Hey. Well, I've been having a little problem a girl I like at school. I find whenever I come close to her, I kinda starting getting embarassed and end up not speaking, when I really want to. It's like the words are on my tongue, ready to roll out, but it just sticks. It isn't the first time I've asked a girl out, though. I just find it hard to approach her and truely find out if she likes me or not. I just have this feeling every morning that when I wake up, I want to get to know this girl a bit better...but I have this fear of being rejected. I know, I've heard people say "there's plenty of fish in the sea" and all, but rejection affects you for a while, it doesn't go away over night...not with me, anyway. Unless I can get rid of my fear of rejection, I don't know how I'm gonna build enough confidence to actually ask her out. Can someone maybe please give me a little advice? I'd appreciate it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hey...I need a little help, please
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I got a thought. . . Lets NOT read the DJ bible and just hope someone tells me the answer? oh you already tried that and it didn't work, hmmm, lets see, lets read the DJ Bible then...
sorry, i can't help myself. everyone gets these witty read teh bible comments in, i always find myself to late to pop one in.
sorry, i can't help myself. everyone gets these witty read teh bible comments in, i always find myself to late to pop one in.
Hey, sorry, but I did...it's helped ALOT, but it's just kinda difficult to do in person, because you aren't sure of how she's gonna act. I'm a "mosher" or "heavy metal head-banging psychopath", and so is this girl that I'm after...but it's difficult to tell between if I should do it like normal, or be slightly different. I'm not sure if she's going to react the way I would like her to if I ask her to go out on a date.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Dude. As long as you pedestal here you're never gonna get close. Luckily you can get this advice right here. It took me five years to figure that one out on my own
. Look here's what I did. Find every thing about the girl you hate, imagine things about her(even if thier not true) that disgust you. This should help you lower her to your level in your mind. Then approach. Sencond.
3 SENCOND RULE
Approach her and start talking before your brain has time to realize who it is. Make up a line to ask her.
"Sup. What U doing"
You both have heavy metal in common relate to that
"Hey I like your pointy hair"
Speak without thinking. DJings bout being a man. Men don't think before they speak. Say the first thing that comes to mind. THen after she talks back ask open ended questions.
Seriously bring her off the pedestal. Ur not going anywhere until you do. ALso ODnt mix love wit lust.
Hope I helped. Cause nobody else round here thinks so
Added:OH yeh and if you don't tak to her now. The want to talk to her will build every day until it drives you into a suicidal insanity. Not kiddin. Its how the brain works. Liek if you skip a question on a test you'll keep on going back to it cause it bothers you you couldn't figure it out. THen you get both questions wrong because time runs out. Its really hard to get over it if you let it lingur. If you get rejected now its better than waiting five years till Loving hers so deeply imbeded in your brain its almost impossible to get it out. TALK TO HER NOW. GET OFF THIS SITE AND GO CALL IM OR WHATEVER HER.
And report back
. Look here's what I did. Find every thing about the girl you hate, imagine things about her(even if thier not true) that disgust you. This should help you lower her to your level in your mind. Then approach. Sencond.3 SENCOND RULE
Approach her and start talking before your brain has time to realize who it is. Make up a line to ask her.
"Sup. What U doing"
You both have heavy metal in common relate to that
"Hey I like your pointy hair"
Speak without thinking. DJings bout being a man. Men don't think before they speak. Say the first thing that comes to mind. THen after she talks back ask open ended questions.
Seriously bring her off the pedestal. Ur not going anywhere until you do. ALso ODnt mix love wit lust.
Hope I helped. Cause nobody else round here thinks so
Added:OH yeh and if you don't tak to her now. The want to talk to her will build every day until it drives you into a suicidal insanity. Not kiddin. Its how the brain works. Liek if you skip a question on a test you'll keep on going back to it cause it bothers you you couldn't figure it out. THen you get both questions wrong because time runs out. Its really hard to get over it if you let it lingur. If you get rejected now its better than waiting five years till Loving hers so deeply imbeded in your brain its almost impossible to get it out. TALK TO HER NOW. GET OFF THIS SITE AND GO CALL IM OR WHATEVER HER.
And report back
Think of it like this and you shouldn't have a problem. If she rejects you, she wasn't good enough for you any way. It doesn't mean you two still can't be friends.
Trying to remember this good quote.... ah yes... " Say what you want. For those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
If rejected, just move on. Theres always another girl or 2. (lol sorry but it's true)
You'll be fine.
Trying to remember this good quote.... ah yes... " Say what you want. For those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
If rejected, just move on. Theres always another girl or 2. (lol sorry but it's true)
You'll be fine.