Her Low Confidence

[whatdude]

My girl has low confidence, she even tells me this. Sometimes it bothers me because I always have to reassure her that I love her, and explain why. And I really do love her. She has been dumped by all of her boyfriends I guess, and some of them fvcked with her heart. No lie, my girl is easily a 9 or 10. She has the looks, body, and personality.

I honestly don't know why she even "loves" me. She tells me that she feels that I'm too good for her and that she doesn't even deserve me. I try to make her feel good about herself all the time. She gets emotional. She also wonders if I actually love her or not, she sometimes "kids" around that I may have another girl. I don't know what to think.

She still hasn't met my parents because I'm embarassed of our.. i guess THEIR lifestyle. We're poor, and my girl isn't.. she has a strong family. She brings it up once in a while, and tells me that shes confused, and she tells me that she feels like a dark secret. I come up with sh1t to tell her like .. my parents don't want me to date until I'm done with school....so therefore she can't meet them quite yet. What do you all think of that... will she last?

I really love her, is it good that she is emotional with me? Please, I need some input.

 

[tryin 2 play]

I had a girl like this. To me, it was pretty emotionally draining to deal with. It consumed a lot of my time reassuring her how I felt and all that, when I could have been doing other things. She was saying the same things your girl is saying. It was tough sometimes because she wouldn't believe anyhting I said about how I felt.

Anyway we broke up, but not necesarrily because of that. She was pretty messed up emotionally I found out, so that is why I left her. Probably would have stayed with her if it wasn't for her mental state. I think after a while she owuld have stopped questioning my feelings for her, as our relationship ws pretty new when it ended (3 months). I hope the enxt one is a little more secure, as it will be easier to deal with.

Reassure her how you feel, but don't let it consume you. I would spend hours trying to tell this girl I really did care for her, she needed CONSTANT reassurance. So yah let her know how u feel whne your with her, but make boundaries as far as time, and all that stuff. If you can deal with it, then cool, if not, then get out now. She may come around after a while once she gets used to you. How long u been with her for?

 

[whatdude]

two months

 

[n00bPimp]

Dude you're one lucky bastard. Tell that girl ur not happy w her and she has to try to please u more if she wants u to stay w her.

 

[WC2]

On one hand, I hate when girls are insecure. On the other hand, if she's really a 9 or 10 then you've definitely played your cards right. If you really want to up her confidence, maybe you should stop being such a DJ for a little while and kiss her ass. I can't believe I'm saying that, but it's definitely a good way to boost her confidence.

 

[n00bPimp]

On one hand, I hate when girls are insecure. On the other hand, if she's really a 9 or 10 then you've definitely played your cards right. If you really want to up her confidence, maybe you should stop being such a DJ for a little while and kiss her ass. I can't believe I'm saying that, but it's definitely a good way to boost her confidence.

Yeah and then she'll leave you for being an AFC.
Women...

 

[Krassus]

Judging by what you said, you're partly to blame for her feeling that she's not good enough for you. I mean, look at the parents thing... it's perfectly normal to have parents that you're embarassed about. If it were me, i would have just told her. Yea, it's not a good thing, but no one's PERFECT. You however, choose to hide it, so i imagine that you also hide a lot of other negative aspects of your life. Now you know why she thinks you're perfect. Be more human, brother. Oh and tell her to start working out, i mean REALLY working out. It is the only antedote i know of for the way she feels.