"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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This is one of the biggest mistakes that many guys make in my opinion, everyone tucks their shirt in. It amazes me that guys even tuck cheap tee shirts in. I tuck in my shirt when I go to a more formal event like court or if I am going to be speaking in public. If I am wearing a tie or wearing a suit with no tie. Other than these rare situations I never tuck it in, regardless of the shirt I am wearing.
Having said this, fit is also very important. Many including myself have shirts that are too big, guys often wear shirts that are one size too big. Even on shirts that are the correct size where the sleeves are cut makes a huge difference. This is one of the great things about Express Mens/Structure. You will notice that if you have a slim and/or built body the shirts fit you better than you would get at many other stores.
Girls like to see the muscle in your arms so wear a shirt that shows this but doesn’t completely show it off either. Many short sleeve shirts come all the way down to your elbow which is too low for a short sleeve.
Many guys only don't button the top button; I generally leave 2 but not more than 2. I also leave the bottom one undone.
oh and the only time I tuck something in is if im wearing a tie, lol
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I buy mostly shirts that have short short-sleeves to show off my arms (they cut off about halfway up my biceps). I do have a couple collarred short sleeves button up shirts where the sleeves go down to my elbows. Is it gay to roll a short sleeve up a couple times to show off more arm?
Refer to my post on this page for some tips on how to dress...
Some more info:
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For jeans check out: Guess/Diesel/Parasuco
For sneakers: Diesel
About the accessories:
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1 of the necklaces I just bought..
About the glasses: Like someone said before, you can tint your lenses to make them look more stylish. When you buy glasses, make sure you buy a pair which suits your face, very key. Lenses which are tinted grey will go with a lot, however another thing you can try which looks good if you're tanned is matching the tint to your skin tone.
One trick to getting your perscription glasses to look more stylish is to look for a good pair of sunglasses and put in your perscription lenses there instead. This usually only works well if you have a weak perscription.
I got these just today(with a silver frame):
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A few comments -
the gay hairdresser is an interesting idea - I think I will definitely try that.
the long sleeve buttoned shirt - top one or two buttons and bottom button unbuttoned and it MUST fit you right (not too big!)
I still get breakouts on occassion - I may try those self-tanners as a why of camouflaging them a little bit (the tanning beds are only a temporary solution - actually if you burn the skin it actually causes the skin to produce MORE oil which can aggravate breakouts).
I don't do accesories, though. (No rings, no necklaces) - not my style. My style is to look good without trying too hard to look good (besides I find rings and necklaces to be unconfortable). Leave the accesories for the women IMHO.
I will wear a nice watch though (at least it serves a purpose) - shows you have a bit of class.
Out of the whole list I think the two most important are:
Shoes - women just have this thing about a man's shoes.
Good diet/health/go to gym - when you feel good you project a sense of well-being that makes you much more attractive.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Oscar Wilde
Master Don Juan
There seems to be a definite 50-50 split with women regarding body hair on men. I've a very hairy chest & current and exgfs love it. Some don't. I'm not getting waxed! hairy looks good with big pecs too
Good thread.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
1. shoes
having many different kinds of shoes is an awsome way to go.
espically if you see girls more than once. you can bank on girl always noticing your shoes and if you have nice ones its like adding frosting on the cake
2. in general you should dress with different styles. never wear the same kind of shirt 2 nights in a row if possible
keep switching up your style on a daily basis that you arent labeled as a certain type
oh and to the poster, you forgot shoes.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
Oscar Wilde
Master Don Juan
Mind you, I haven't changed my style much to accomodate her, I like lookin sharp
She mentioned getting me a new jacket for my bday - something more casual than my sportscoats
Any ideas on that front guys?"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.