"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lishy

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I am in the weirdest situation ever and I am gonna ask you guys here for advise!

I have been 'seeing'? this guy for a month now, we speak every day, he takes me out, he cooks me dinner, I cook him dinner, we talk for hours on end and share stuff about our pasts ... We went out on night a week ago and ended up kissing for the first time! Yes the FIRST Time! It went much further and we ended up having sex and since then he rings far more often and sees me far more often

We do coupley things like take the dog for a walk, he is concerned about me and vice versa.

There is just no intimacy apart from that night! No hand holding, no touching but there are looks between us if you know what I mean

When he leaves he kisses me on the mouth and that is it. It is a slightly lingering kiss but a peck on the mouth nonetheless!

Never in my life have I been in this position! Help me out here

Of course I know you will all say just talk to him and I will when the time is right, what I really want from posting this is to find out if any of you have been in this weird position before
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well, from a guy's perspective, I'll say that it's weird to be totally non-sexual with a woman you've dated for a month.

This guy sounds weak to me, but if if you really want this to work the only thing you can do is just take charge sexually. I remember a text I got from a girl I dated 2 years ago: "I know there's football on today, but after the game can you drive over here and f**k me."

Stuff like that. This guy sounds like he needs to grow up. A woman has needs.

But honestly, your man sounds weird to me. Looks like it's up to you to bring out the sexual side of this relationship. A travesty, I say.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Well, from a guy's perspective, I'll say that it's weird to be totally non-sexual with a woman you've dated for a month.

This guy sounds weak to me, but if if you really want this to work the only thing you can do is just take charge sexually. I remember a text I got from a girl I dated 2 years ago: "I know there's football on today, but after the game can you drive over here and f**k me."

Stuff like that. This guy sounds like he needs to grow up. A woman has needs.

But honestly, your man sounds weird to me. Looks like it's up to you to bring out the sexual side of this relationship. A travesty, I say.
I agree that its weird ... I have never had this happen before

I do like him so what do I do? Its so hard to talk about it as this is putting me off even though I do like him
 
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