"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Here's one for you to decifer
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She was literally inches from my face. That was the opportunity. I probably COULD have escalated in bed, but it would have been in the bag if I went for the kiss.ketostix said:I'll tell you what I think. I think whenever you get in another situation like the time you were alone together and slept in her bed, you could escalate, start kissing her and I bet you she'll get turned on and snap into a sexual freak lol. Well I think she'll fvck you anyway.
Regardless of how we end up in bed together in the future, one way or the other I'm gonna have my answer.
Oh, she will be there, pretty sure of that. All I had to say was "it's a heaven and hell party.....heaven upstairs and hell downstairs".I think this party is going to be interesting if she shows up. You got to post on the informative and juicy details.
I kid you not, this is going to be the party of parties. The guy that's throwing the party is the center of the bulk of my social network, so all of the women I have partied with in the past year or two will be there. There will probably be a good half dozen different women there who I have either had sex with or at least messed around with in the past. I told the AW to bring some more ladies, she said no prob, so I'm hoping she brings her best friend (hot lebanese girl) and the Russian chick I met a few weeks ago.
This is going to be even better than MY parties cause the same people will be there (and then some) and I don't have to play host. And half the chicks that are gonna be there like girls as well as guys.
17 days and counting.....
Looking forward to the day when I reach your level of success....Bragging about hot party that I'm not a part of...
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So it sounds like you were in the friends zone, and now....STR8UP said:She's the 37 yr old AW who i have known for about 8 years.
We have flirted the whole time I've known her. I did go out with her, "date" type stuff a couple of times in the beginning, but I quickly wrote her off as an AW and told myself that I would never pursue any kind of sexual relationship with her despite the fact that she is attractive.
you've gotten out of it?STR8UP said:Over the past six months or so I have held to my vow of not pursuing her, but the sexual tension between us has escalated nonetheless, to the point where we're making out in a club and she's grabbing my d!ck when I'm grinding on her ass.
i probably would have fukked her by now since it's pretty much a no brainer...no effort involved, but the opportunity just hasn't presented itself and I'm NOT about to set up any date type sh!t with her just to try to get some pu$$y.
Talked to the AW last night and found out she was going to be downtown.
She tells me she has to meet up with this guy at such n such place, but wants to meet up with me later. Then she says, "But I might have to stay at your place".
I had some other friends over and we went downtown. Got a text from the AW asking if we were going to meet up. A little while later I went to meet up with her, and after I had already left my friends and paid the cover to get into the other place, she tells me she has to go back over to the other bar but she would be back. Kinda pissed me off, but I hung out for 20 minutes or so until they came back. Would have left if it were any longer....
So they came back and hit the ladies room on the way in. A little later I see them standing behind a rail, and I walk up and the first thing the AW says to me is "Hey, come up and see me. I might grab your d!ck again".
I went over to the bar and got a drink, and by that time she was talking to some dude so I went and did my own thing.
Eventually I started to get bored so I went over and told her I was leaving, and I went back to the other bar where the rest of my friends were getting buck wild. Much better there.
So again, references to sleeping at my place, talking about grabbing my package, blah, blah. I'm almost looking forward to getting her into the position where she has to either fukk me or lose the little attention I give her. Who knows when it will happen though cause I'm not going out of my way.
I'm just looking forward to seeing if she really IS nothing but an AW, even when things heat up a bit.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.