"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hey, new guy here

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hey guys, im been here for a month or so, just reading up on ****.

decided to post now.

my situation:

k, im a AFC atm, but want to become a don. now i know I have game, when i go out to bars, get a few(2 or 3) drinks in me and i can approach any chick in the bar and start up a convo. getting numbers isn't hard for me. now what my issue is, and i have addressed it, is i just can't seem to pick my balls up and approach women in public or just during the normal day. now that I've stopped drinking, started my new work-out routine to lose all my weight i know ill have issues approaching women in bars so i don't want to depend on the help of alcohol, but besides that i want to be able to approach em in the public. now im not dumb founded, ive had circumstances where chicks get on to the bus and show me signs(putting on makeup then flinging hair, **** like that, mad kino, flirting) and i could be sitting there, but can't even sum up the courage to say even "hi". its pissing me off. so any tips on what i could do to step my game up and just say hi, or even strike up a convo without the intentions of getting a number?

that is all. thank you
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you're that nervous, consider following the DJ Bible here on the site - it's the best free course I've ever seen that works towards getting you massively approaching girls.

In my opinion though, life is more than approaching women, and so you should also work to develop your personal life - really dive into your hobbies and interests, and essentially take on the attitude that a second wasted is a second lost forever. Fill yourself with life and you'll be making yourself an attractive person.

And let us know your field reports!
 

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thanks alot man. yeah imma look in to the dj bible. read up on it.

don't get me wrong, im not one of those guys who base there lives on this ****. ive got better things to do then worry about women. i got my own stuff to do.

and yeah i def gotta start posting and replying more.

thanks for the reply man.
 

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brandnew said:
now i know I have game, when i go out to bars, get a few(2 or 3) drinks in me and i can approach any chick in the bar and start up a convo.
Being drunk is not having "game".

getting numbers isn't hard for me. now what my issue is, and i have addressed it, is i just can't seem to pick my balls up and approach women in public or just during the normal day.
Because all your "confidence" at bars at night is coming from the alcohol.

i don't want to depend on the help of alcohol,
Good to hear.

so any tips on what i could do to step my game up and just say hi, or even strike up a convo without the intentions of getting a number?
Practice. Go out and you honestly just have to force yourself to make the first move. It'll get easier over time. You just have to keep pushing your boundaries.
 
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