maranathaman
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I agree with everything you guyz are saying.
Thanx for setting me straight!
Thanx for setting me straight!
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Her so-called "Platonic" Guy Friends...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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RedPill said:
Well said, huge well needed kick up the azz
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i am not sure if she is bpd. she may be. you dont seem like you have any idea about bpd. drop her now. i am guessing while at the same time she has told you about these other guys, she has given u great sex, made u feel sorry for her, make things seem like u guys are so alike, all while at the same time you walk around on eggs shells not knowing what is going to set her histronics (crying, screaming, basically being a *****) off? if you answer yes to most of this leave. it only gets worse. you cant not get hurt emotionally or even physically by this woman. no contact nexting is the only way.
if i am wrong then she is a clown and you should dump her anyway. would u really want to hang out with some guy whose ******* she ate for 12 hours ? every woman wants to believe that she is a mans last love and every man wants to believe he is a womans first. imho, you violate this rule you are a social retard and should be nexted.
if i am wrong then she is a clown and you should dump her anyway. would u really want to hang out with some guy whose ******* she ate for 12 hours ? every woman wants to believe that she is a mans last love and every man wants to believe he is a womans first. imho, you violate this rule you are a social retard and should be nexted.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Tbh about it would have dumped her fuc* buddie or not when she felt it was 'fine' to cross the line and tell me she was still mates with guys she has had sex with for 13hours or past BF.
But then again, if said OP has turned into an AFC chump this maybe her way of stating to him to back the fuc* off.
As any women would not need to come out with that cra* unless she was trying to prove something, i.e create a reaction from drama.
Hence FB too much drama for someone your just porking, she can take it else where its only a matter of time till she's replaced anyway.
But a GF coming out with that?
Me personally ,if it was communicated GF material she would be out! no questions asked, for starters i would not be coming to a forum to ask for advice when i am with a women who has stating she is mates with some guy she had a marathon shag session with! that shi* is simply opening your life up to too much drama and head fuc* games and no women is worth that, if you think she is your really need to evalute your ideas on women tbh about it.
Falling in love with a women like this shows the PROBLEM is NOT the WOMEN but it is INFACT the OP! but ppl cant take criticasm, so in that he would probably get defencive.
Is it the gun that did the damage or the person who pulled the trigger?
Just put a ring on her finger and be done with it
You know it makes sense!
Blaming her for being BPD, is like blaming the chocolate bar for making one fat!
You know it was bad for you before you ate it, but your will power was too 'weak' to refuse it.
Edit*
I could not help to scan over some of your old posts and BAM there it is!
Re-Read this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=55909
It seems you go for low quality women, what i mean by that is:
Granted expect women to have male friends, but at least have the self respect for yourself to never get serious with a women who does not have male friends but potential suitors.
There are different definitions of male friends, the ones that come under the bracket of ex BF or a FB turned platonic, is not what a person needs in a relationship.
You seem to attract low self esteem women, is it due to you having low self esteem too?
Its about time you looked internally and started to wonder why you keep going for these types of women.
I would focus on confidence building exercises, hence work out for starters, improve your image, become more rounded, become more selective and push yourself to open more doors of opportunitys to meet far better quality women then trailer trash, that cant help to boost about the many men she's fuc*ed whilst keeping them on the back burner.
It seems you have had an history of this and you still have not learned from it.
You seem to be on a constant path to keep repeating your mistakes over and over and over again!
You going to keep blaming the women for the choices you make?
But then again, if said OP has turned into an AFC chump this maybe her way of stating to him to back the fuc* off.
As any women would not need to come out with that cra* unless she was trying to prove something, i.e create a reaction from drama.
Hence FB too much drama for someone your just porking, she can take it else where its only a matter of time till she's replaced anyway.
But a GF coming out with that?
Me personally ,if it was communicated GF material she would be out! no questions asked, for starters i would not be coming to a forum to ask for advice when i am with a women who has stating she is mates with some guy she had a marathon shag session with! that shi* is simply opening your life up to too much drama and head fuc* games and no women is worth that, if you think she is your really need to evalute your ideas on women tbh about it.
Falling in love with a women like this shows the PROBLEM is NOT the WOMEN but it is INFACT the OP! but ppl cant take criticasm, so in that he would probably get defencive.
Is it the gun that did the damage or the person who pulled the trigger?
Just put a ring on her finger and be done with it
You know it makes sense!
Blaming her for being BPD, is like blaming the chocolate bar for making one fat!
You know it was bad for you before you ate it, but your will power was too 'weak' to refuse it.
Edit*
I could not help to scan over some of your old posts and BAM there it is!
Re-Read this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=55909
It seems you go for low quality women, what i mean by that is:
Granted expect women to have male friends, but at least have the self respect for yourself to never get serious with a women who does not have male friends but potential suitors.
There are different definitions of male friends, the ones that come under the bracket of ex BF or a FB turned platonic, is not what a person needs in a relationship.
You seem to attract low self esteem women, is it due to you having low self esteem too?
Its about time you looked internally and started to wonder why you keep going for these types of women.
I would focus on confidence building exercises, hence work out for starters, improve your image, become more rounded, become more selective and push yourself to open more doors of opportunitys to meet far better quality women then trailer trash, that cant help to boost about the many men she's fuc*ed whilst keeping them on the back burner.
It seems you have had an history of this and you still have not learned from it.
You seem to be on a constant path to keep repeating your mistakes over and over and over again!
You going to keep blaming the women for the choices you make?
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maranathaman - My girlfriend was like this the first few months we were dating and it was jealousy hell. But as soon as I stopped getting jealous or phased by all the guy friends and started establishing boundaries and improving myself - she dropped all plates. I pretty much stopped caring about her past with them and realized I'm the latest guy she's hooking up with. Even better I befriended the guys and was "alpha nice" so I didn't look insecure around them. Now, she never touches AIM, SMS, or actively e-mails at all after phasing them all out and spending all her time with me.
I think any women regardless of being an AW or not will latch onto her plates onto she finds one that she's prepared to cut loose all those options.
If you pass her LTR qualities she's looking for than she'll do what it takes to keep you.
You'll make up your mind if it's worth it or not, but with the next girl don't let her wave her options in your face like a threat, that's just immature and you could find better women with your time.
I think any women regardless of being an AW or not will latch onto her plates onto she finds one that she's prepared to cut loose all those options.
If you pass her LTR qualities she's looking for than she'll do what it takes to keep you.
You'll make up your mind if it's worth it or not, but with the next girl don't let her wave her options in your face like a threat, that's just immature and you could find better women with your time.
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how about this for one...my ex wanted to talk to her old bf that she left for me because he wished her a happy b day. i told that was fine and sh could talk to who she liked...i just was going to leave. the ***** held that over my head for months.
i will say this about bpd girls though...it is tough to resist. they lure you in. they are very very good at it. they mimic you, meaning they become interested in what you are into. you think you found your soul mate. then once you are attached, they manipulate you to make sure you are attached. they work a DJ push pull with expert percision. slowly you give in and give up a part of yourself. slowly ever so slowly. it is like the old saying if you turn up the heat too fast the frog jumps off the stove but if you turn it up just slow enough you can cook the frog alive.
i will say this about bpd girls though...it is tough to resist. they lure you in. they are very very good at it. they mimic you, meaning they become interested in what you are into. you think you found your soul mate. then once you are attached, they manipulate you to make sure you are attached. they work a DJ push pull with expert percision. slowly you give in and give up a part of yourself. slowly ever so slowly. it is like the old saying if you turn up the heat too fast the frog jumps off the stove but if you turn it up just slow enough you can cook the frog alive.
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how about this for one...my ex wanted to talk to her old bf that she left for me because he wished her a happy b day. i told that was fine and sh could talk to who she liked...i just was going to leave. the ***** held that over my head for months.
i will say this about bpd girls though...it is tough to resist. they lure you in. they are very very good at it. they mimic you, meaning they become interested in what you are into. you think you found your soul mate. then once you are attached, they manipulate you to make sure you are attached. they work a DJ push pull with expert percision. slowly you give in and give up a part of yourself. slowly ever so slowly. it is like the old saying if you turn up the heat too fast the frog jumps off the stove but if you turn it up just slow enough you can cook the frog alive.
i will say this about bpd girls though...it is tough to resist. they lure you in. they are very very good at it. they mimic you, meaning they become interested in what you are into. you think you found your soul mate. then once you are attached, they manipulate you to make sure you are attached. they work a DJ push pull with expert percision. slowly you give in and give up a part of yourself. slowly ever so slowly. it is like the old saying if you turn up the heat too fast the frog jumps off the stove but if you turn it up just slow enough you can cook the frog alive.