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[sinnerman]

So heres something that happened with my long term gf(on and off). She calls in morning I did not receive as I was sleeping. Calls me a few hours later accuses me of returning other people's calls while not returning hers. When I asked her whats wrong she doesnt respond. She was visibly upset but tells me she'll call later. I call her up after few minutes she doesnt answer. So I leave it at that. She calls me 9 hours later at night. I dont receive as Im out with friends at a party and the music is loud. I text her ''not alone buzz you when I get free.'' I called her up a few minutes back and ask her what happened to her in the morning. She doesnt answer saying I'll tell you when you're alone. And then goes on talking about random **** and mentions she talked to a few people today. I was like who. So she mentioned one of her female friends and another guy who happens to be her best friends boyfriend. So I was a bit surprised how come but didnot ask her. After reaching home I call her up ask her what was wrong. So she mentions something about her health and basically doesnt say much and tells me that I dont return her calls and that I yelled at her. I explained that it was coz of loud music and she wasnt answering me about what was wrong with her in morning even after I left the party to talk to her.So she says yeah but I did not force you to..I wanted you to enjoy while you were out..I was like yeah fine..we were already in the fight mode after which the afc in me some how forced me to initiate the following question


ME : How come he(the friend's bf) called you ?
HER(annoyingly): Why ?
ME(already annoyed from her behaviour in morning and evading my question): you cant answer even a simple question in a normal way without picking a fight ?
HER : he just forwarded a text(earlier she had said she had a conversation)
ME(sarcastically) : Yea Im sorry I asked you a question. Next time I wont because you've to take everything as an invitation to initiate a fight.
HER : yeah dont.
ME : you know what infact I will ask as Im curious. You ask me a lot of thing
HER(sarcastically) : Better idea you dont ask me and I wont ask you.
HER : I told you that he forwarded a text, after which we talked, do I have to give every detail of the conversation ?
ME : well you ask me for every detail about gals I talk with and I didn't ask you or demand any explanations. I was just surprised that you talk to him
HER : Yea I know him since 4 years. what do you think that you should be the only person who calls me ?
(we only know each other since a year and this pissed me off beyond anything as she had mentioned this line earlier also not so long back when we got into a serious fight related to her friends)
ME(angrily) : you dont have any right to disrespect me. I dont care how long you know him. There is no need to rub it in my face or for reminding me that you know people before we started dating.
HER : you started the comparision and I wasnt rubbing anything just telling you that Ive not started talking out of blue with anyone. If you feel that I was rubbing it in your face then it was not so.
ME : Well then why the hell are you calling me for. Call him instead.
HER : you're being childish and immature.
ME : really..well you always ask me about the girls I talk with whats the big deal if I just ask how come he is talking with you.
HER : I dont ask you like this
ME : (reminded her of a recent time when she asked why my phone was busy at 1 am and I told her I was talking to a female friend)
HER : that is because you had some what of a history with that girl.
HER : And I told you but your voice is in fighting mode
ME : you did not tell me. you asked ''why'' as if I was accusing you.
HER: I dont wish to fight...any further..Ive college in the morning.
ME : Yea Bye

Now question is how do I proceed.I know Ive screwed up big time by acting jealous and all.I dont even know if she'll call back tommorow. Dont want to completely break things off but want to set an example here so that this is not repeated. She is jealous types and gets jealous easily but if I become a lil possessive then she starts fights like this and will take a break.

 

[terran2k]

nice way to let that b!tch talk to you like you're a piece of sh!t.
I woulda probably hung up on that chic in the middle of one of her sentences, until she learns to talk to me like a human being.

 

[bigneil]

Women like that need to be put in their place.

One chick pulled this on me recently. My fourth reply was "Fvck you (her name here)". I then ignored her next 4 text messages and didn't respond until the next day when she had promised to see me. Turned out she got a kick out of my message and after sleeping with me the next night told me "I told my mom and sister what you said and they laughed! THEY know how I am!".

Don't think a woman will be offended when you put them in their place. You need to show a backbone and if you do they will secretly love it.

Another option: Just ignore them until they come back to their normal self. In general you should avoid them when they are cranky anyway.

 

[Chickfight]

Man, she's a girl. They all get jealous. You'll have a problem when she doesn't get jealous anymore.
It is a form of insecurity and you really did get jealous over nothing and then you tried to justify it by saying "well, she gets jealous too". Sorry to break this to you, but women and men are not the same. She's acting how girls act and you gotta be cool and handle it like a man. Getting jealous will make her lose respect for you and resent you.

The situation right now does not seem that serious. Just let it cool off for a couple of days and then call her and sweet talk her for a bit, but it's not going work in the long term if you don't get over jealousy.

 

[LoneWolf]

you were doing good until you started getting jealous. i would never of said that to my girl. the way i see it you put her back up with a bit of power. who cares if a guy calls her, just cause she gets jealous when girls talk to you, you dont have to start acting like she does. almost every girl has guy friends, it's like, inevitable. could of been a great phone conversation but you ruined it

to me, i trust the girl to not do anything disrespectful, its my way of testing them. i like to observe if my girlfriend has it in her to do anything bad behind my back, if she has it in her to do that then it wasnt meant to be and i would of been glad to find out. if she doesn,t then i know she really loves me. the only time i ever step my foot down on a girl is if they make me do something i dont want to do or if they keep lying or flaking on our dates.. stuff like that. things that waste my time

though i'm sure she still loves you very much. just dont do it again. call her up and tell her "lets forget about that conversation and start over.. lets go grab some coffee" and dont talk about that night again.

 

[sinnerman]

Man, she's a girl. They all get jealous. You'll have a problem when she doesn't get jealous anymore.
It is a form of insecurity and you really did get jealous over nothing and then you tried to justify it by saying "well, she gets jealous too". Sorry to break this to you, but women and men are not the same. She's acting how girls act and you gotta be cool and handle it like a man. Getting jealous will make her lose respect for you and resent you.

The situation right now does not seem that serious. Just let it cool off for a couple of days and then call her and sweet talk her for a bit, but it's not going work in the long term if you don't get over jealousy.

i know i did...but when i asked her about it the first time she could have simply said yeah we talked about this or that or whatever..instead she asks why..it was just a simple question.and yea i know i screwed up by being jealous.

she is not the kind of person who gets sweet talked after a few days. if i have to apologize then i must do it today otherwise she'll bring back every little fight we had in past and turn table on me. Is no contact game advisable and if so then for how many days ?

 

[sinnerman]

you were doing good until you started getting jealous. i would never of said that to my girl. the way i see it you put her back up with a bit of power. who cares if a guy calls her, just cause she gets jealous when girls talk to you, you dont have to start acting like she does. almost every girl has guy friends, it's like, inevitable. could of been a great phone conversation but you ruined it

to me, i trust the girl to not do anything disrespectful, its my way of testing them. i like to observe if my girlfriend has it in her to do anything bad behind my back, if she has it in her to do that then it wasnt meant to be and i would of been glad to find out. if she doesn,t then i know she really loves me. the only time i ever step my foot down on a girl is if they make me do something i dont want to do or if they keep lying or flaking on our dates.. stuff like that. things that waste my time

though i'm sure she still loves you very much. just dont do it again. call her up and tell her "lets forget about that conversation and start over.. lets go grab some coffee" and dont talk about that night again.

yea i was doing great..getting calls from her everyday..getting her pics as mms and so on..but its not all rosy..she lives in a different town and we have been on and off so cant ask her out for coffee.

last time she was here a few weeks back she only met once and then made plans with the mentioned friend and his friends for a movie and told me its over between us as her parents donot approve of our relationship and she doesnt want to lie at home and that its the last time..we had a huge fight about her wavering mind and with the fact that she has time for movies with friends to which she responded with that ''knowing him since 4 years'' line but nothing came out of it and again no contact..next da i got like 50 calls from her after which she apologized for her behaviour and then kept on calling everyday till yesterday...thing is she sometimes shows high interest level and sometimes act as if we're strangers and she doesnt respond to me being nice...when I dont return her calls and become a jerk she shows high interest level.. when Im there for her or try to make plans with her when she is going to be in town she'll become a stranger.

question is how to proceed further..if she calls how do i respond to her or should i do a ganji game or anything else ?

 

[sinnerman]

thanks terran2k bigneil chickfight and lonewolf for your responses

 

[LoneWolf]

wow.. i think this girl is a mind game bro. if i was you id just look for another chick and keep her on the side until you do. don't even bother with her anymore. a girl who keeps stuffing up plans with you and playing those kinda games doesnt deserve your time. let her make the next plans and if she stuffs it up one more time just forget about her bro. you can find someone who doesnt screw you around. find someone who makes you happy

 

[sinnerman]

wow.. i think this girl is a mind game bro. if i was you id just look for another chick and keep her on the side until you do. don't even bother with her anymore. a girl who keeps stuffing up plans with you and playing those kinda games doesnt deserve your time. let her make the next plans and if she stuffs it up one more time just forget about her bro. you can find someone who doesnt screw you around. find someone who makes you happy

you are right..and im casually goin out with other gals..nuthing too serious but still..thing is when its going good with her im more happy than im with these other gals..anyways..havent contacted her today and she hasnt as well..we usually talk at night before going to bed..she usually calls up..and ive also decided not to call back..lets see how it goes..and thanks for the input...lemme know if u got some good advice abt how to behave and talk next time she calls.