"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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now this girl's ex boyfriend is back in town that i've been seeing, and im kinda thinking of telling her to go **** herself.. since she seems to have old feelings for him.. what do you guys think? should i just lay off or drop the "**** off" bomb on her? im thinking the latter as this has gotten too far and getting kinda serious... i dont want to be hurt like i was in the past and i just dont feel like putting in the effort for "competition..." i dont take competition well especially because i've got so much other **** happening in my life...


would you just lay off and take things as they come? or would you geniunely try to make something happen? i've had enough and i think im just gonna cut her off from my contact...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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This ia why I advocate to NOT get emotional with hors!!! Only be emotional with a virgin who you take seriously to be your wife!!! The rest are hors and should not be engaged emotionally!!!
 
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NSUballer said:
Hey Last Man...are you saying we should go after virgins...
I'm saying you should only get emotionally serious with virgins who are committed to you only and will be your wife!!!!

This has been the rule since the beginning of time!!!!!! This is the Natural Order Of Things!!! http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50480
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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huh.....thats a good plan...now i need to meet some more hot virgins...but when I do meet these virgin girls how do I handle not being able to sex them until marriage? I mean it would be extremely hard to wait years to get sex
 
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NSUballer said:
huh.....thats a good plan...now i need to meet some more hot virgins...but when I do meet these virgin girls how do I handle not being able to sex them until marriage? I mean it would be extremely hard to wait years to get sex
Simple, if you only want a hor for sex then you move on to a hor!!! Leave the committed virgin alone!!! BUT REMEMBER, EVERY Hor was "once" a virgin!!! This is why I say "Committed" virgin!!!"
 

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ahhhh now i get it....get the virgin to go out with you, get serious...while bangin other chics on the side so you dont go crazy from all the virginity
 

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Last Man Standing said:
I'm saying you should only get emotionally serious with virgins who are committed to you only and will be your wife!!!!
That's just not possible. 9 out of 10 hotties, who are mature too, are not virgins. Nor would I want them to be. Its a fact of life in this world now. Perhaps you were trying to imply something else.
 

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sav said:
now this girl's ex boyfriend is back in town that i've been seeing, and im kinda thinking of telling her to go **** herself.. since she seems to have old feelings for him.. ....
:nono: Beware of becoming the "Rebound Guy."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova wrote something great recently on his blog:

"The virgin status doesn't mean sh!t when it comes to terms of being a good woman."

I agree on this note, because women's attitudes will vary to a certain degree. So I don't think their virgin status is going to help in the matter that you may be attracted to her initially, but you're going to date her attitude regardless of who's she hooked up with or haven't yet in the long run.

Sav - You basically have a choice here. You can continue to let him see her while you're together. Or you can begin spinning plates again and see how she likes you hanging with other women. My advice is not get oneitis with this woman and know when to cut your loses if she's not showing that she wants to be exclusive with you. Seeing an ex continuously when you're not around is disrespectful to you.
 

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ahhhh now i get it....get the virgin to go out with you, get serious...while bangin other chics on the side so you dont go crazy from all the virginity

9 OUT OF 10 WOMEN ARE hors... SEE THE CORRELATION?


I'm not saying I agree with LMS... but he makes a very good arguement. I personally don't take women seriously so **** like this I could care less about. I just cut em loose and tell them to have a nice day, becuase i never expected anyhting from them in the first place

the problem with you guys is you exepct to much from these women. most are attentoin *****s or just hors in general. They will f around. you get to emtionally involved.. you don't look at other women becuase "you are in a relationship"

fvck this cvnt.. she is going to end up fvcking someone else, just like you will
 

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just an update: i told her that if she has any feelings for him then she should finish what she started, and i told her that i dont want to be involved with somebody that doesnt give 100%..

she said the usual stuff trying to get me to change my mind but the writing is on the wall, i can tell when a women has other interests..

i got home from her place and booked some tickets to Riga Latvia.., so if anybody is there in july let me know :D we can party...
 

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Last Man Standing said:
I'm saying you should only get emotionally serious with virgins who are committed to you only and will be your wife!!!!

This has been the rule since the beginning of time!!!!!! This is the Natural Order Of Things!!! http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50480
There is some logic here...

I would never make a girl my wife unless I TOOK HER VIRGINITY!

I would never make a girl my girlfriend unless she makes me wait at least 8 dates to have sex with her. Otherwise I'm just ****ing...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sav said:
just an update: i told her that if she has any feelings for him then she should finish what she started, and i told her that i dont want to be involved with somebody that doesnt give 100%..
Never give a woman ultimatums, you come off as being weak.

Tell her (in a sincere tone) you trust her , go on the net and suggests places they should go and hang out (look eager to help her find a good place). Meanwhile starts dating other women and if she asks who they are tell her "its an ex of mine we are just hanging out".

If this doesn't send an alarm bells through her head and doesn't stop her bullsh1t then move on.
 

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k so...

Where can I find a virgin?
Crap... Do I have to go to church...?

Virgins are so rare now days...

Seriously though, where do virgins hang out?
Virgins in Bars? YEAH RIGHT
Guess I'll go to the library tonight...
Still, church right?
hrmmmm which religion do I want to be...?
Which one brain washed girls into good wives?
*googles local churches*
Mormon? Nah I'd have to go on a mission trip for 2 years...
United Pentecostal Church... Darn! None in my area...

Looks like I am never going to procreate!
 

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sav said:
now this girl's ex boyfriend is back in town that i've been seeing, and im kinda thinking of telling her to go **** herself..
Did he pop her cherry? Or her first "love"

The simple fact that she is bringing him up is a red flag!
 

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guys you are missing the point...

i told her that i dont want to see her already.. no ultimatums.. im leaving to Riga.. 7:1 girl:guy ratio there.. :D i feel like a couple of threesomes the first three nights im there :p

its gonna be awesome.. and the fact that im getting away from all the bull**** thats happening here in my personal life (albeit for 1 month) is still enough to set me straight :)

im not running away from all my issues.. im just taking a 1 month break from them and hope they are gone by the time im back haha :)
 

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sav said:
just an update: i told her that if she has any feelings for him then she should finish what she started, and i told her that i dont want to be involved with somebody that doesnt give 100%..

she said the usual stuff trying to get me to change my mind but the writing is on the wall, i can tell when a women has other interests..

i got home from her place and booked some tickets to Riga Latvia.., so if anybody is there in july let me know :D we can party...
Good for you, you made the right choice here. Congrats.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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