Hey, Here's A Real Question

[DonJuanForever]

Okay, kind of a weird question, but here goes.
I have the ability to go out and get women attracted to me, but I notice that majority of the time when I do it, I am not being myself, which is usually very joking, kind of weird, and crazy guy. However, I find myself being more cool and seductive which is cool and all but, its not really me.

Dont kid me, I am not imiating anybody, its just a way I act naturally and it usually attracts more women to me than when I am being more of myself and lose and kind of crazy acting. When I have attracted women to me being more of myself, I find that they are not really the 8's or 9's. But let me get in that seductive cool shyt, and the 8's and 9's start to talk about how hot I am.

And the thing is, most of the times when I am talking to them in this seductive shyt I do, I am lying to them. I mean, I have buddies, but not the close-close type, you know what I mean? I mean the buddies I have I dont really consider people that would have my back in an altercation, so thats why I dont really call them buddies. I honestly, would go to the clubs alone, and be the guy that the women are drawn to in there when I am doing this seductive mood stuff.

Now dont kid me, this stuff is fun but I dont feel it has any love or feeling in it. What I mean is, whats the point of fvckin all or majority of women if I cant be myself around them? And even with my buddy situation, hell, I dont have any buddies who would really have my back in an altercation, when I am the life of the party I seem to get a lot of "buddies" but it seems like they are just waitin for me to mess up so they can get some pvssy. To me, I value friendship over pvssy, I mean pvssy is not that serioius! But these buddies of mine just seem to be so pvssy-whipped that they would sell their soul to the devil for it, fvck that shyt!

So, I guess I am gambling. I dont have problems getting women, its just that I am tired of making them horny and satisfied with my "seductive self" but I cant really find a 8 or 9 that I can be myself, which is kind of crazy and goofy around. I mean, does anyone feel me on this? And these "buddies" on my god, they just all seem to want some pvssy so bad it fvckin drives me crazy.

 

[DonJuanForever]

And heres another thing. I was just reading I Only Live Once's current post on what separates guys who are always succeeding with women from those that dont, and charm/so suave and social proof/large social circle with the top ones. See this is what I am talking about.

That seductive shyt is the charm/so suave stuff that I naturally start doing and they all seem to like it, matter of fact, honestly, the whole club seems to like it as I seem to be getting a lot of guys who are also trying to be "buddies" with me and women are trying to get in bed with me.

But on I Only Live Once's post, the ****y funny and humor part got a zero, and its funny because guess what THAT IS WHO I REALLY AM. I am more like that goofy, joke telling, crazy, and wild guy over the cool and suave guy. I would go to the clubs and be the crazy guy and my success rate would not be so high, I would feel a little down but I also say hey, I had fun!

Then I would become this suave guy, go back, and the same women that rejected me now think I am some Usher motafvcka, and all of a sudden I am so fvckin hot in shyt. So I got the women's attention, yeah....but did I really have fun, hell to the fvck no.

thats why I am starting to get this deep feeling that women are just fake and I am really starting to not like them as much because I am getting disappointed. I feel, why cant you just like me for who I am? Why do I have to be suave in shyt?

 

[thederekeffect1]

Go ahead and be yourself, dude. All that matters is that you're having fun.

 

[Brian20o2]

Go ahead and be yourself, dude. All that matters is that you're having fun.

Amen. Being yourself should bring more happiess than any girl. And if being yourself isnt fun maybe you should look at who you are and compare that to who you want to be.

 

[S1NN3R]

Being seductive and such around girls doesn't automatically mean you aren't being yourself, just that you're exploring a different part of yourself around them than you normally do. There's nothing false about projecting a different side of yourself to people. It's just part of the game. When you're around your boss you might be more restrained and professional, it doesn't mean you're lying to him with your actions, you're just allowing yourself to act in a manner that's most conducive to progressing your situation. Once you become friendly with your boss or co-workers, you probably open up more than during initial contact.

With girls you can do the same thing. Act how you need to to get them interested. If thing progress beyond there and you become friends or begin a relationship, you will just naturally begin to show your regular social self.

Rather than worry about whether or not you're being false by acting differently, you should concentrate on how you can have fun being seductive.

I personally find just being the dark, mysterious, seductive guy incredibly enjoyable.

 

[DonJuanForever]

Awesome, guys thanks, sinner I might need you for a mentor, lol. Yeah you know what, I am a independent contracter in sales so I really work for myself and I do notice that, when I interact with my trainers and clients, I do act a little differently....

That post was really the eye-opener. I was also reading the social status post over there by everward i believe his name is, and there was some great stuff there. I guess, after judgin my current list of women to my current list of newly gotten women, i saw that I was being more of myself around a certain group than the other. This is probably what I needed to hear. Thanks

 

[Wyldfire]

Hmmm...you have to be more specific about the behavior you exhibit when you are being yourself and then when you aren't. It's hard to have much to say in the way of advice if you don't give more information.

 

[Jariel]

Amen. Being yourself should bring more happiess than any girl. And if being yourself isnt fun maybe you should look at who you are and compare that to who you want to be.

Nicely said. I used to have this same dilemma. I was a nervous wreck everytime I was around a woman I liked, so I'd fire myself up beforehand and get into my "game state". I'd watch videos of my role models, play music and keep running affirmations through my head.

The funny thing is, an hour into my night I'd forgotten all this crap and was back to being myself, getting nervous nerves and not knowing what to say, and feeling even more stressed because I was trying to be perfect.

You will ALWAYS have to fall back on your natural personality, so this is why it is essential that you get yourself in order rather than trying to hide your flaws or fake around them. This is one of the reasons many great PUAs have problems dating or holding down relationships...or even friendships!

There's that old saying that if you can't accept yourself, then nobody else will. So what Derek and Brian said is good advice in my opinion.

 

[Burningblue]

You will ALWAYS have to fall back on your natural personality, so this is why it is essential that you get yourself in order rather than trying to hide your flaws or fake around them. This is one of the reasons many great PUAs have problems dating or holding down relationships...or even friendships!

There's that old saying that if you can't accept yourself, then nobody else will. So what Derek and Brian said is good advice in my opinion.

This is some really GREAT advice. It's seems to me that having "yourself in order" is the foundation. Without that, failure is certain no matter how hard a person tries.