Hesistated again...

[MrConfidence]

Okay so here's the situation, perfect chance to approach Marissa at the end of lunch, but I got nervous. It's like, I knew I could of talked to her, but I was afraid that I was going to screw up, cause I didn't know what to say. It's like I know I can talk to her, but I get nervous because I'm afraid that I'm not going to say the right thing, or she might think I'm boring. In my mind I was thinking up something to approach her with, but then I just dismissed it. So, I want to know, what should I have said in such a situation? End of lunch, the girl is walking alone, and you want to talk to her, but don't know what to say.

 

[The Shocker]

How about "Hi, how's it going?"

 

[MrConfidence]

How about "Hi, how's it going?"

That's what I was thinking about saying, "Hey, Marissa, how's it going" but what if I come off as being like every other guy that's approached her? That's what I'm worried about, that I think that wouldn't work, or I would need something better. After all, I've tried it on girls before, and it's led to nothing but boring conversation. What I need is to get better at finding things to talk about, topics.

 

[asdfghjkl]

Umm, every girl, no wait every person i talk to during the day, i usually say hey or some form of it. Any talking is better than no talking right? of course it is

 

[The Shocker]

That's what I was thinking about saying, "Hey, Marissa, how's it going" but what if I come off as being like every other guy that's approached her? That's what I'm worried about, that I think that wouldn't work, or I would need something better. After all, I've tried it on girls before, and it's led to nothing but boring conversation. What I need is to get better at finding things to talk about, topics.

Words don't matter as much as attitude, tone, and body language. Like I've said before, you can say "what's up" and sound like a creepy douchebag and you can say what's up and sound like a ****ing pimp.

 

[MrConfidence]

Words don't matter as much as attitude, tone, and body language. Like I've said before, you can say "what's up" and sound like a creepy douchebag and you can say what's up and sound like a ****ing pimp.

So if I say it more confidently, that'll better my chances with her?

 

[GaryUranga]

forget about marissa for now, you ****ed yourself over her because you built up a lot of expectation around her, go get more experience then come for marissa

 

[MrConfidence]

forget about marissa for now, you ****ed yourself over her because you built up a lot of expectation around her, go get more experience then come for marissa

Alright I'm cool with that. I guess I should just sit down at random girls lunch tables and talk to them, to get experience, seeing as I don't have a car. But yeah, having more experience would help my confidence, therefore I wouldn't be so nervous. That's really good advice dude, thanks.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Yeah just talking to a random girl can't hurt. It's not like shes going to tell everyone you're wierd for wanting to talk to her.
Prepare yourself for your goal, and practice.

 

[nicenomore]

That's what I was thinking about saying, "Hey, Marissa, how's it going" but what if I come off as being like every other guy that's approached her? That's what I'm worried about, that I think that wouldn't work, or I would need something better. After all, I've tried it on girls before, and it's led to nothing but boring conversation. What I need is to get better at finding things to talk about, topics.

Dude, you are seriously putting a lot of expectation on yourself hoping that the conversation goes perfect. Chuck the thought. Its tough , I know , but try it. Follow the three second rule : As soon as you see a chick want to , hesitate no more than three seconds. Thats it. Whatever you want to say , think of it while you walk towards her. You'll be more spontaneous and natural + your natural game will be better.Remember ,while you will be thinking of what to talk , someone will be talking to her.

As Grand Wizard Alamar rightly said :

Yeah just talking to a random girl can't hurt. It's not like shes going to tell everyone you're wierd for wanting to talk to her.

As Shocker rightly put it :

Words don't matter as much as attitude, tone, and body language

In a scientific study : the importance of various components of communication were found as under:

Body Language : 53%
Voice(Tonality , Pacing etc) : 49%
Actual words spoken : 08%

Hence dont focus on words alone. Other things are important too.

To Grand Wizard Alamar:

Great to know ,you've started to chuck the negative thoughts and finally getting the right attitude.Great going. You'll be a James Bond by the time you reach my age. lol

 

[MrConfidence]

Dude, you are seriously putting a lot of expectation on yourself hoping that the conversation goes perfect. Chuck the thought. Its tough , I know , but try it. Follow the three second rule : As soon as you see a chick want to , hesitate no more than three seconds. Thats it. Whatever you want to say , think of it while you walk towards her. You'll be more spontaneous and natural + your natural game will be better.Remember ,while you will be thinking of what to talk , someone will be talking to her.

As Grand Wizard Alamar rightly said :



As Shocker rightly put it :



In a scientific study : the importance of various components of communication were found as under:

Body Language : 53%
Voice(Tonality , Pacing etc) : 49%
Actual words spoken : 08%

Hence dont focus on words alone. Other things are important too.

To Grand Wizard Alamar:

Great to know ,you've started to chuck the negative thoughts and finally getting the right attitude.Great going. You'll be a James Bond by the time you reach my age. lol

I see, I'll have to consider that Tuesday when school is back. Good Body Language basiccally means eye contact and a smile correct? Also, I think she might have a boyfriend, seeing as there's this one guy I saw her and a friend sitting with earlier.

 

[Lust]

Okay so here's the situation, perfect chance to approach Marissa at the end of lunch, but I got nervous. It's like, I knew I could of talked to her, but I was afraid that I was going to screw up, cause I didn't know what to say. It's like I know I can talk to her, but I get nervous because I'm afraid that I'm not going to say the right thing, or she might think I'm boring. In my mind I was thinking up something to approach her with, but then I just dismissed it. So, I want to know, what should I have said in such a situation? End of lunch, the girl is walking alone, and you want to talk to her, but don't know what to say.

Over thinking.

A seriously bad case of it.

Just read a few canned lines, some stories and off you go.

 

[nicenomore]

I see, I'll have to consider that Tuesday when school is back. Good Body Language basiccally means eye contact and a smile correct? Also, I think she might have a boyfriend, seeing as there's this one guy I saw her and a friend sitting with earlier.

Dude, you have two questions: First about body language, the next about boyfriends. I'll answer both separately for you.


Body language is more than eye contact and smile .Its the total way you carry yourself. For example: While talking to people you don’t like generally you put your hand across your chest. That is an example of using an arm as a defense position, or for example, while talking to a person you like always notice your feet (or at least one) is pointed in the direction of the girl you're interested. Many things such as these make body language. Here's another one: when you see someone you like you raise your eyebrows for a flash of a second instinctively. That’s the way you communicate interest. Things like these make up body language.

For more google up "body language" + "Allan Pease”: that should get you started.


On to your next query, boyfriends:

Open up the set, or incase if she’s alone ask her something like "hey I saw you with the other (describe him) guy. How do you know him?" something like that. The answer will be enough.

Or if you are opening them together just ask in between the conversation" How do you guys know each other?" Again answer is enough.

 

[The Shocker]

Never assume about the bf. I'll give you an example. Last summer I was taking this class, and there was this hot chick. I thought she had a bf, she kept hugging this guy in another class and talking to him during the breaks. Anyway, I ended up getting her number. Even then I was hesitant to call for about a month, just talked to her online. Eventually I asked her out and the date went well. When I was leaving, she actually asked why I hadn't called sooner. I made up some bs excuse, but the real reason was that I had thought that she had a bf, and that the bf actually mattered.

 

[nicenomore]

Never assume about the bf. I'll

Absolutely true.

Got this from Mystery : If a girl mentions she has a boyfriend , it could also mean you displayed a lot of interest too fast. Slow down if you feel this is the case.
Another thing I read online was Tyler Durdens Boyfriend smashing routine. Check it out here:

http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=96

PS , I havent got much success with this , but when a chick mentions she has a boyfriend , I usually ask , when do you plan to marry him? This is high School and college , so most girls are very serious , have plans etc. It may work for older girls though. I'll check that out and let you know. If any of you guys try it do let me know.