I am 48 years old. I have been with probably more than 250 women. I met this girl four months ago and it was truly amazing. We hit it off right away and it was even at a family function where we met, friend of a friend of the family. I am the king of romance, and can put Hallmark to shame being the wordsmith that I am. I crooned and courted her to perfection, her co workers and friends love me Most of the women that I have been with do not get the romantic side of me. So everything started out great, I got to know her friends at work and they said that she was so happy she would even have tears of joy. I later found out that she like many other women had the bad boy syndrome. Guys would totally treat her like **** and she would chase them. I started spending more and more time with her, and I was renting a house, my lease was up soon and it was not really even discussed.... Me moving into her house was pretty much a given. During all of this time sex probably happened once or twice a week, she is a gorgeous girl with a phenomenal body, I am also an attractive guy with a hardbody and keep myself in great shape ....we are the Ken & Barbie type as far as a matching couple. After learning of her bad boy syndrome, I also found out what they put her through, i.e. trying to bring in threesomes, and even one guy taking her to an orgy party. Finding all of this out I wondered why we were having sex maybe once a week, in her nightstand she had books about sex and pleasing a man, rhinestone studded thong underwear and other playful things, that I pretty much never got any of that action. I guess I was looking for answers as to why the guys who treated her like a sex object got laid more than I .... I discovered that she kept pictures of them a few cards. And she knew that I found them. This upset her but she got over it in time. So now we are living together. She is a cat person which I don't mind cats, and throughout our time together I discovered that she likes or prefers sleeping in her own bed, at first I didn't know how I would respond to that, but I don't mind having my own bedroom. I pay half of what it takes to live there. I've shown her more love than she probably has ever seen. And have been more generous with money than any of the other bad boys. In the end, she is pretty much getting more distant. I have done things like not texted her for a whole day and withdrew a bit, this would get a response from her. So if I play bad boy and not pay attention to her she seems to respond. But this is not who I am with her, I don't want to have to play bad boy and treat her like ****, to get the affection that I would like from her. It seems that she is pretty random, just last week for the first time she opened up while she was at work saying that she was horny and it turned into a great sexting conversation one afternoon. I thought that this was going to be a new beginning but when she got home she was tired LOL. So basically I have given you the skinny. I have a friend of hers that I talk to, she said that she is a tough one to crack, but if anyone can it will be me. I don't want to have to play games and use strategy to get where I want to be with her and a relationship. Thoughts ??
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You have the classic "I just want women to like me for who I am. I dont want to change" attitude....
Its not just this girl....all women respond to "bad boy" things. If you dont want to change then why come here seeking advice? If you dont change things you will continue to get exactly what you have been receiving.....sex twice a week with a woman who sees you more as a provisional partner than a sexy alpha male.
Its not "playing games" or "strategies" to alter your mindset. Its called growing as a person. Id look up "the prize mentality" in the DJ Bible and get to work.
Its not just this girl....all women respond to "bad boy" things. If you dont want to change then why come here seeking advice? If you dont change things you will continue to get exactly what you have been receiving.....sex twice a week with a woman who sees you more as a provisional partner than a sexy alpha male.
Its not "playing games" or "strategies" to alter your mindset. Its called growing as a person. Id look up "the prize mentality" in the DJ Bible and get to work.
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I don't like the sound of your position. As has been said, she sees you as a good provider-type whom she'll reward every now and then with some sex, most likely out of obligation more than passionate desire.
Just enough to keep you paying half the rent.
The fact you're living with her and still haven't "cracked her" is a terrible situation to be in.
It means she pretty much knows where you are at all times and has no need to fight for your affections due to the thought that you may be out getting hit on by younger, hotter women.
As for the separate bedrooms, I'm not overly worried by that. In fact, I think there's some merit in it.
Whenever I stay at my girlfriend's place, she's elbowing me half the night to get me stop snoring.
I always feel tired when we spend the night together because of this, so I'm actually thinking about suggesting a "separate rooms arrangement".
Anyway, you're obviously not being satisfied sexually in this relationship. You have to decide if you feel for her enough to put up with it or get back out there pounding randoms.
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I don't like the sound of your position. As has been said, she sees you as a good provider-type whom she'll reward every now and then with some sex, most likely out of obligation more than passionate desire.
Just enough to keep you paying half the rent.
The fact you're living with her and still haven't "cracked her" is a terrible situation to be in.
It means she pretty much knows where you are at all times and has no need to fight for your affections due to the thought that you may be out getting hit on by younger, hotter women.
As for the separate bedrooms, I'm not overly worried by that. In fact, I think there's some merit in it.
Whenever I stay at my girlfriend's place, she's elbowing me half the night to get me stop snoring.
I always feel tired when we spend the night together because of this, so I'm actually thinking about suggesting a "separate rooms arrangement".
Anyway, you're obviously not being satisfied sexually in this relationship. You have to decide if you feel for her enough to put up with it or get back out there pounding randoms.
Thing about it is, she hasn't lived with a guy for 9 years, I'm sure she could have had a "provider" if she wanted that, this is deeper seeded I think. She's veeeeery independent and pretty much had the tough girl attitude I think due to the guys who she was with pretty much just wanted to bang her. I've been in more if the savior to heal all that kind of mode, and I think it backfired on me.... Just seeing if there is an option to make her desire me. Check this, she just texted me and said that her nail appointment changed to another day and for me to remind her, regularly I would have said, ok hun ,,,,, this time I think I will say..... " uhm, I think you should set a reminder on your phone instead..... I'll show you how to do that if ya want " something she will totally unexpected from me, or I could say, babe, I'll pay for yer nails,but you will have to remind yourself and get yerself there
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