"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey people! please review my POF profile. thanks!

JohnnyStorm

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Have you got any pictures of you with other people having fun?
Any with your family etc?

I just think, with you being "alternative" looking, it might be a good idea to have some pics with "normal" people as social proof, or just with mates. So that women don't label you unfairly as some "alternative loner weirdo".

Your profile also seems a litle bit impersonal and boring....what do you gamble on? Making chainmail armour is cool! What's your job? What are you passionate about?
BTW if you aren't frequenting metal bars you need to be.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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evan12

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Asterisk said:
how does it make me look fake?
you are standing after a wall of your home . girls want photos from real actions not by standing in your living room or bath room (unless you want to show your six packs )
 

sarcastic sam

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I think your profile is absolutely perfect just the way it is, I wouldn't change a single thing.
 

SgtSplacker

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You have a very particular style, being this way you will only attract very particular women. Try to take a couple pics with more people that look like you.
 

Asterisk

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would be a bad idea to say I'm passionate about self improvement?
I've always been passionate about learning in general.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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d!ckmojo

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Jesus Fvck Dude, you are not going to have any success on POF no matter what.

The only guys that have success on POF are suave, muscular, rich, handsome, tall dudes.

You CANNOT do ANYTHING that will improve your POF profile, you're FVCKED.

Like that other guy said, go to heavy metal concerts and bars and spit game at fat goth chicks.

As things stand, that's your only hope of getting laid any time soon.
 

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AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
shows what you know!
I'm determined to make this work.
NOTHING you can say is going to change my mind!
you better stop trolling me bro,
'cause I'll be destroying pof very soon

you'll see. you'll see.
 

EuropePUA

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Asterisk said:
AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
shows what you know!
I'm determined to make this work.
NOTHING you can say is going to change my mind!
you better stop trolling me bro,
'cause I'll be destroying pof very soon

you'll see. you'll see.
don't listen to the negative nancies, you are a very handsome white man,

I wish I was you bro!

PROVE EVERYONE WRONG!!
 

rhythmic

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Get more flattering pictures. Like has probably been said 23857210 times in this thread, you're gonna be aiming for a specific type of girl... No bother though, you see SMOKING hot metal/punk chicks all over guys that look like you on the regular. It's all about using your cultural capital (knowledge of your niche, esp. music-wise) and integrating that into your game. I used to have hair halfway down my back, and still had a lot of fun... Just with a different type of chick. Not less hot... Just different. Also, dunno what you're like under the armour, but try get in shape - metal chicks love the topless metal guys. Picking up an instrument and getting in a band will help you no end, as long as you don't suck.

Wear contacts, or get glasses that suit your face the best. Drop stuff like "making chainmail" and "collecting swords" - maybe some chick's will dig that, but women, especially online, ESPECIALLY POF is a numbers game and you don't want to alienate. I remember one style of game where you just be yourself and wait for the perfect chick... I think you'd be waiting a while.

If you can prove through conversation that you're on the ball, and you can make them laugh, you're fine. Just tidy yourself up a bit and destroy metal chick pvssy everywhere.
 

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Is making chainmail and collecting swords too geeky?
maybe making chainmail would be better for her to find out
in a convo when she asks about my belt.
and the knives and swords she'll learn about later.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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spiegel549

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Asterisk said:
Is making chainmail and collecting swords too geeky?
maybe making chainmail would be better for her to find out
in a convo when she asks about my belt.
and the knives and swords she'll learn about later.

Just put the basic info that women would WANT to see/read, play the game a bit. Find a few pictures of you being active, a few action photos. Let them get to know your hobbies etc down the road.

Also no homo dude, but you can really pull of that good looking rocker type. Ever think about going to a hair dresser and asking them to layer your hair? Or cut it into a longer style? Maybe clean up the beard a little bit, and throw on some ripped jeans, a cool t-shirt, and some boots. You will look night and day bro if you just ditch the chains and get into tighter more fit clothes.


http://coolmenshair.com/2011/05/steven-tyler-long-hairstyles.html
 

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why does everybody keep telling me to ditch the chains?





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stick and stones might break my bones but whips and chains excite me
 

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I've got an impression that you're trying to impress as if you're missing something in yourself and have to impress people. It's your height right? You're 5'5".

You have to be simpler.

You have to be clean cut and dressed well.

You have to be mature.

You know women would have sex but only with the right person? Yes, they'd have sex with Brat Pitt, dropping all their standards, but we aren't talking about that. What they mean is that they want a man with standards looking and picking hard through women, and not banging the first one they see. You have to be that man, selective, assertive, with your life together.

You do not look like you're selective, nor assertive, nor have your life together.

Thus, delete your profile and give yourself a favor and not create a new one.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Be simpler.

Be mature.

Be clean-cut and improve your get-up.

Backseat Huan nailed it.

You look very shabby right now.
 

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Dude, I dress how I am comfortable. I wear what I think looks cool.
I really don't give a fvck what people think of me. If I was trying to impress
people I'd be wearing a fvcking suit, man!
 

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Then, why the fvck are you coming here for our opinion if you really "don't give a fvck what people think of you"?

In the beginning of the thread you were sucking up and begging for help, eh, brother?

Don't get defensive. This is for you, if you are to conquer POF - because the average chick will be harsher than the average Suaver, rest assured!
 

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Asterisk said:
Dude, I dress how I am comfortable. I wear what I think looks cool.
I really don't give a fvck what people think of me. If I was trying to impress
people I'd be wearing a fvcking suit, man!


Suit is to blend in. The dress you wearing is to impress and get attention. You are an attention *****.

Trust me I am nobody to give you advice, I ended up in a relationship that ended during holidays, I'm in a cold and lonely basement, all alone. But I see that with what you have you can only attract the type of people that will bring you to a cold and lonely basement, and hurt you.

There is no you, it's your ego masturbating, you are lying to yourself.

I'm gathering things of my ex right now. She's with another man, that she picked up from the street via auto stop, and believe me that's good, because alternative is she dies. I have to gather her stuff, buy her ticket, and send her to her parents and her baby. You know how not easy it is? It's an internal turmoil, like something crawled into you, and eating you from the inside. And that's not as bad as I don't FEEL ANYTHING. I don't feel like going out there, finding someone. I don't want to work. I've lost motivation and mojo and everything else.

You are bound to end up like me.

Stop attention whoring, and find yourself, and improve yourself, and get a quality woman which is not going end up hurting you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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