"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Her IL drops? Your IL drops.

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Simple rule: IL must always reciprocate in a relationship or dating.

If she likes you, you showing interest won't be a problem... it's showing too much continual interest.

There is nothing wrong in approaching a girl and subtly letting your intentions known. Unless she is crazy (and therefore not worth dating), indicating YOU are interested in her will not be a turn off if she is already attracted to you. More than likely she'll appreciate you "pulling the trigger' and initiating. That is what us men are expected to do. However, don't overdo it or become an open book. NEVER tell her everything on your mind, simply show mild interest.

Where we go wrong is unconditionally showing increasing interest continually afterward. She should be reading your interest like a line graph; with highs, lows, peaks, etc.

She flakes? Don't be quick to call her again. She gives you a hard time over something? Leave abruptly. I believe in "nexting" women without actually nexting them, it works wonders. And it's not even important that you go tit for that, what's important is that you're not predictably and unconditionally "in it for the long run"...

That's what marriage is for.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What you said can resume my entire relationship game. Simple as that.
Never show more interest than the girl is showing.
 
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