Here's one for you to figure out

[Tyler]

Wow, am I glad for this forum...need some advice on how to play this situation.

My ex (who is now just a friend) and I have been sleeping together casually for a while now. We have discussed finding another woman to share, but nothing has really come of it...yet. Tonight I was talking to another girl who is into me, and we somehow got onto the topic of girls with other girls. She proceeded to tell me about some hardcore experiences she's had with the same sex. As far as I know, both of these girls are coming to a party I'm having in a week.

The question: Is there anything in particular that you would do or wouldn't do to produce the desired outcome, or do you just keep quiet, let it flow, and see what happens?

 

[uniassign]

You will have to sleep with this new girl first. Then bring up the 3some thing

 

[uniassign]

You will have to sleep with this new girl first. Then bring up the 3some thing

 

[uniassign]

You will have to sleep with this new girl first. Then bring up the 3some thing

 

[Tyler]

Originally posted by uniassign
You will have to sleep with this new girl first. Then bring up the 3some thing

Here's my thought on that. If we start sleeping together, and if they're both coming to the same place and it DOESN'T work out for whatever reason, it's going to be quite difficult to sort out who gets to stay. I mean, I'd be happy to just let them sort it out themselves I suppose, but...

 

[drZaius09]

How old are the girls in question? What kind of party is this and what kind of people are going to be there (more dykes)? Am I invited?

I had an ex that suggested the same thing once. Then when I started taking the steps to make it happen, she started back-pedaling. God, what a lunatic she was! I've yet to meet a bi-sexual or lesbian girl who isn't a total nutcase.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Where is this party!?

Dude all you have to do is play it cool during the party. Keep them entertained, then ensure they stay there towards the end. When everyone goes or towards the end, just bring one in the room and tell her to wait you have a surprise. Then go out and get the other girl and say, hey close your eyes I have a surprise for you. Bring her in the room. Close the door and seal the deal.

M.A.C.

 

[b's nuts]

try talking to the girl you are already sleeping with to see if you can get her to come on to the other girl. If this happens you are gold. getting them drunk wouldn't hurt either.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

I like Matt's advice. However, some girls don't like surprises, so just make sure that they'd be cool with being surprised first.

 

[Tyler]

I knew you guys would come through.

Dr Zaius:
a) one is 27, the other is 19
b) are you really in MA? send me a PM!
c) you're completely right about the possibility of a flake-out. only one way to find out though.

Matt:
Interesting idea. I think it might be a little TOO forward, but maybe I can use it.

B's:
a) You're exactly right...I was thinking about warning the one ahead of time. It would give me the benefits of having an ally, and I could handle any potential problems with her ahead of time.
b) As far as getting drunk goes, damn right!!

Chewy:
I definitely think it's worth consideration, but you're right...a surprise might have the opposite of the intended effect.