"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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her conversations are devoid of any talks of men

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I dunno, i mean they say its a good sign when a girl makes herself available to you by not bringing up other men. but its just weird when they NEVER bring up any guys at all.

what's the DJ community think about this?

as far as context. she also values opinions of mine both professionally and personally. how do i know this. she wants me to validate her a lot.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Because she probably digs you and just you and doesn't want to talk about other men because a good woman knows this is not what you really want to hear!

I am sure she has her past and encounters but she may be enjoying what she has or wants with you and why bring up the stepping stones that got us to the other side of the river?

I have been around way too many women who talk about ex-boyfirends, ex-husbands, ex-lovers and it is a total turn off because next thing I know I'm taken off into some imaginary notion of their past and some random guy boning her -- lovely image isn't it?

She sounds like a good one!
 

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Buddha_Mind said:
Because she probably digs you and just you and doesn't want to talk about other men because a good woman knows this is not what you really want to hear!

I am sure she has her past and encounters but she may be enjoying what she has or wants with you and why bring up the stepping stones that got us to the other side of the river?

I have been around way too many women who talk about ex-boyfirends, ex-husbands, ex-lovers and it is a total turn off because next thing I know I'm taken off into some imaginary notion of their past and some random guy boning her -- lovely image isn't it?

She sounds like a good one!
see i tend to agree. she's hard to read though.

i mean i know she talks to lots of guys hell in class. i see her text routinely four or five guys on the regular and lets not even talk about how many men swoon over her facebook. she's got a full bullpen on men waiting to get between her legs. she gets hook ups at any bar she goes to from the male bartenders even owners.

Joking around i say you gotta get hit on A LOT when you go out with friends. she says she never does. in my head i'm like BULLSH*T

although i did have it wrong i though this one dude she talked to CONSTANTLY was the dude she was banging. turned out he was gay. how do i know? because he's made a pass at me twice now. (no problem with gay people but that doesn't fly) of course he was joking but no guy would take it THAT far.

our vernacular has changed context a lot over the past 2 years because the first year and half we just kept giving each other glances all day during the several classes we had together.

THE PROBLEM here is i think she knows TO MUCH about men. she knwos how they act when they want her/are attracted to her

that's a problem when a girl knows she's attractive and also knows how men act around her when they find her attractive. although i've knocked her off her throne a few times. because she asked me for something. and i said it takes a lot more than a pretty face to impress me. she's like well you've never seen me with a pretty face.

how do you deal with these alpha females?
 

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cfdagola said:
see i tend to agree. she's hard to read though.

i mean i know she talks to lots of guys hell in class. i see her text routinely four or five guys on the regular and lets not even talk about how many men swoon over her facebook. she's got a full bullpen on men waiting to get between her legs. she gets hook ups at any bar she goes to from the male bartenders even owners.

Joking around i say you gotta get hit on A LOT when you go out with friends. she says she never does. in my head i'm like BULLSH*T

although i did have it wrong i though this one dude she talked to CONSTANTLY was the dude she was banging. turned out he was gay. how do i know? because he's made a pass at me twice now. (no problem with gay people but that doesn't fly) of course he was joking but no guy would take it THAT far.

our vernacular has changed context a lot over the past 2 years because the first year and half we just kept giving each other glances all day during the several classes we had together.

THE PROBLEM here is i think she knows TO MUCH about men. she knwos how they act when they want her/are attracted to her

that's a problem when a girl knows she's attractive and also knows how men act around her when they find her attractive. although i've knocked her off her throne a few times. because she asked me for something. and i said it takes a lot more than a pretty face to impress me. she's like well you've never seen me with a pretty face.

how do you deal with these alpha females?
I want to pass down the advice I was given recently with college girls.

You cant take them serious at first. She should not be the center of your world. You should not push to see her more and more, the more she likes you. Most importantly you seriously need to be indifferent.

Who cares if she doesnt talk about other men, boyfriends, ex lovers whatever. Just HAVE FUN with her and dont worry about what the outcome will be with her.

Pursue and spin other plates, it will help you to not over think and care so much about one broad all the time, there are soooooooooo many women out there to go crazy over just one.

Dont show her that your thinking about why she doesnt bring up men, shes aloud to text other men, shes aloud to hang with other men, shes not your GF. You should be hanging and talking to just as many girls as she is men!

Take things with her slow and indifferent...and just keep it light and fun. Always. As soon as you show these young college girls that you are really into her and she starts to have you figured out, she will flake, you will lose.

Just my personal experience recently with a few college girls.
 
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