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Don't 'what if' yourself into a tizzy.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Her EX Got hold of my number and has contacted me!!!!!!!
- Thread starter Stone1989
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
sylvester the cat
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I've already told you. I 'm Not a parrot that repeats itself.
Yes, your slvt of a girlfriend is completely emotionally unstable, is playing games with you to make her first boyfriend jealous because you both are completely needy, and she has fun playing both of you like a puppet show.
She definetely is still having sex with him and sleeping in his bed, and has been since before he even moved back in.
Srs question, wtf do you think is going to happen when youre gone for two months? And how the hell did you fall in love with this chick already? Jesus Jenny, did she tske your virginity..
She definetely is still having sex with him and sleeping in his bed, and has been since before he even moved back in.
Srs question, wtf do you think is going to happen when youre gone for two months? And how the hell did you fall in love with this chick already? Jesus Jenny, did she tske your virginity..
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
NewToTheGame
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I agree with just about everyone trying to give you advice here. Nothing more needs to be said on that end.
It is time to take a hard look at yourself, particularly at what is going on in your head. This is not said to be mean, only to be helpful from someone who has been there.
I think if you try to trace back your mental process here you will find at its core some level of insecurity. Because I don't think that a guy who is super secure would tolerate this type of situation for a day. He would know that he deserved a more high quality girl and that he would find one eventually. At least one better than this current one.
Because you have this insecurity, when even a low-quality girl shows interest in you, it has a profoundly positive effect on your sense of self. She is validating you in a way that you cannot internally. Whether it be from your choice of profession, your living situation, or because of a rough time growing up...whatever it may be, something is missing inside of you. And that something is genuine confidence and self-worth. Again, otherwise you would walk away from this situation with very little hesitation.
So... when this girl's actions now take AWAY this validating feeling, you feel worse than before when it started. And nobody likes to feel bad. So what happens? A thread like this. Where you are scrambling, hoping, for some sort of explanation, some sort of understanding as to what the **** just happened.
I'll take a shot in the dark at what really happened. You are dealing with a very mixed-up girl. She does like you to some extent. She probably thinks your a great guy. But she knew that she didn't deserve you. So she kept up her side fling with the ex because as bad as he might be, she knows that her ex is someone that is on her level. Destructive people cling to each other in ****ed-up relationships that are far worse than what the AFC can imagine. The mutual violence, cheating, lying, etc only bring them closer together in a twisted co-dependent way.
Confronted with this situation, or some idea that something was amiss between you two, instead of walking away, you tried to save it. She's NOT WORTH saving. And SHE KNOWS this. But that won't stop her from trying to have her cake (you) and eat it too (the ex).
Again, its time to take a look at yourself. Its time to stop trying to prove yourself to women like this, and time to make them prove themselves to you.
It is time to take a hard look at yourself, particularly at what is going on in your head. This is not said to be mean, only to be helpful from someone who has been there.
I think if you try to trace back your mental process here you will find at its core some level of insecurity. Because I don't think that a guy who is super secure would tolerate this type of situation for a day. He would know that he deserved a more high quality girl and that he would find one eventually. At least one better than this current one.
Because you have this insecurity, when even a low-quality girl shows interest in you, it has a profoundly positive effect on your sense of self. She is validating you in a way that you cannot internally. Whether it be from your choice of profession, your living situation, or because of a rough time growing up...whatever it may be, something is missing inside of you. And that something is genuine confidence and self-worth. Again, otherwise you would walk away from this situation with very little hesitation.
So... when this girl's actions now take AWAY this validating feeling, you feel worse than before when it started. And nobody likes to feel bad. So what happens? A thread like this. Where you are scrambling, hoping, for some sort of explanation, some sort of understanding as to what the **** just happened.
I'll take a shot in the dark at what really happened. You are dealing with a very mixed-up girl. She does like you to some extent. She probably thinks your a great guy. But she knew that she didn't deserve you. So she kept up her side fling with the ex because as bad as he might be, she knows that her ex is someone that is on her level. Destructive people cling to each other in ****ed-up relationships that are far worse than what the AFC can imagine. The mutual violence, cheating, lying, etc only bring them closer together in a twisted co-dependent way.
Confronted with this situation, or some idea that something was amiss between you two, instead of walking away, you tried to save it. She's NOT WORTH saving. And SHE KNOWS this. But that won't stop her from trying to have her cake (you) and eat it too (the ex).
Again, its time to take a look at yourself. Its time to stop trying to prove yourself to women like this, and time to make them prove themselves to you.
Hey boys, I don't know why but I know there's hope for me and her... He's a **** and other night went out drink driving his van the idiot cause she didn't wanna talk to him and then she tells me she came home to a letter with me in the letter and saying to her we've for 12 years and you and Sean are still new it's just new to you that's why your feeling like this towards him and left an engagement ring with the letter and said meet me at this place if you don't turn up then I'll know you've made your decision and she never went... Because she said he's trying to force her hand and she said that's not fair and is considering moving into her mums guesthouse for 6 months so she isn't at the house anymore... She tells me till on august and said all the stupid ****ty things he's been doing makes her feel that she shouldn't be with him and that she should be with me??? New info, so new views and opinions in light of this boys??
The minute that guy stops chasing her she'll be blowing his phone up and then she'll be blowing him.
What is her plan after 6 months in the guesthouse, and what are you gonna do if shes still living w. Her BOYFRIEND when you get back?
Dude tell her you dont want involved im this drama and if she wants to be with you she needs to tell him its over and to delete all her contact info.
And it still wont even work out cause like you've read i assume, girls act on emotion. 12 years veing together is a long time, she will screw you over with him the second you guys fight.
My ex of 3 years hits me up everytime her and her bf argue. Bang her and then move on.
What is her plan after 6 months in the guesthouse, and what are you gonna do if shes still living w. Her BOYFRIEND when you get back?
Dude tell her you dont want involved im this drama and if she wants to be with you she needs to tell him its over and to delete all her contact info.
And it still wont even work out cause like you've read i assume, girls act on emotion. 12 years veing together is a long time, she will screw you over with him the second you guys fight.
My ex of 3 years hits me up everytime her and her bf argue. Bang her and then move on.
Stone1989 said:
new infos, old advices, everything we said before still holds, but since I think we are being too gentle I will be pretty direct here.
She is still FVCKING HIM, all your info comes from her, the part who is not interest in telling the truth and only to let you gravitating around her.
take this time and stop talking with her, have fun in canada and when you go back DON'T, I repeat DON'T look for her.