Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Recently I had an interesting experience I'd like to pass on and maybe get some feedback.
I have a lady friend who goes to college in another state but was at home all summer. During this summer break she found an old guy friend that she went to high school with and they started dating. It never got too serious (and no sex) and at the end of the summer she decided to let him know that they could be friends but nothing more. It was obvious that this guy had little to no Game, and he was kind of awkward in dealing with the whole thing.
Anyhow, she's at college for a week and gets a voicemail from him. In the voicemail he asks if he can stop by and visit her in two weeks. She has not replied. Obviously this guy was lovesick and honestly I felt sorry for him because I've been there and I think most of us have.
Now, just to be clear their breakup "went fine" (her words). There was no big fight or anything like that. Like I said, my first reaction to this was to feel sorry for the guy. In fact, when she told me about this, I said something to her like "Oh he's lovesick over you, that poor guy."
Her reaction was not one of sympathy, however, her reaction was *RAGE.* Some of her words were "well he's just going to have to get over it!" I've known this girl for years and I have never seen her pissed off like she was over this.
Part of why I'm writing this is because I don't really understand her reaction. I understand maybe being upset or frustrated, and I can understand why the experience might bring you down; but what I don't understand where this kind of stone cold rage comes from.
When I was talking to her about it I went over everything again, and confirmed they had an easy breakup and that this was the only time he had contacted her since. In my mind I see this as the flow of their relationship:
1.) Get together
2.) Do stuff
3.) Breakup
4.) Guy wants to try and work things out
5.) ???
6.) RAGE
To me, I see this level of emotional reaction as inappropriate. That's why I list step 5 as "???". It seems to me there has to be something else going on here for the nuclear chain reaction I saw.
His voicemail was a minor inconvenience and she's ready to pull out gun and start shooting. One thing does come to mind as a cause of this, I remember a saying that went something like: "we hate those we have harmed". Before they broke up I do recall that she was upset about having to do it and I'm wondering if maybe this rage is some kind post-injury rationalization.
Thoughts?
I have a lady friend who goes to college in another state but was at home all summer. During this summer break she found an old guy friend that she went to high school with and they started dating. It never got too serious (and no sex) and at the end of the summer she decided to let him know that they could be friends but nothing more. It was obvious that this guy had little to no Game, and he was kind of awkward in dealing with the whole thing.
Anyhow, she's at college for a week and gets a voicemail from him. In the voicemail he asks if he can stop by and visit her in two weeks. She has not replied. Obviously this guy was lovesick and honestly I felt sorry for him because I've been there and I think most of us have.
Now, just to be clear their breakup "went fine" (her words). There was no big fight or anything like that. Like I said, my first reaction to this was to feel sorry for the guy. In fact, when she told me about this, I said something to her like "Oh he's lovesick over you, that poor guy."
Her reaction was not one of sympathy, however, her reaction was *RAGE.* Some of her words were "well he's just going to have to get over it!" I've known this girl for years and I have never seen her pissed off like she was over this.
Part of why I'm writing this is because I don't really understand her reaction. I understand maybe being upset or frustrated, and I can understand why the experience might bring you down; but what I don't understand where this kind of stone cold rage comes from.
When I was talking to her about it I went over everything again, and confirmed they had an easy breakup and that this was the only time he had contacted her since. In my mind I see this as the flow of their relationship:
1.) Get together
2.) Do stuff
3.) Breakup
4.) Guy wants to try and work things out
5.) ???
6.) RAGE
To me, I see this level of emotional reaction as inappropriate. That's why I list step 5 as "???". It seems to me there has to be something else going on here for the nuclear chain reaction I saw.
His voicemail was a minor inconvenience and she's ready to pull out gun and start shooting. One thing does come to mind as a cause of this, I remember a saying that went something like: "we hate those we have harmed". Before they broke up I do recall that she was upset about having to do it and I'm wondering if maybe this rage is some kind post-injury rationalization.
Thoughts?