There's this really cute girl in my english class who sits a row in front of me. Shes got guys on every side of her talking to her, thats how hot she is. A few days ago she asked me if I was in another class with her. I said which one, i knew but i wanted to see if she even cared I existed. So she said the correct class ( somehow spotted me out of 250 people in the class in a huge auditorium). well this morning i had music class (the other class she mentioned) and i saw her outside the door with a friend. she looked at me as i passed by and i quietly said hey while looking in her eyes and kept walking. during class i quickly glanced over a few times and caught her looking in my direction. i sit in the same spot every time. what do u guys think? we havent really exchanged words outside of class and spoken only a little within. Do u think theres any signals i should pick up? Or look for? as she walked past me she touched her hair but i dont know if thats coincidence or not. thanks for the help
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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things like touching her hair mean ****..
thats keyboard jockey talk..
"when she touches her hair she likes you.."
actually means, i'm a keyboard jockey, who's scared to approach, this girl DIDN'T touch her hair, so i won't approach..
the fact that she spotted you out of the 250 odd people, and spoke to you about it atleast suggests she finds you attractive and would like to meet you.
now its up to you to create value in yourself, and make her want you.
i'd love to give advice on that, but picking up in class is something i've never done, or even really tried to do.
thats keyboard jockey talk..
"when she touches her hair she likes you.."
actually means, i'm a keyboard jockey, who's scared to approach, this girl DIDN'T touch her hair, so i won't approach..
the fact that she spotted you out of the 250 odd people, and spoke to you about it atleast suggests she finds you attractive and would like to meet you.
now its up to you to create value in yourself, and make her want you.
i'd love to give advice on that, but picking up in class is something i've never done, or even really tried to do.
Microphone Fiend
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meh...i disagree with wut u said in the other post quest, flicking hair is a well known thing women do when they're attracted. Maybe not in this situation, but in the thread you closed. It is like peacocks who show their feathers and stuff mating season.
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I agree, all that body lang stuff is worthless, if you do not have the balls to approach. I would talk to her.
the other thread is closed? ah well..
i'm happy to discuss this further..
personnally i have never even noticed if a girl flicked her hair when i've approached her. i cannot remember it happening once, but i can't rememebr them not doing it either.. what i do know is, after i begin speaking to them, they will talk back warmly to me, or they will cut things short. probably 85% they talk warmly to me. if i talk well to them, i'll normally kiss them. (drinking environment - mainly clubs)
thats all the indicators i need, warm conversation.
"wanted to see if she even cared i existed."
Jlr, lift your self worth and don't worry if she cares or not. You especially can't concern yourself with these particular thoughts of a complete stranger who barely has anything to do with you.
I believe you should follow this girl up. Better than having regrets later. So pysch up cos next time u see her you're going to tell her the two of you will have drinks / coffee / listen to music after class next thursday or whenever.
Jlr, lift your self worth and don't worry if she cares or not. You especially can't concern yourself with these particular thoughts of a complete stranger who barely has anything to do with you.
I believe you should follow this girl up. Better than having regrets later. So pysch up cos next time u see her you're going to tell her the two of you will have drinks / coffee / listen to music after class next thursday or whenever.
Did she talk about her new boyfriend to YOU?
If she directed the conversation to you, she was simply trying to sell herself to you. Show that she has worth.
In that case, it would be a positive signal and you should not abandon ship yet.
If she directed the conversation to you, she was simply trying to sell herself to you. Show that she has worth.
In that case, it would be a positive signal and you should not abandon ship yet.
check_mate_kid_uk
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well she may have liked you, this shows that sometimes its best to just make a move, if you made a move instead of posting maybe you would have got her and if she rejected you, you would probably still be feeling better then knowing you may have just missed a good chance!
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Im just saying body language can give away feelings... When you say they talk warmly to you, do you just mean in a nice voice, or do you mean, facing you, smiling a little, making Eye contact, etc? Body language cues are everywhere, just a matter of if you see them. I guess it isn't something to focus on entirely as a new person to the scene, but to say paying attention to them is KJ'ish is far-fetched at the least
i don't know what KJish is?
talking warmly i mean like, they want a conversation. included with that comes good body language, as u said, facing you, smiling when appropriately etc.
and i agree 100% about body language being IOI and all that. but flicking there hair when u look at them? come on. smiling when you look at them. yes.
Microphone Fiend
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by KJ i meant Keyboard Jockey-ish I made it up, lol
Maybe not every time a gurl flicks her hair, but if she is like trying to get her hair so it dangles of her eyes seductively or preening herself to look more attractive, or what have you. The body gives away the subconcious. She might not even know she's attractive to you, but she can do these things.
KInda off topic but,
With me nowadays, I got these long corriders in my uni with only like 4-5 people in them most times. So walking down the hallways you get to make EC with a one woman for extended periods of time. Once or twice in the beginning when I saw an attractive female I jingled something in my pocket if I got nervous or rub my eyes. Strangely enough I used to yawn too. Now whenever Im in the hallway and I make Ec or think a self concious thought I yawn automatically. Kinda like I conditoned myself for the reaction to the situation. I guess that kinda has to do with SS and the likes in a way, forcing yourself to do something because of repetition
Maybe not every time a gurl flicks her hair, but if she is like trying to get her hair so it dangles of her eyes seductively or preening herself to look more attractive, or what have you. The body gives away the subconcious. She might not even know she's attractive to you, but she can do these things.
KInda off topic but,
With me nowadays, I got these long corriders in my uni with only like 4-5 people in them most times. So walking down the hallways you get to make EC with a one woman for extended periods of time. Once or twice in the beginning when I saw an attractive female I jingled something in my pocket if I got nervous or rub my eyes. Strangely enough I used to yawn too. Now whenever Im in the hallway and I make Ec or think a self concious thought I yawn automatically. Kinda like I conditoned myself for the reaction to the situation. I guess that kinda has to do with SS and the likes in a way, forcing yourself to do something because of repetition