Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Her acting cold and indifferent, a sign or not?

rimman

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New to this board, not new to the game..

English as a second language, so bear with me.

Just wondering a bit of signals

This chick who gives me the gaze and ****. Eventually got her facebook and later instant messenger and such.

Partly because I wanted to try out the net thing. My game out on a street/club is no problem.



****y funny and stuff worked. And so forth. never a problem


Sat on a bus when her and some friend of hers got on. she saw me and became really nervous.
And sat down almost right in front of me pretending to not see me.
I waited and enjoyed seeing her sweat for i while, until I put my hand on her shoulder..
I had never heard i girl scream like that before. All her anxiety bursted out.
Didn´t get much good out of that conversation though but she sure liked it by the look of her.




The another week i accidentially met her on another bus (yeah bus).
I sat down next to her and started talking

however.. the longer it progressed the more "cold" or introverted she became.

Eventually the only thing she said was "I don´t know" on whatever i asked/joked about.

I am in no way a wuss, more to the opposite.

So I said to her "Well, can´t you atleast pretend to enjoy the conversation", pointing out that she was beeing rude.
She answered something like "No, i don´t know if I am"
She said goodbye when i got off, i didn't bother to answer.



The thing Im thinking is if her becoming more cold was her way of dealing with nervousnes, her way of trying to act as not being bothered.

Or maybe her attraction got lost.

Or a bad day

Just wondering if sudden cold behavior is something anyone encountered.



Not going one-itis as you call it, just interested if this is a special case or a more or less common behavior.
would say she´s 9 face 7 body, with more than i can count wussies kissing her ass.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jitterbug

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Maybe, just maybe she isn't actually enjoying it and you're about to get a restraining order.
 

rimman

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Lol yeah

Sure if my success with women where that limited i could take your word for it..

It could be the reason, but i doubt it.
 

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Jitterbug is correct imho if a girl sits straight infront of you and pretends your not there than it's all over. next!

my curiosity why are you even asking questions that imply she has to pretend towards you? that in itself is evidence of wrong question wrong analysis of the situation.
 

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Sir I said:
Jitterbug is correct imho if a girl sits straight infront of you and pretends your not there than it's all over. next!

my curiosity why are you even asking questions that imply she has to pretend towards you? that in itself is evidence of wrong question wrong analysis of the situation.

yeah, i get your point. I said it to make a point in that i don't tolerate such manners.

anyways the point isn't really her. I'am more curious over the all of a sudden coldness, witch from my point of view was not inflicted by me. I want to know for the future
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sir I said:
Jitterbug is correct imho if a girl sits straight infront of you and pretends your not there than it's all over. next!
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Ehh I think you're probably wrong. Normally, when a girl sits in front of you or near you with her back turned, it's a pretty big IOI. I guess it depends upon her behavior/body language when she sat in front of him, but that is generally the case.

Was she twirling her hair? Was she texting/playing with her phone?

Those would be huge IOI's in that situation.

You have to figure man, a girl who doesn't want a guy to talk to her is going to sit as far away from him as possible, not directly in front of him. It doesn't matter if her back is turned or not.

However, there might be a chance you came off as a complete douche in the conversation you had with her. It doesn't sound like that went well at all. Or, there is a possibility that she is just shy/nervous/socially awkward.
 

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yeah off course its with her back turned the first time, trying to act as if she´d not seen me.. definitely IOI (as I said, been around the block)

At time of conversation the girl was sitting to my left..
And she sat like stiff poser doll sort of. Straight up with her purse on her knees.

but sure, i can come of as a total douche. 6,3 205 with a ****y attitude.
but then again I have no problem talking to ladies, it's more the men who gets annoyed by my manners.

Maybe her beeing a younger age than me.. IE she´s socially awkward.

Well this strange sudden behavior got me , so thankyou for the different views.
 
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