"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey let me tell you why I hate facebook

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what up my brothers! long time no post.

I wanna tell you why I hate facebook.

Is it an IOI?
girls liking your status: IOI?
girls commenting on your pics: IOI? social proof? trigger the ****in anti slut defense?
posting social proof pics of you and random hoes: DHV or trigger the ASL?
girls adding you as a facebook friend after you meet one time: IOI?
adding a girl that you meet: DLV?
neghitting on facebook: cool or lame?
facebook gaming in general? lame?

facebook is too ****ing confusing bro

I find that asking if a girl is on facebook is less invasive than asking for a number, and a lot cooler than email
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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powpow said:
what up my brothers! long time no post.

I wanna tell you why I hate facebook.

Is it an IOI?
girls liking your status: IOI?
girls commenting on your pics: IOI? social proof? trigger the ****in anti slut defense?
posting social proof pics of you and random hoes: DHV or trigger the ASL?
girls adding you as a facebook friend after you meet one time: IOI?
adding a girl that you meet: DLV?
neghitting on facebook: cool or lame?
facebook gaming in general? lame?

facebook is too ****ing confusing bro

I find that asking if a girl is on facebook is less invasive than asking for a number, and a lot cooler than email
NO.

By adding her on facebook you create many potential problems like taking away all the mistery about you or worse show your weak spot.
But even more you allow her friends and social circle to see you,judge you and possibly ****block you, I can tell you cause I made the same mistake in past, even more when you get her fb but she then dont add you.

Go for the number mate, if a girl is unwilling to give you her phone number do you really think she has that minimum interest necessary for a real date?

And regarding you questions, keep in mind that their board is their attention wh0ring real where the more people write the more they are happy and proud, many girls who dont pick up the phone for you will be more than glad to give you long detailed answers on fb to fuel the flow in their boards.

Even when they put a like in your stuff, a possible reason is because they expect a like in return as if that was currency...validation currency in fact.
Some even put like on your stuff just to have you be grateful and check and comment their board so no, that stuff is not a sure gauge.

Get the number and get the date, no bvllsh1t!
 

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Facebook is lame. Only contact you need from a girl is her number.

Being her fb friend eliminates any and all mystery you had/pretended to have. Her and her friends will be judging you. It's not worth it.

every girl i met has responded positively when they ask if i have facebook and i say no. suddenly i'm different than most men they know just because of that one minor detail. i also get more calls/texts from girls because they know that's the only way to reach me. they're more apt to meet me in person because they cant log into facebook and check out my pics and comment my page in order to get their mister D fix. if you want your fix, we have to meet in person.
 

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yeah thats why I got my privacy on lockdown. only see my mobile uploads and status, so I can control what people see of me.

good insight people
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MisterD said:
Being her fb friend eliminates any and all mystery you had/pretended to have. Her and her friends will be judging you. It's not worth it.
It can work for you though if you're already in with many of her friends, but that's assuming that you met her through them and that they speak well of you rather than being "that jerk that somehow got on everyone's list but no one wants to be the first to delete him."

Nor do you have to post everything and nothing on your profile. You can keep it pretty spartan and maintain some mystery.
 

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Remove facebook NOW. Get a girl's number, never add her on facebook. Don't let her figure out everything about you, your pics, activities, etc.
 

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Zerro said:
It can work for you though if you're already in with many of her friends, but that's assuming that you met her through them and that they speak well of you rather than being "that jerk that somehow got on everyone's list but no one wants to be the first to delete him."

Nor do you have to post everything and nothing on your profile. You can keep it pretty spartan and maintain some mystery.
that's true. i'm just very, very, VERY big on image. i only show a woman what i want her to see. i come across as this mysterious, charming, one of a kind type of guy. but when i hang with my friends, i'm a regular dude. if both my friends and girls i chase have my facebook, the mysterious side of me dies. she'll see that for the most part i'm just a regular guy. and i don't want that.
 

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that's true. i'm just very, very, VERY big on image. i only show a woman what i want her to see. i come across as this mysterious, charming, one of a kind type of guy. but when i hang with my friends, i'm a regular dude. if both my friends and girls i chase have my facebook, the mysterious side of me dies. she'll see that for the most part i'm just a regular guy. and i don't want that.
It goes both ways, I've had occasions where I decided not to waste any further time on a chick after seeing her profile and what sorts of bull**** she gets up to. While a guy may restrict parts of his profile to only his closest friends and family a chick tends to let all of her dirty laundry air out.
 

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NO.

By adding her on facebook you create many potential problems like taking away all the mistery about you or worse show your weak spot.
You hit the spot right there. :yes:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fvck searching for these IOI's.. Seriously. If you want the girl, ask her out. Fvck all that pick up artist bullsh1t.

If a girl is talking to me and I'm not "friends" with her all ready, and it's not a professional interaction.. I take that as an IOI. Stop waiting for her to make the move and do it yourself.
 

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Facebook is for friends and family only. Dont add women you are gaming on Facebook.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Fvck searching for these IOI's.. Seriously. If you want the girl, ask her out. Fvck all that pick up artist bullsh1t.
"IOI"s aren't much reliable anyway, a girl can be sending them out only to shoot you down anyway as she was just trolling for attention. Indicators of Disinterest are the only ones that can be relied upon.
 

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Zerro said:
It goes both ways, I've had occasions where I decided not to waste any further time on a chick after seeing her profile and what sorts of bull**** she gets up to. While a guy may restrict parts of his profile to only his closest friends and family a chick tends to let all of her dirty laundry air out.
yup, been there too. that's another problem. i remember having facebook back in my afc orbiter days and getting upset everytime a chick added some new dude to her facebook. or the days when i would leave a comment or send her a message and then a few hours later get a notice that she's playing farmville or some other weak **** so i know she was on her page and got my message.

stuff like that used to irk me but i'm over it. out of sight, out of mind. i don't know how many dudes she has on facebook, she doesn't know how many chicks i have in my phonebook.
 

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Never been on facebook. Never fancied it.

It's an like a free open book on you.... Its a platform to seek attention, broadcast your dull opinions and it makes you too bloody random.

Should be limited to girls alone.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yup, been there too. that's another problem. i remember having facebook back in my afc orbiter days and getting upset everytime a chick added some new dude to her facebook. or the days when i would leave a comment or send her a message and then a few hours later get a notice that she's playing farmville or some other weak **** so i know she was on her page and got my message.

stuff like that used to irk me but i'm over it. out of sight, out of mind. i don't know how many dudes she has on facebook, she doesn't know how many chicks i have in my phonebook.
Nothing confirms AW status quite like a Facebook account.

Anyhow, I don't care how many orbiters she may have. I just make sure to be the guy who isn't clicking "like" on what they're all praising, especially stupid photos taken in the mirror and what not. Be the guy who isn't easily impressed by her antics and hand out compliments only as an occasional treat.
 

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Nothing confirms AW status quite like a Facebook account.

Anyhow, I don't care how many orbiters she may have. I just make sure to be the guy who isn't clicking "like" on what they're all praising, especially stupid photos taken in the mirror and what not. Be the guy who isn't easily impressed by her antics and hand out compliments only as an occasional treat.
Yeah. I wonder how active chicks would be on facebook if friends lists weren't shown. As in you add friends but it doesn't tell you, and those who visit your page, how many "friends" you actually have. Facebook only feeds the beast. That's all it does. Guys who leave one afc comment after the other, liking pictures, all of which doesn't generate a response from the chick. It's sad stuff
 

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Depends on how you use facebook - don't always agree with the concept of not adding a chick onto facebook until you have banged her, since if you use it right can be a good way to spike interest, and its also important to be open to opportunities as they arise.

If I followed all the "facebook is bad for with chicks" school of thought, I wouldn't have:

* Lured a 21 yo girl who had a boyfriend (and her friend) I met for the second time at a bar back to my place using solely facebook messaging (shagged the chick with a bf, narrowly missed out on a 3some with her friend);

* Or a couple of random chicks (one was 23, other 40) who added me on facebook and I messaged them since i got the sense they were keen, and got their numbers, and later shagged them.

Keep your options open lads!
 

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powpow said:
facebook is too ****ing confusing bro
Aren't you an mma fighter? All you have to do is put up pics of yourself fighting. Then all the trailer park b!tches will be hot for you. Just like cops talk about 'badge wh0res' who are attracted to them just because of the uniform, there are no shortage of mma wh0res, either.

If a girl sends you a friend request, comments on your pictures, or initiates chat conversations with you, then that is as directly as they will ever ask you to have sex with them. I know for a fact that any woman who does these things on my page wants to have sex with me very badly, and my evidence for this is that they are almost always fat and homely-looking. :D

The actual hot girls will do things like approve the friend request that you sent them. That means that they might do you. There's no easier "shelf" than a facebook friends list upon which to park dozens of reserve men. I don't even care that I am relegated to a shelf, because all I've got invested is the two seconds it took to send the friend request.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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