her IL is too high

[MacAvoy]

I've never experience anything like this. My LD g/f IL is way too high. I've gone out w/ women who've fallen hard in love w/ me in the past, all of which told me that they never loved someone like me, I know BS. However, this lady seems to have even more interest in me.

She calls or texts me first thing in the morning, then we usually talk about 3-4 nights per week. I don't always answer her calls or reply to her text msgs right away so that I constantly appear busy.

I had to post pone our next trip because of my stupidity and she has been totally supportive. I want to let her know how much I appreciate her supportiveness, however I struggle w/ not getting too mushy or appearing AFC.

Its hard to know where to draw the line. Not sure of the purpose of my post, just a rant to try think things out I guess.

 

[frivolousz21]

how long have u been with her?

how often do u see her?


and how do u honestly feel about her?

 

[Brainman]

I am experiencing something similar in my current relationship. I think it's just the newness and passion in the relationship, which is bound to die down over time. I don't mind though. I like the attention and kind of pace it. We have class together and she lives only a few miles away from me. I reciprocate her attention without getting mushier than she is and it seems to work out. We don't really talk on the phone, though we text message each other almost everyday and see each other about 3-4 times a week.

Anyway. I'd just say this girl really likes you. Just keep it real. Oh, and IL always goes up a lot after you have had sex the first time (well, unless you are a terrible lay).

-BM

 

[Bounce]

The hell? Since when is that too much attention? I have several friends in long-distance relationships who get texts and calls from their girls every day. Hell, that was the case in my LD relationship, too. In my opinion, if you're a long distance away from a girl who's supposed to be committed to you and she doesn't make some sort of effort to communicate with you in a day, that's not a good sign.

 

[italostud]

First of all, you're in a LDR...what the hell are you thinking? She could be espousing her love and devotion for you while some other guy is plugging her in the butt.

Second of all, she sounds like she might be a bit of a head case if she's that clingy over you, especially in a LDR.

A woman who's too distant(figuratively, not literally) is a bad thing, but so is one who is too clingy.

Something smells stinky with this relationship.