DJThirtytwo,
I am not sure why you have been making out with her, giving her kino, etc...then you want to stop short of having intercourse.
This makes doesn't make sense to me, and it seems to me you have some personal issues you need to address. It seems like you are fighting an internal war within yourself.
You said you could "manipulate" the situation to avoid intercourse?
Are you kidding me bro? How would you like it if some woman led you on like that than slammed the door on YOU. This woman wants to enjoy intercourse with you. I strongly doubt she's going to play that game with you.
I am not saying you should hook up with her...thats up to you. BUT...if you're not going to have intercourse with her... you need to do one of two things:
A) tell her your beliefs prohibit pre-marital intercourse and see what she says (although she is going to find it very strange that you made out, did kino, etc)
B) just let her go completely.
As I said though...I think you need to look at your internal self and find out why you're having this personal conflict. There seems to me more this whole situation than what appears on the surface.
