Here's a Story... Is it worth to Persue or Next her ??

[El_matador]

Hey DJs,

I met this chick at a club, she's a HB7 (cute face, but over weight) think Beyonce but white. Anyways, the thing is that I was out with friends, it was friday and just wanted some drinks to make me forget about work crap. I wasn't on the hunt. Anyhow, we locked eyes from across the room and I maintained contact till she turned her head, and after I continued my conversation with friends... about 10 minutes later she like walks right by me with a girlfriend and I look at a her. " Im not in the mood to mack"

Well, later about 30 min. I was walking across the dance floor to the other bar, and she's dancing with their girl, now this is only way across, so I'm walking right by them, WHEN, her girlfriend grabs my hand and pulls me back and says dance with her with a smile, I look at HB7 and she was stunned that the girlfriend did that... so I felt like I couldn't deny her a dance... we started dancing... and later she starts with the - what's your name? compliments like you're so tall, that's a nice shirt yada, yada... We ended dancing for like 1 hour.. salsa and other... after I buy us a drink n we go the patio for fresh air.. here she's eager to find out about me... I'm being playful I don't answer questions with straight answers... we take a break as she wants to find the birthday girlfriend... say you can come if you want... I said I gotta go tell my friends something, I'll come back and find you..

So about 10 min... she comes to me side of the club pretending to be looking for a friend... "I said I'll help you find her" and we walk around and we find her.. it's almost time to close, the drunk friend want to dance with her... so HB7 says to me, Are you leaving soon? I said, No... the HB7 says I'll come to find to get your number... I go" sure honey" ... so later she comes and finds me.. we exchange numbers, I talk to her and joke around.. she says she's impressed with me and blah, blah,.. anyways I talk to her for bit outside and before we part ways she says give a call...

It was on a Friday... so I call wed, and she didn't pick up ( i did NOT leave a message) so, I call again on Thursday and didn't pick up ( I leave no message) I hate fokcking leaving messages on newly met broads. Keep in mind that she has my number with name and everything saved... so she know I called.

So I go on a long weekend and I wait a week to call again, which I do the following Wednesday.. I call for the third time and she didn't pickup... so, I said fokck it, she knows I called before, this is the 3rd time.. so I leave a message... About 30 min... she texts me " hey you, how are you? I'm sorry I missed your call. I'll give you a call tomorrow okay"... 10 min... later I text her back and said "I'm good, hope your well too. no problem, that's fine, have a good night" 2 min. later she texts "thank you, you too ;-) " and I don't respond to that.. so 2 days go by and don't hear from this broad....

Now, it's been 2 weeks since we were dancing and she was all over me and all interested. I know that know, her state of mind is different as is mind, she's not drinking, we're not out, she could be playing other dudes, she could get insecure, or depressed or lost interest or has a boyfriend, or be playing a game attention hore ?

Should next her or try again ???

what do you DJs think ?

 

[Iceberg]

You called her 3 times, she texted you back 1 time promising to call you.....which she never did.

Yeah. Maybe you should try calling her 6 or 7 more times. Just to be sure.

Okay, sorry for the sarcasm. Yeah, I get it. She was really into you at the club. She pursued YOU. It seemed like a done deal. Here's the problem - women are flakey. She might have just wanted your attention for the night. She might have just wanted to feel attractive (she's an overweight 7, afterall). Who knows what happens in a woman's mind...

Here's what you know for sure - calling her hasn't netted any results. So, this is the point when you NEXT her. Actually, the point when you NEXT her is after the first ignored call. Maybe you give her 2 ignored calls if she's a top quality prospect. But you damn sure don't let her ignore you 3 times and then wonder if you should try calling her a few more times....

 

[pdx1138]

3 strikes....out!

 

[LE6END]

In agreeance with Iceberg, entirely. I do not know what unrealized force would drive you to call her thrice. And Yet, i do.

Neediness; loneliness; desperation, triggered from lack of incoming women in one's daily life. Either of those, or more else.

Regardless, you can't expect her, or any female, to fall into your lap calling 3 times in 14 days, and leaving a voice message on the third. It donates power to your women, and, undoubtedly, she rests comfortably in a leading position after your impetuous decisions.

It is all a learning experience. The reality, as it stands, is that you will not be hearing from her either ever forward, or until a great duration has passed. She probably is in the situation at a club every night with a different male.

In the grace of saved time, you're efforts are better rewarded elsewhere. Don't contact her any more, let her get in touch with you.

And for the record, i believe she was aware of every single call you made, and a smile ran laps around her face as her phone screen lit up with each call you made.

 

[El_matador]

You called her 3 times, she texted you back 1 time promising to call you.....which she never did.

Yeah. Maybe you should try calling her 6 or 7 more times. Just to be sure.

Okay, sorry for the sarcasm. Yeah, I get it. She was really into you at the club. She pursued YOU. It seemed like a done deal. Here's the problem - women are flakey. She might have just wanted your attention for the night. She might have just wanted to feel attractive (she's an overweight 7, afterall). Who knows what happens in a woman's mind...

Here's what you know for sure - calling her hasn't netted any results. So, this is the point when you NEXT her. Actually, the point when you NEXT her is after the first ignored call. Maybe you give her 2 ignored calls if she's a top quality prospect. But you damn sure don't let her ignore you 3 times and then wonder if you should try calling her a few more times....

hhaha... thanks bro for slapping me out the zone. You're right. Next.

 

[El_matador]

In agreeance with Iceberg, entirely. I do not know what unrealized force would drive you to call her thrice. And Yet, i do.

Neediness; loneliness; desperation, triggered from lack of incoming women in one's daily life. Either of those, or more else.

Regardless, you can't expect her, or any female, to fall into your lap calling 3 times in 14 days, and leaving a voice message on the third. It donates power to your women, and, undoubtedly, she rests comfortably in a leading position after your impetuous decisions.

It is all a learning experience. The reality, as it stands, is that you will not be hearing from her either ever forward, or until a great duration has passed. She probably is in the situation at a club every night with a different male.

In the grace of saved time, you're efforts are better rewarded elsewhere. Don't contact her any more, let her get in touch with you.

And for the record, i believe she was aware of every single call you made, and a smile ran laps around her face as her phone screen lit up with each call you made.

Hey man. You're Right and I've been there before. The thing is that I felt played, as I wasn't interested much in the first place, but she worked her magic to get me interested...

The truth is that that I have other issues (work and family) to handle before dealing with chicks and upping my game. It's been a shytie 2 months and reason I was at the club was to clear my mind. Anyway, I need to pick up my skirt and find my balls to deal with the issues as I improve my women game... life.