Her Brain Vs Your Brain

[soulforge]

Your holding onto her late at night, cuddling her, making her feel safe & loved.

Your brain - She feels safe in my arms, I'm proving to her, that I'm a good man who will give her the effection she desperately wants & needs.

Her brain - Tyrone never cuddled me like this.. Was I not good enough for him? I couldn't have been good enough for him. How can I prove to him that I'm worth his time & attention. Let me message Tyrone tomorrow.

 

[soulforge]

I cuddle by pushing her face in my crotch so she can use my trouser snake as a pacifier.

That's definitely the best way to cuddle lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That works only if you choose to have surface level relationships your entire life.

 

[Gamisch]

I see what you try to do

And yes you do have a point. Many of us have been burned by showing best intentions and yet end up dumbfounded when we learn we " apparently " were simping.


Something seemingly as sweet as cuddling apparently has the opposite effect on a lot of women. Or buying flowers, or saying she's beautiful ect.

Theory like THIS is why the redpill ideology is banned from reddit for example. . Somehow this isn't something that people wanna hear.

 

[Serenity]

*applies to broken women

 

[logicallefty]

I cuddle with my woman before and after sex, but rarely any other time.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Maybe she is an Alpha-Widow or you are simply not at the top of her High Score List. Only way to avoid this is to f0ck her before Tyrone or have way better SMV and way better bedroom skills than Tyrone.

Implying this is always the case or that all women are like these would be a cope ("I will never commit to any woman ever because no women are worth committing to"). But I admit most (not all) situations could be like this, exceptions make the rules.

 

[Learning Curve]

Well, this is a yes and a no.

Depends on how much a woman is invested in you.

If she is the one usually initiating the cuddling and love-doby stuff most of the time it's fine. Nothing to worry about.

The problem starts when a man is overdoing the lovy dobby stuff and gets out of control becoming needy and pathetic.

My current GF is literally texting me 6-7 texts in a row saying how much she loves me, lovy stuff and so-on i don't really do that much.

I of-course give some of it back but not the the extend she is and i have her on the hook each time. Most guys just loose it and move to this pleaser beta mode expressing their feelings and love and man it back-fires so hard you cant imagine.

 

[CornbreadFed]

What’s the point of dating with this mindset?

 

[The Duke]

Too many mental gymnastics. It doesn't need to be so difficult. Date higher quality women. Keep women like this as bedroom toys only.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Who is this Tyrone that you guys are talking about? And why would you have any serious designs for a woman who’s lusting after “Tyrone”? No need for cuddles. Just double wrap it before you tap it.

 

[RangerMIke]

We all want what we can't have, and we value more things that are hard to attain.

It's human nature... not just chicks, although they are more emotional. Men, as a general rule, are capable of rationally evaluating a situation then be okay with a compromise. Women.... not so much.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Your holding onto her late at night, cuddling her, making her feel safe & loved.

Your brain - She feels safe in my arms, I'm proving to her, that I'm a good man who will give her the effection she desperately wants & needs.

Her brain - Tyrone never cuddled me like this.. Was I not good enough for him? I couldn't have been good enough for him. How can I prove to him that I'm worth his time & attention. Let me message Tyrone tomorrow.

Such pain :’(. if this is you please know you are loved and you don’t need to end your life. We are all here for you <3

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

I cuddle by pushing her face in my crotch so she can use my trouser snake as a pacifier.

do you ask for consent? Or no?