Here you go AFC's!

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

crowes22

Master Don Juan

Jun 20, 2005

I'm trying to help. I used to be a pathetic AFC. But no more. There is a guy that posted here that can help. Trust me. His name is Jake Steed. Pook is great. But don't let Pook dictate the wealth of knowledge here at this site.

Do a search on the username Jake Steed. It is a wealth of knowledge, that I know to be true, from experience.

This crap posted these days is a freakin joke.

Get on with it!

--Crowes

Last edited: Jun 20, 2005

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.