what is this???
first day, first date?? huh?

she said, she feels like she's known me for along time!
damn right she knew me, i learned that she looked at my memebrship records at the club!, she knew my name, adress and number! before i talked to her!

when wewere at the bar, after she got drunk, she kept asking my plans for tonight, be cuzz when we frst talked i told her i had plans for saturday night

whatcha gaonna do tonight?
who are your frinends?
???????

well, i kept my cool and acted line a gentelman all night, so that i could get in bed with her!

but she seems like she is obseesed and she raised a big ass RED FLAG..

dont know what i am gonna do..i still smell like her..need to take a shower..oh well :woo:

at least money i spent wasnt for nothing~

 

[Tazman]

Nice! Even though you were weirded out by her behavior, you don't know how much I would love to be able say I banged a hot girl who was obsessed with me, lol. You might be able to keep her in your back pocket for a while, or would you want to do that?