I'm new at this myself.. not a pua like all the other new-gen-donjuans in here... but being an amog I know much about (without being humble or politacally correct now.. just trying to make a point guys) and I can without a doubt say that I know it well...
since she obviusly was so taken by ur words that she actually told about it to her male friends.. remember that a girl never ever tells about a guy to other guys if she knows that they care about her so much that they would do something about it... allthough she would never ask for it...
and judging by that it seems that u've really hurt this girls feelings.. and that is NOT the intention of negs...
the intention of a neg (most negs, not all) is to make it look like ur trying to give her a complimant but that u dont think that there is much about her to give complimants about...
but then again im no psychologist or a pua so I could be wrong..
But about those guys I am sure that I know what I'm talking about...
I've been a boxer/prizefighter and a bouncer so long now that I think I know how to make others not want to be on ones bad side and to those of you who think that it has anything to do with me possibly being a big guy or that people might know about me or my rep.. ur all wrong!
I'm a welterweight fighter so I am NOT big, I'm 171cm tall and whey only 70 kilograms fro those who don't know the wight categories.. so it cant be that people se me as a big scary guy... and as for people knowing my rep.. I live in oslo and don´t know anybody here... And I mean NOBODY except for my colleagues at work who I spend all my spare time with.. and most of them dont know about my past... then what makes people listen to me, follow me (my co-workers) and not want to be on my bad side? I'ts because of one simple thing... I dont let them!!! (people in groups try all the time to be best in the gruop in every little thing and if they get any role in the grup as for ex. the clown, the smart one, the funny one or the amog.. its beacause u've given up the right for that role!!)
and that seems to be what u lack..
Remember this.... whenever confronted by any guy wether its an amog an afc or whatever... be calm, look like u arent even bothered by the confrontation and do NOT excuse urself or make jokes to ease the tension... at all!!! these are signs of weakness and and any real amog knows that that is also a sign that the confronted person is accepting having made the accused mistake... and that right there is enough at least for me, to make u hurt...
What u should have done is to act like u didnt even realize that u had hurt her fealings... "not that u care though.." but that that wasnt the intention.. and u should have implied that it would be a misstake for them to want to takes it any further...
maybe by saying something like...
"hahhahahahahah... if I had known that I would have ended up in yet another brawl tonight I would have brought my friends along for the fun.. but that wasnt why I came here for... by the way guys, do yall know that u all look like the brady bunch sisters when u stand there like that.. hahahah, so what do u say we make this story short and I'll go over there with u and have a chat with here myself to smooth things over and then yall can by me a drink for scaring the **** out of me like this..." then look at the biggest one of em and say "I'm sure I know u from somewhere.. whatever, I'll let u know when I find out from where I know u..." and then shake his hand and iontroduce urself and be sure to squeze his hand hard!!! then shake hands with the other guys and look em all straight in the eyes.. then keep talkin to em and just change the subject at this point or if not keep talking about the girl and find out how they all know eachother..
it's gutsy but I'm sure that u now would have 50/50 chans of them bringing u over to theire group.. (which would now make u the amog, or at least the chance to make urself the amog) and they would definately not want to take it any further than just laughing nervously about the whole thing... If u make eyecontact the whole time and not play around with ur feet or hands or something else to make u look nervous while saying the line above... if u look nervous ur done.. if u make jokes ur done.. if u lose eycontact with the biggest one of em ur done... and most importantly if u imply that u were wrong ur done...
(remember that if those guys are all big, buffed, stoned, and/or have jailhouse tattos or some other surreal badboy feature **** like facial scars or something... just freakin run away... do NOT say what is written above... its not easy to fake being an amog among hardcore guys, trust me... hahah)
cause if I personally had wanted to pick a fight or just make someone look bad for doing what u did trust me I would have F***ed u up if u had just given me any little excuse for doing so...
just a tip... the only thing u can do to make me not hurt u or make u look bad and be outcast from the gruop is IF u let me know that u dont give a **** but that it all was a missunderstanding anyway.. then just change the subject and let me (implyingly) know that u probably have the ability to make look bad in another situation elsewhere... cause that would be bad for me as an amog or average guy and therefore i dont want to take that risk...
SIMPLE... the bottomline is: show them that u are somebody but that u acknowledge that they are as well.......... get it?!
good luck next time... and good sarging to yall guys!