"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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alright, this will be my first post so here goes:

i'm kinda new in town, and there's a girl (better be if i'm posting here huh?)

on i think i've been put in the friends catagory and a big damn on that note.

other than cut it off (the chit chat, we talk in emails and ****), what can i do?

i need advice on how to "get her"
one problem is that she has a bf, and i'm not totally sure she's interested in me, i hope she is but that just might be my delusional world playing tricks on me (i told the monky in my brain to be quiet, and to tell the bird in my mouth to shut up too)
plus she lives down the street from me (be nice to just walk over and start making out, course then i'd wake up from my dream)

me, i'm shy, yet funny (most people know me for my dry wit and my brain), don't play sports, and a recovering nerd

how can i make this work?

also what are all the acronyms like ljbf is let's just be friends i think, but especially AFC?

ok if you really want to talk to me, my email is [email protected]

don't know how many people will see this post and care, but thanks for the time

also i'm sure there are other people in the same situation so they need help too, maybe
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yeah, i think you need to know what AFC Means

i need advice on how to "get her"

We don't come here to get girls.

to quote Pook:

"we become so damn awesome we make the girls chase us!"

have you read the Bible at all?
sounds like you have oneitis to me.

You might want to read the posts in the bible BEFORE you post., especially those by Pook.
If NONE ELSE read all of those by Pook, if it takes you 3 days.
 

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minor update

alright thanks for the quick response:

first off read part/most of the bible

the parts by Pook were indead very enlightening

about oneitis, might be...
i think my main problem is fear of rejection which i know is stupid, if only for the reason if she rejects me i'm going to college in a few months anyways

hmmmm still what to do?

and what is AFC?!?!?!?
 

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bout to go to sleep.

but rejection... I still struggle with that fear myself... youll have to get another opioin on that one:D

Golden Medal is good.
that movtivated me.

Search for it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wow, another update, hurray?

ok more info about me to help you help me, mmk?

read about kino, (yay i actually understand what it means, though how the word kino came up? weird)

i really don't think i'm that confident and/or would just feel akward about doing it, plus what is non-sexual touching? like just tapping somebody on the shoulder? seems kinda worthless to me, but hey what the hell do i know?

i find i can talk to most everybody, but i am an *******, sarcastic and mean, of course anybody who is stupid enough to listen to me disgusts me.

about the oneitis thing, might be, i'm in a kinda small town, very small school, only 77 of us seniors, she's about the only girls i would even consider being on a date with, of course she's taken, some college ass, onlyhome on a few weekends, i could exploit that, but that might push her away, i mean that's pretty extreme

ok that's it for now
thanks for any help you can give me
 
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