her past...

[jdjd]

someone just posted a topic similar to this but i did not want to jack it...

anyways...last night accidentally....i found out about this chick's past im seeing...

she asked me what was i gonna do tonight...we were walking to our cars after our psychology class together...

and i told her i have to meet up with my friend hillary...and she wants to tell me about her new boyfriend....and etc because were just good friends...and wanted share good news...

then i asked her u ever dated a korean guy? and she just went off...saying how her ex korean boyfriend would hit her and abuse her...and the family would verbally abuse her sometimes...and then she finally just broke it off ...

thing is we both had bad experiences w/ korean ppl that were our friends boyfriends and they always abusive...

note: im not being racist here...just stating what happened...among us...

it was a sad story to hear from her i have to say and now i dont know how to approach her....be extra nice?

 

[kingy]

no dude just be normal as before.

words like this do the trick: "Im here if you ever want to talk about it"

dont fanny around making sure she is ok, be a solid oak tree but make it clear if she ligitmately wants to talk u will be there to listen.

 

[thinktank1985]

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[Captain]

words like this do the trick: "Im here if you ever want to talk about it"

It's best not to talk to girls about their abusive ex boyfriends. You're not their therapist. If they can't stop thinking about it, they're damaged, and you should forget about them.

 

[DonGorgon]

Soon you w too will be in her past so dont worry about it..

 

[K.Pez]

acting differently around her won't make her feel any better, it's not like you did anything wrong. it's normal that you feel bad for her (cus you have a conscience), but you shouldn't feel responsible to make this better. if she keeps bringing it up, let her know that you are there to help her find someone who is qualified dealing with stuff like this to talk about it with if she wants to.

 

[kingy]

It's best not to talk to girls about their abusive ex boyfriends. You're not their therapist. If they can't stop thinking about it, they're damaged, and you should forget about them.

did i say be her emotional therapist?

no i said be solid and dont fanny around making sure she is ok, but make her aware that if she does want to talk about it legitamtely then be there for her. all that you should forget about the girl or next her is EGO protection.

do u not think its possible to get through to anybody with the right energy and playfullness? what happened to meeting a girl that u really like and u allow both of you to grow in the relationship.... thats of course if u actually like the girl.

please dont take "game" too far, the rules are not cast iron, think for yourself.