Hello, like a lot of the people around here seem to have been, I never was a "looser" and I'd even say I have a rather charismatic personality when I open up to people. But therein lies the problem, I tend to be quite shy around new people (especially ladies I'm attracted to) and while I have excellent self esteem, my self confidence is rather dismal. But this entire process is about growth, and hopefully given some time, luck and work I'll be able to show my charming, charismatic self to whomever I please, whenever I please.
Now on to the question, but first the backstory.
About a month and a half ago back I'd actually managed to work up the courage to approach a girl in my major whom I rather fancied. To my surprise (nay, delight) she agreed and even gave me her phone number but, she said, she was really busy and wouldn't be able to for a little while. No biggie I thought so I let a week and a few days slip by and asked her if she was still interested. She affirmed that she was, but said she was still really swamped.
I now thought things seemed rather fishy so I decided to do some detective work. Turns out she really was pretty damned busy, this girl is in our honors program, played varsity soccer as well as an Intramural sport, is on the dance team, plus she does volunteer work all while attending our rather demanding university. I **** you not, I would probably die if I were doing as much as she is, and I'm fairly ambitious myself.
Anyway, I let another couple weeks go past and asked her again if she was still interested. Once again she confirmed, and once again she said she was busy and it would have to wait. About a week ago soccer season ended so I assume she should have a little free time now, yet has made no attempt to let me know that she's now available to take some time to get to know each other better.
Finally the meat of the question: Should I give her one more try? There's no doubt that she knows my position but she could be one of those girls who refuses to ask the man out, even if they know/have been shown that he's interested. A close female friend of mine from back home gave me the advice of not pushing it further, and she's right, I don't want to appear desperate.
Thanks for your input (as well as the time you spent reading what appears to be a short novel :nervous: )
Now on to the question, but first the backstory.
About a month and a half ago back I'd actually managed to work up the courage to approach a girl in my major whom I rather fancied. To my surprise (nay, delight) she agreed and even gave me her phone number but, she said, she was really busy and wouldn't be able to for a little while. No biggie I thought so I let a week and a few days slip by and asked her if she was still interested. She affirmed that she was, but said she was still really swamped.
I now thought things seemed rather fishy so I decided to do some detective work. Turns out she really was pretty damned busy, this girl is in our honors program, played varsity soccer as well as an Intramural sport, is on the dance team, plus she does volunteer work all while attending our rather demanding university. I **** you not, I would probably die if I were doing as much as she is, and I'm fairly ambitious myself.
Anyway, I let another couple weeks go past and asked her again if she was still interested. Once again she confirmed, and once again she said she was busy and it would have to wait. About a week ago soccer season ended so I assume she should have a little free time now, yet has made no attempt to let me know that she's now available to take some time to get to know each other better.
Finally the meat of the question: Should I give her one more try? There's no doubt that she knows my position but she could be one of those girls who refuses to ask the man out, even if they know/have been shown that he's interested. A close female friend of mine from back home gave me the advice of not pushing it further, and she's right, I don't want to appear desperate.
Thanks for your input (as well as the time you spent reading what appears to be a short novel :nervous: )