Her words don't match her actions?

[SoulMan13]

So this girl sends me a lot of IOI's. She giggles non-stop when I speak to her, she always smiles at me, gets excited/more alert when I come to speak to her, compliments what I'm wearing/how I look, she'll always call back if she misses my call, she's comfortable with me putting my arm around her shoulder, back ect, she's bought me drinks, she asked me to come by her workplace and see her the other day and she even said I could come to her house when her parents get all the flooring sorted. Literally, I have walked into class and my friends have tapped me on the shoulder and asked why that girls staring at me. She even zones out when she's speaking to her friends sometimes if she sees me walk into the room and just sits there smiling in my direction. These are things she definitely only does with me.

However, I've asked her out twice and BOTH TIMES SHE FLAKED! She said she was busy both times and never offered any alternate dates/times. Also, she does this thing where she sends me a message I'll reply and then she will not respond. But that's not really a big deal as she mentioned she wasn't a big phone person when we started talking. I'm also notorious for doing the same thing to her so I can't complain lol. What's the deal with this chick?

 

[Lotus Effect]

I don't know what is her deal.

But I do know what is NOT her deal. And that is You my friend!

She is not into you. That is pretty much it. There ain't much to think. There's nothing more to be said.

The answer to your post is in the title itself. You judge by actions, not words. Period. That is lesson number one!

Move on to the next one, without even saying goodbye. She probably ain't gonna miss it.

(Or will, because she is top notch A+ attention wh0re)

 

[SoulMan13]

I don't know what is her deal.

But I do know what is NOT her deal. And that is You my friend!

She is not into you. That is pretty much it. There ain't much to think. There's nothing more to be said.

The answer to your post is in the title itself. You judge by actions, not words. Period. That is lesson number one!

Move on to the next one, without even saying goodbye. She probably ain't gonna miss it.

(Or will, because she is top notch A+ attention wh0re)

That's exactly the point. Her body language is classed as her actions, right? And all that positive body language she sends my way seems like a whole lot of effort for her to just be putting it on. Bear in mind I don't even notice her doing it most of the time it's my friends that point it out. It's just the way she seems genuinely happy to be around me and it seems like that would be pretty hard to fake.

Also, aren't AW known for wanting to take but never give? I don't do anything for this chick but she'll do anything I ask. If I ask her to buy me a drink she'll buy it, if I ask to borrow her umbrella as it's raining outside she'll give it to me even if it means she'll get wet, if I ask her to look after some books for me she'll do it, she'll wait with me in the freezing cold for the bus that I catch back home when the bus that gets her home is right there...she doesn't even do some of the stuff she does for me for her girlfriends and she certainly doesn't do it for any other guys.

I've dealt with attention wh0res in the past but honestly I don't think this chick is an AW. I just don't understand why she'd go through all that effort and invest so much if all she wanted was attention? It seems nonsensical to me when I know she has plenty of desperate beta males constantly messaging her which she could get attention off easily?

P.S Could any of this have anything to do with the fact that I hurt her in the past? A couple of years ago she was really into me and I rejected her for another girl and she literally refused to speak to me for 2 years. Could she be trying to protect herself or is it definitely another female AW?

 

[Lotus Effect]

You're dealing with an ENFP attention wh0re. ESFP attention wh-res are the classic ones.

I'm not familiarized with all this acronym that you guys preach all over the net.

But I'm very well familiar with attention wh0res. And I'm deeply deeply sorry to inform you OP, but this one is just another one of them.

I know a girl, let's call her Fernanda, because that is her name

She is a solid 8,5. Pretty much the girl that can have any guy she wants to. She is super friendly with all the guys, very open to flirts, extremelly flirtatious, always sexy (High heels, tight dresses. The usual). And she never asks for anything in return. I never saw a guy paying her a drink. She is always willing to help. Sharing bills. Buying everyone's tickets for parties.

All of my friends (Myself included) have already hitted on her. And not just to get burned right off the bat. Got into really heavy kino. Eye contact. Dirty dancing. Sexual inuendo. Only to be turned down when the closing moment arrived.

She never ever hooked up with any of us. And there are a variety of dudes. Tall, short, blond, Packed, Rich, Black. There is no excuse for not being her type, because there are all types.

And guess what. Do you know what is she man? Yup, right. She is just another attention wh0re.

The action you should be judging is her final action. The end. Not the means to it!
Don't be fooled, as I said, I'm not familiar with acronyms.

She might be BPD, HPD, ENFP, ESFP, ESPN, Fox Sports...
Whatever you want to call it...

... At the end of the day, she is just another attention wh0re. Period!

 

[GS750]

C*ck tease. Ignore her for now and let her see you with another girl, preferably hotter than her. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't. Moving on right now is the only option

 

[Speculator E]

You're dealing with an ENFP attention wh0re. ESFP attention wh-res are the classic ones. ENFP's like to make people around them happy. They do favors for people for attention. Does not mean she likes you.

ENFP are also the classic BPD cases. Almost every bpd trait have similarities to enfp traits. Go ahead and ask me how I know this.

 

[SoulMan13]

ENFP are also the classic BPD cases. Almost every bpd trait have similarities to enfp traits. Go ahead and ask me how I know this.

How do you know this?

 

[dutchmaster]

I have many female friends like this.. But I'm an ENFP male so I'm basically an AW to women too.

We both know that and realize that about each other, so we actually get along pretty well. Of course the favors are nice... Plus girls like this usually have hot friends .

 

[nismo-4]

This is an attention wh0re! Get rid of her.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Wow, for once Judge Nismo didn't close the case. He must have some ho waiting for him back in his chambers!

 

[sylvester the cat]

what's the deal with this chick?

you asked her out (twice) and she rejected you. that is the deal with this chick.

 

[Speculator E]

How do you know this?

I had my bpd ex's take a petsonality test. They all came back with ENFP. All of them. Makes sense. If bpd is a personality disorder it make sense that it affect certain personality. Or in other words BPD is the emotionally dysfunction version of ENFP personality types.

 

[dutchmaster]

I had my bpd ex's take a petsonality test. They all came back with ENFP. All of them. Makes sense. If bpd is a personality disorder it make sense that it affect certain personality. Or in other words BPD is the emotionally dysfunction version of ENFP personality types.

Makes sense. As an ENFP and being friends with a bunch I can say that we definitely exhibit a lot of BPD traits when unhealthy.. Id say a good mix of hpd/bpd. Actually when healthy an ENFP exhibits a lot of HPD traits because their natural tendency is to wow people (aka show off how great they are for attention) Not to say that this type is always full blown personality disorder but I can totally see how we would be most connected to those two.