"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hi AFC lookin for help

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I guess I should start by saying I'm a complete AFC. I live threw my computer and its sad I found this site recently and have decided to get OFF my ass and go pick up some HB's or err attempt ^.^ well last night was a drag went to walmart (i.e) the only store in town (pop. 50,000 including outlying farmlands) probability seemed against me I walked around but didnt see a HB worth going for. Later at the mall I saw a HB8 looking at me drinking from a water fountain but totaly wussed out and kept walking with my friend totaly ***** of me. later that night we went to a party with 2 HB8's AND an HB9 damn waht luck eh? only I had to work so I partied for about 3 hours with pretty mutch just me and 3 HB's everyone else left to get booze/drugs for an hour ... and so it begins.
First thing I notice is LOTS of girl queing going on I notice but dont get ballzy enuf to outright call them on it NOt a DJ yet. Anyway I'm sitting next to HB7 I failed to mention but she is TOTALY flakey looks like coke addict or something shaky hands totaly phsyco I swear... so I switch to HB9 with generous amounts of EC she returns EC and seems to enjoy the attention (imagine that) only I find out she is ingauged to somone at the party ... So I pick up the EC with her cause I figure what the hell She is an HB9 and if she wont cheat I can use my rapport with her to cause jealousy in the other 2 I generally just sit back and kick it while the girls chat about B.S. = more girl que bull**** I start giving one HB8 (the real target) small bits of EC makeing her break eye contact first OF course and smile on high points in the convo when makin EC with her but I keep myself focused on HB9 I can tell the other girls are getting a little jealous and....
I have to go to work! ****!
Last thing I notice is HB8 biting her lower lip and looking into my eyes... ouch it hurts sometimes to have a night job....
but I didnt go for a close no privacy AT all didnt want her friends to get on to the game.... they always ****ing make it 10x harder
I suppose I just pussed out again but I know Ill be partien with those ppl again soon so meh just thought I would get some critique on my AFC skillz and what YOU would do in that situation I generally dont talk mutch and I usually just keep the C&F going being a smartass most of the time and a couple of times gifting them with a sincere question... but I prolly ****ed this up somehow any tips?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yes.

Join the nearest writer's club and start publishing. You seem to have a real knack for modernism/postmedernism type of writing.
 
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Read the DJB.pdf? well hmm yeah i was looking for REAL WORLD EXPERIENCE Ive read MANY MANY MANY books DJB WMS and they say alot but I thought this was a HELP forum... maybe I was wrong... I posted this because I got a FAILED feeling when all was said and DONE. Perhaps its my own inhebitions and low self asteem I prolly did fine. just wanted to hear some insite on technique speed/approach kino when sitting in groups of ppl Its certain I'll meet these ppl again I dont live in a large city when You make an impression it sticks cause you CANNOT ESCAPE THE NETWORK THE MATRIX HAS YOU NEO! TAKE A RED AND A BLUE PILL! Mix and Match baby!
 
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Originally posted by AFC12345
Read the DJB.pdf? well hmm yeah i was looking for REAL WORLD EXPERIENCE Ive read MANY MANY MANY books DJB WMS and they say alot but I thought this was a HELP forum... maybe I was wrong... I posted this because I got a FAILED feeling when all was said and DONE. Perhaps its my own inhebitions and low self asteem I prolly did fine. just wanted to hear some insite on technique speed/approach kino when sitting in groups of ppl Its certain I'll meet these ppl again I dont live in a large city when You make an impression it sticks cause you CANNOT ESCAPE THE NETWORK THE MATRIX HAS YOU NEO! TAKE A RED AND A BLUE PILL! Mix and Match baby!
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no offense, but I'm starting to see why you're all alone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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for a bunch of playful guys u all seem pretty damn uptight to me..
 
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what do you want people to say?
"look them straight in the eyes and wink. you will get all the ladies."



seriously do the boot camp.

you need to push yourself to do things that you are not comfortable with.
 
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It seems like you only skimmed the bible, especially the parts about attitude. Rising from your status of AFC will take a long time and lots of work. I began my journey about this time last year when I started reading Doc Love's articles http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove and only recently have I come to sosuave to see what the DJ bible has to say.
 
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Yeah you guys are right I got too hung up on one moment when I should just be sarging hard the whole day threw to get my confidence up thats the kinda advice i was looking for.

and the boot camp thing dosnt really fit I do the things that they give a week for every day... I live in a really small and friendly community. So should I just go threw it and post my journal like the others? I guess I should.
Thanks Guys Keep up the good work!


P.S. thx for the compliment on my writing your like the 10th person who has told me I should write a book.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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