Women are very much a product of their families. Whatever, however their parents marriage is, they want to mimic alot of the facets of their family life. If mom is a stay home mother who is very dependent on daddy, and daddy is very much the breadwinner of the house, by and large, most women will want to be stay at home mothers who are dependent on their husband.
Likewise, if the family is somewhat independent in that the mother has a career, or even wears the wants in the family, the girls will also want to follow suit of that as well. Many bull-headed mothers who become the breadwinner create women who are much the same way as well.
Women/girls are very much a sensitive product of their family life. I don't think that's a far-fetched assumption, is it? Chime in if you think either way.
Now, most of them women, if I worked down the line, were already pre-made and molded into what they will be. Unless tragedy strikes, I've never seen a woman do a 180 degree change in personality. It's as if they're on auto-pilot. And it isn't that they can't, b/c we've all seen/heard the testimonials, especially on various self help programs or new age material, but it's as if their EMOTIONS prevent them from doing so.
Gf's I've had that had dads walk out were very UNSTABLE in relationships and like a ticking time bomb, would eventually nuke the relationship because she assumed I would do the same.
Gf's who's daddies divorced their mommies and didn't treat them very well, ended up being very mistrustful of their bf's. Not that they are bad people, but they tended to be overly jealous or controlling to prevent a similar outcome.
Gf's with very caring and attentive mothers, who demonstrated love toward their father openly, tended to do the same.
Gf's with rough and gruff party mothers tended to be the type you'd see on Girls Gone Wild. (One such girl who's dad abandoned her family and mother remains single and partying, parties with her mom weekly, she just finished getting a boob job, and constantly dates older men (by 10 years or more).
It's never really failed for me to view things. Obviously NOT all people stay in those modes, however, its must more COMMON than UNCOMMON.
Now...the catch 22 being. After women are products of their family, they still want to MIMIC and CONTROL what their family becomes, and want their future family, to be like that, consciously or unconsciously. Sometimes she just knows she wants it like that, other times she does it that way out of programming. However she does it, that becomes her reality. The FISH BOWL she grew up in for 18/21 years is still what she will try to create once again.
But, but, but...
I thought women wanted a MAN TO BE A MAN?
To lead?
To be a BIG TIME BREADWINNER?
To make the DOLLAZ and be a BALLA?
On the one hand, women are products of their family life, and seek to recreate that. They want men to lead, but they want to control HOW the family life goes and often times NEED to live near THEIR relatives when having a family.
How can this be? Has this be examined? Thought about? Am I missing something?
We are VERY pussified today.
You can't have a COMPANY where you WANT a certain GREAT manager working there, but then have the EMPLOYEES and VP calling the shots. The employees and company have to FULLY trust the President. Just like a sports team, you don't second guess the management and/or captain. "Too many chiefs, not enough indians." If men are great at managing resources, then let MEN LEAD. Let them deal with the resources. It isn't that todays man CAN'T...it's that for 18 years he's not had the CHANCE to demonstrate and practice those abilities in society.
Maybe its my analytical mind, but when I hear people speek and watch their actions, it's like I can see all the BS unraveling. It makes no sense.
If you examine television, stories, articles, most of them portray a mother who's overly involved and controlling (ala Everybody Loves Raymond) with a simpfied man. Yet, I've always admired the sports coaches and fathers who retain control and rule with an ironfist. A few of my relatives are this way. A few of them are not.
I went to a cookout over the weekend with my gf, and only a FEW of the men were actually together, talking, bonding, chatting, and have beers. A good many of them were perched up next to their wives or looming over them, standing, arms on the chairs, grabbing them drink after drink, while the ladies talk about the latest decorations, wedding, children, or ongoings of family. All the talk was clean and devoid of any MALENESS. Few incidents of sports were discussed (even though there's plenty to talk about). And when a man would deviate from the larger social pack to grab a beer, or converse with fellow men, he'd be rangled in and guilted ("what's the matter? you don't seem happy? are you miserable?")
I've yet to quite get that family and its males. I spent the brunt of my time downing beers and playing ball with the teenages and kids. Only at the end of the night did I move back into the larger pack, and that's when the mutual social conversation moved away from boring arse feminine crap I didn't care about or know about, to more jovial, fun, and controversial talk.
What has happened to men?
Has it always been this way (aside from watching movies or presuming what it was like) 10,20,30,50,100 years ago?
I don't think it needs to be a VIOLENT reaction, unless men, or people, are at the hilt. There's such a lack of maturity, philosophy and intellect its staggering.
A-Unit
Likewise, if the family is somewhat independent in that the mother has a career, or even wears the wants in the family, the girls will also want to follow suit of that as well. Many bull-headed mothers who become the breadwinner create women who are much the same way as well.
Women/girls are very much a sensitive product of their family life. I don't think that's a far-fetched assumption, is it? Chime in if you think either way.
Now, most of them women, if I worked down the line, were already pre-made and molded into what they will be. Unless tragedy strikes, I've never seen a woman do a 180 degree change in personality. It's as if they're on auto-pilot. And it isn't that they can't, b/c we've all seen/heard the testimonials, especially on various self help programs or new age material, but it's as if their EMOTIONS prevent them from doing so.
Gf's I've had that had dads walk out were very UNSTABLE in relationships and like a ticking time bomb, would eventually nuke the relationship because she assumed I would do the same.
Gf's who's daddies divorced their mommies and didn't treat them very well, ended up being very mistrustful of their bf's. Not that they are bad people, but they tended to be overly jealous or controlling to prevent a similar outcome.
Gf's with very caring and attentive mothers, who demonstrated love toward their father openly, tended to do the same.
Gf's with rough and gruff party mothers tended to be the type you'd see on Girls Gone Wild. (One such girl who's dad abandoned her family and mother remains single and partying, parties with her mom weekly, she just finished getting a boob job, and constantly dates older men (by 10 years or more).
It's never really failed for me to view things. Obviously NOT all people stay in those modes, however, its must more COMMON than UNCOMMON.
Now...the catch 22 being. After women are products of their family, they still want to MIMIC and CONTROL what their family becomes, and want their future family, to be like that, consciously or unconsciously. Sometimes she just knows she wants it like that, other times she does it that way out of programming. However she does it, that becomes her reality. The FISH BOWL she grew up in for 18/21 years is still what she will try to create once again.
But, but, but...
I thought women wanted a MAN TO BE A MAN?
To lead?
To be a BIG TIME BREADWINNER?
To make the DOLLAZ and be a BALLA?
On the one hand, women are products of their family life, and seek to recreate that. They want men to lead, but they want to control HOW the family life goes and often times NEED to live near THEIR relatives when having a family.
How can this be? Has this be examined? Thought about? Am I missing something?
We are VERY pussified today.
You can't have a COMPANY where you WANT a certain GREAT manager working there, but then have the EMPLOYEES and VP calling the shots. The employees and company have to FULLY trust the President. Just like a sports team, you don't second guess the management and/or captain. "Too many chiefs, not enough indians." If men are great at managing resources, then let MEN LEAD. Let them deal with the resources. It isn't that todays man CAN'T...it's that for 18 years he's not had the CHANCE to demonstrate and practice those abilities in society.
Maybe its my analytical mind, but when I hear people speek and watch their actions, it's like I can see all the BS unraveling. It makes no sense.
If you examine television, stories, articles, most of them portray a mother who's overly involved and controlling (ala Everybody Loves Raymond) with a simpfied man. Yet, I've always admired the sports coaches and fathers who retain control and rule with an ironfist. A few of my relatives are this way. A few of them are not.
I went to a cookout over the weekend with my gf, and only a FEW of the men were actually together, talking, bonding, chatting, and have beers. A good many of them were perched up next to their wives or looming over them, standing, arms on the chairs, grabbing them drink after drink, while the ladies talk about the latest decorations, wedding, children, or ongoings of family. All the talk was clean and devoid of any MALENESS. Few incidents of sports were discussed (even though there's plenty to talk about). And when a man would deviate from the larger social pack to grab a beer, or converse with fellow men, he'd be rangled in and guilted ("what's the matter? you don't seem happy? are you miserable?")
I've yet to quite get that family and its males. I spent the brunt of my time downing beers and playing ball with the teenages and kids. Only at the end of the night did I move back into the larger pack, and that's when the mutual social conversation moved away from boring arse feminine crap I didn't care about or know about, to more jovial, fun, and controversial talk.
What has happened to men?
Has it always been this way (aside from watching movies or presuming what it was like) 10,20,30,50,100 years ago?
I don't think it needs to be a VIOLENT reaction, unless men, or people, are at the hilt. There's such a lack of maturity, philosophy and intellect its staggering.
A-Unit
