Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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HERES A QUESTION: name recommendation?

collalife

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ive always noticed that the gurus and mpuas have great alias.
Ex:david deangelo, mystery, style, matador, j-dog, hynoptica.

how did they come up with these?
what name have you all used?

( i just wanna know because it seems these names are so clean and they make you feel iono.:confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Many of the gurus that you know of are probably better marketers than they are DJ's or PUA's. Which is why you know of them. David D is the best I've seen from his emails, the way he makes you praise him if you want your question answered is golden. He has a couple of other techniques as well.

So they take a lot of time and effort into thinking them up, just like they do the rest of their "packaging".
 

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I am not trying flame you Collalife, but the last few posts I've seen from you seem to be focused on the insignificant details that really are the last things you should be worried about if you're trying to improve in your lot in life or your results with women.

For what it's worth, there is something vaguely narcissistic and egotistical about people who assign themselves nicknames. That's usually done by your buds, and usually when they like and respect you enough to give you one in the first place. And it's also pretty transparent, taking something that has the potential to be cool, and turning it completely uncool. I remember 2 or 3 guys in college who gave themselves nicknames, and would run around introducing themselves to everyone they met as such. But none of their friends really "felt" them, and didn't use them. So when new people were introduce to the social circle and saw that the guys friends didn't refer to him like that, it just looked like he was trying to force an identity on them, and came of as not only kinda pathetic to the FNG, but also to his friends.

I would not worry about the trivial details, it sounds like your looking at this whole process like a step-by-step manual of things you need to do. It doesn't work that way. You learn it by doing, then incorporate some of things you learn that suit your style. When it's "not" you, it usually obvious to everyone else and completely backfires.

If anything, cool names and peacocking are the finishing touches to your game (if they are needed at all), they are not the essential building blocks.
 

War Against Betaism

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True if you want a nickname, you have to be earn it. I have a lot of nicknames and it's because it's something that relates to me. A tight nickname for a DJ though is Cupid since you can make anyone fall in love with you.
 

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Giving yourself a nickname is about the lamest thing I've ever heard. If you must have a nickname, please earn it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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collalife said:
ive always noticed that the gurus and mpuas have great alias.
Ex:david deangelo, mystery, style, matador, j-dog, hynoptica.

how did they come up with these?
what name have you all used?

( i just wanna know because it seems these names are so clean and they make you feel iono.:confused:
If you want to sell a product...how do you think you can sell it? You come with a "cool" name and get the attention of some of the men.
 

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MotownMack said:
I am not trying flame you Collalife, but the last few posts I've seen from you seem to be focused on the insignificant details that really are the last things you should be worried about if you're trying to improve in your lot in life or your results with women.

For what it's worth, there is something vaguely narcissistic and egotistical about people who assign themselves nicknames. That's usually done by your buds, and usually when they like and respect you enough to give you one in the first place. And it's also pretty transparent, taking something that has the potential to be cool, and turning it completely uncool. I remember 2 or 3 guys in college who gave themselves nicknames, and would run around introducing themselves to everyone they met as such. But none of their friends really "felt" them, and didn't use them. So when new people were introduce to the social circle and saw that the guys friends didn't refer to him like that, it just looked like he was trying to force an identity on them, and came of as not only kinda pathetic to the FNG, but also to his friends.

I would not worry about the trivial details, it sounds like your looking at this whole process like a step-by-step manual of things you need to do. It doesn't work that way. You learn it by doing, then incorporate some of things you learn that suit your style. When it's "not" you, it usually obvious to everyone else and completely backfires.

If anything, cool names and peacocking are the finishing touches to your game (if they are needed at all), they are not the essential building blocks.



well most post are details that float through my mind (curosity). i have decent knowledge of the game(currently reading dj bible) i just like to hear opinions on topics from current djs to see relativity. and wow you checked my background and pretty much everything i post significant your perspective is just different thus a different life/experiences/decisions.
 

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wow you checked my background and pretty much everything i post significant your perspective is just different thus a different life/experiences/decisions.
No, I didn't check your background, nor did I say your posts were insignificant. They are completely relevant, just not the type of details I would guess a person should be focusing on.

Don't take it personally-you're obviously free to ask all the questions and seek all the opinions you want. I was merely explaining that, IMO, these are not highly important aspects of DJing, just in case you thought they were.
 
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