Here's an obvious tip..

[drf408]

So I have been after this girl for a little bit, a waitress, have been really coward with. I turned it around last week, she agreed to go out with me and everything. However my big mouth blew it. She was telling me about how she is always in the downtown area that her friends are promoters, so I start naming the people I know, and then get a "ugh it figures" kind of laugh from her. She left and said she'd stop back over, never did lol. It is a double standard but I don't blame her for being turned off as its a bit of a turn off when I meet girls who are tied into that social circle. However as a guy I will look past it especially if shes hot and I'm interested, as a woman, it seems you can go from being very interesting to the friend/regular zone at the first thing they hear that they don't like.

I usually know better, to keep things simple and be careful. Also the people i mentioned prob wouldn't have my back and are friends with my ex, terribly small tight circle which is often why people want to meet those outside of it if they are in it. Lesson learned, everything else I did right, wish i just did it sooner

 

[Tiguere]

Anything you say on a date will be used againts you. This is why dinner is such a bad idea. The likely hood you will say something she will use to deny you poon access is huge. It could be anything for example( you hate cats, youre a republican, college dropout)

Take her to a bar/ lounge let her blab and just nudge while making sure she is drinking her alcohol.

TOMMMMMM LEYKISSSSSSS

 

[drf408]

Yep and i did know better, total slip up. Wouldn't even care if it wasn't for the fact that she was one of those rare girls that attracts you more than anyone that comes around maybe just a couple times a year, although you may even see other girls that are hotter if that makes sense.

 

[vatoloco]

Take her to a bar/ lounge let her blab and just nudge while making sure she is drinking her alcohol.

Yep.

 

[drf408]

Ugh, this didn't even make it to a date. This is a waitress I've been after, who from the very first time she saw me flirted her ass off with me. She agreed to go out with, very eagerly, came back to talk some more, that's when I opened my dumb mouth, she said she'd be right back, we stayed about another hour and a half she never came back. I just got back from Easter visiting family, went there last night. WOW..she was cold, shut down, I went to give her the usual exchange, she looked away, it went cold fast, amazing how women are like that. You can be the most interesting guy in the world 1 minute, one thing they don't like comes up and you're just another guy. Terrible, when I left I said by and used her name and she looked at my friend and I equally and barely replied. OUCH. So different, as a guy it would take a lot more for me to lose interest..

 

[drf408]

Absolutely agree..I didn't even get to the date, just a hard lesson learned that as the above responder said "everything you say is used against you". I should know better, this girl did an absolute 180..from practically throwing herself at me to acting like she doesn't know me the very next time. I've got nothing to lose so I'm going to try to play off of it..

 

[Cherokee]

For a first date I take the girl somewhere random and adventurous. Show her you're spontaneous and that you have a brain.

This is after I've built up plenty of attraction and comfort, so the seduction just plays itself out.

 

[drf408]

I did that! I was at the bar watching the game and she mentioned she plays basketball so I challenged her and asked her to go with me to a local bar that has a caged hoop, fun place too. She was stoked, I just killed it with my dumb mouth and never got to have the date, really %#% sucks! Total 180, it was the first time since the very first time I saw her that I didn't even get a smile or eye contact. I went from her being completely interested and blatantly obvious about it to just being one of the "regulars". I don't want to give up so I want to bring it up, maybe ask her directly what happened to our "challenge" or if we are still on, though the latter doesnt sound too confident?

 

[Chickfight]

I dont get it... what did you do? Were you dropping names to sound cool or what?

Here's a tip, everybody makes some mistakes, it's not about being mr.perfect around a girl. Just lets the best you shine through, you may say some stupid things, but dont let it get you off your game just move on like it never happened. You're letting her reaction get to you and set you on a downward spiral.

 

[drf408]

Not at all, pure curiosity, it probably came off that way though. And often chicks dont care for guys being in that "circle" i will admit douchey circle. I would love to rectify this, talk about anti climatic, a girl i actually liked all but throwing herself at me for months and asking her out and to not even make it out with her. I'm pretty sure that was reason because like I said I got a weird fake laugh with a look of "ugh it figures" my friend picked that up too. You're right game is back on, it only through me off last night. I want to try again and only i can think of is just asking her "so when are we going...". But it looked completely done, it was blatantly obvious, she would make a point to turn away any time she walked by even one I was just to say something..she put her head down lol.

(EDIT)
And I wouldn't even care if it was a girl I went up to and failed but I watch this girl just make herself available to me for the last month and a half and sit there wasting time wondering is she doing because she likes me? Well obviously she did since her behavior is so off now. It couldn't have been any easier if only I kept my game about me.