"Hi" - a lousy, unnatural pickup

[Bungo Pony]

The best pickups are done when you give off the vibe that it's natural for you to pick up women. When you make an observation about her, or the surroundings, and vocalize your observations to her, it makes for incredibly easy and natural conversation. You don't even need to start with the word "hi". All you have to do is look at her (even if she isn't looking at you) start speaking, and she'll immediately direct her attention toward you. It's not rude, it's making conversation. How many times do you remember a stranger saying "Hi, that's a really good book you have there". Very unnatural. Take out the word "Hi" and you've got a natural, everyday comment.

"Hi" or "Hello" works well when a person directs their attention to you for a reason (ie paying for groceries). Other than that, it should never be used to address strangers.

 

[cgraz]

I agree 100 f'ing percent! Pickups should ALWAYS be natural and spontaneous. I've watched so many guys crash and burn walking up to random girls with lines like

Hey What's up?
Hi, I'm <Jim>, what's your name?
<some pathetic pick-up line that's TOTALLY canned>

or basically anything else that makes it smell like a pick-up. If the girl senses you want to pick her up, her bit3h shields go up and instead of working on building rapport, you're working on getting her shields down---your odds now aren't very good.

What I've learned in time is that a cold approach is simply that--an approach! It's NOT a pickup. I'm approaching a girl that caught my eye to see if she's fun and interesting. If she's not, then I won't number close her. If she is, then I go for the number. But I never approach a girl with the attitude that I'm picking her up. It's always just a casual approach. After all, some girls may look really hot but are about as interesting as a block of wood; I can't stand dating these types of girls.

So many guys out there are just looking for one magical line that will help them score with women. But it's all about coming up with openers ON THE SPOT! Not to mention your ability to use eye contact and distance flirt.

Most of my approaches are on girls that I get a "go ahead" from. I make eye contact and hold it. If she holds it, I walk right over and talk to her; especially if she throws in a smile, but it's not necessary.

If you're approaching a girl that you haven't made eye contact with, you've got to have a really casual/spontaneous opener relating to what she's doing, etc. That way you're not "sneaking up" on her...she'll put the bit3h shields up ASAP if you don't have a casual opener.

Cgraz

 

[SamePendo]

That, if she is a nicechick. A appropiate chick.
If she is the ¨****-me-now¨ girl, you better go with the ¨hi¨ thingy. Make clear your intentions.

It all comes down to being comfortable with what you are doing.

 

[Imbrondir]

Don't get upset the trillion times you'll get a 'Uh, what?' tho

 

[DJ_Dork]

if you are interested in a girl, use a ****y unique pick up line.. don't use generic lines. oh yeah, girls can tell if single guys are desperate for her puzzy a mile away, once they know that.. they will pull your chain every single time they see you.

 

[Psycho`Sexual]

Greetings attribute to acquainted people

I would argue that her b1tch shields are way more likely to be triggered by a personal comment from a stranger.


"Hey, I'm PS *extend handshake, wait for her to introduce herself*, I noticed your reading <blah blah book>, My friend Susane was just recommending this book to me, what do you think of it?"

For one, this establishes me not as "some guy" but as PS. I find out her name. I establish some KINO. I take an interest in HER, asking what she thinks of the book, opening the door for a conversation about other books the author has written, other books shes read, similiar situations in life from the book, books ive read, etc. etc. etc.

As opposed to just saying "hi, thats a really good book your reading there."

Where would you go from this point?

If some stranger said this to YOU, how would you react?


"Uhhh..okay..thanks.."






Did I sound like some canned pick-up line attempt? And after talking to her for a few moments I can easily judge her intelligence level (from her choice of reading, etc.)

IF she likes romance novels, you can instantly branch off into talking about relationships, and so on and on, my head is literally spinning with hundreds of possibilities.

Ask open ended questions, but establish yourself as a friend. (somebody with a name)