"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey guys, need some oneitis pep talk!

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Well like the thread title says, I became ILL with the dreaded oneitis recently for the first time since maybe 2 years ago. It sucks but I'm definitely getting over this girl and have plans with a different girl this week.

Just wondering if anyone can direct me to some motivational material that can help me open my mind up and get me thinking positively again. I've been making progress, but I just want this girl OFF THE RADAR. Anything is appreciated, thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Get drunk

bang fatties


No, seriously. Oneitis can take a while, especially if it's for a good reason (because some girls just are better than the most of them, like it or not). Just try to let go of the whole idea of having a chance with her and move on. Easier than it sounds, I know. I've been where you are and it can feel like it tears you apart. I usually started to drink a lot, it worked for me lol.
 
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snowdog said:
Get drunk

bang fatties


No, seriously. Oneitis can take a while, especially if it's for a good reason (because some girls just are better than the most of them, like it or not). Just try to let go of the whole idea of having a chance with her and move on. Easier than it sounds, I know. I've been where you are and it can feel like it tears you apart. I usually started to drink a lot, it worked for me lol.
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Yeah man I've been drinking a lot. Honestly I don't like it, it keeps bringing out the emotional side of this situation when I drink with friends.. From my experiences I hate listening to my friends' girl problems when we're trying to have a good time so I don't want to put the burden on them too.
 
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oneitis with a girl is a b!tch to get rid off once you let yourself catch it.
especially if you see her now and then. all you can really do is not see her, dont talk to her, and see other people. it'll help fade the feelings faster, but they tend to still be there in some weaker controllable form for a long while.
it's not really her you have the oneitis for, it's the little make believe world you made up of how life will be like with her, that's really what you're clinging too. thats the conclusion I've come to with oneitis.
 
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You should get to a point where you don't have "girl problems".

99 problems but a b!tch ain't one.

Basically, if a girl is giving you problems, you either solve it or you ditch her. Then it's DONE. Don't leave it hanging around in the air, then it's a problem. You wanna be done with this girl, then do it. I guarantee you won't give two sh!ts about her once you're hooking up with a better one and there's ALWAYS a better one.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RSanders219 said:
Yeah man I've been drinking a lot. Honestly I don't like it, it keeps bringing out the emotional side of this situation when I drink with friends.. From my experiences I hate listening to my friends' girl problems when we're trying to have a good time so I don't want to put the burden on them too.
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Just watch out you don't take it too far with the drinking.

And be honest with yourself man. Find a way to channel your emotions. Working out or making music are two ways I deal with things. Or just cry like a b1tch when you're alone. I did that a ton of times and every time I did, it felt like I released some of it out of my system. Allow it to happen when you feel like it's the right time, it'll make you feel better. Don't deny **** like this to yourself, it'll only make things worse.

You should get to a point where you don't have "girl problems".

99 problems but a b!tch ain't one.

Basically, if a girl is giving you problems, you either solve it or you ditch her. Then it's DONE. Don't leave it hanging around in the air, then it's a problem. You wanna be done with this girl, then do it. I guarantee you won't give two sh!ts about her once you're hooking up with a better one and there's ALWAYS a better one.
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It isn't always that easy, bro. As much as almost all the tough guys on here like to deny it, guys also have emotions to deal with sometimes. Every now and then there can be a girl that just totally rocks your world, and it really sucks when you get infatuated with her even though it's not possible to hook up with her. And be honest, some girls just are really great and stand out from the rest, for whatever reason. Having a mindset where girls are nothing more than c*m dumpsters isn't healthy and will f*ck you up eventually.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it should be a huge drama, but sometimes it's just not healthy to be completely cold about it. Denying your emotions to yourself is living in a lie and will lead to depression and self-loathing. I've had my share of that and I will tell you it's better to deal with your emotions than to deny them and pretend they aren't there.
 
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