thewickedm said:
Yes I agree that I don't know much about romance. Guess the fact that she's younger than me makes it even more of a clownish thing eh? thanks for the feedback.
True, my ego was bruised jonwon, how do i cure that? she's starting to treat me much better since i called her on her sh!t. Just want to know how to take it from there like a man.
Ok, It's clear your not going to do what is seriously required.
But if you are going to stick with this chick at least aknowledge her poor behaviour and rightly so call her out on it, only puss* think about hurting her feelings or loosing the chick - at the end of the day she crossed a line, in my book she either apologised profusly of she is dust.
And that's what you need to do, you need to firm and hard with her:
Her
"Your the consolation prize (saying this with upmost seriousness, not making a joke of it"
You
"Are you for real"
Her
"Yeh I like a guy, I couldn't have him so I settled for you"
You
"First, get over yourself, second, talk to me like that again, your out the door on your ear"
If she doesn't apologise at that stage, boot her out, I mean that to the upmost degree.
Women shi* test, that is a given, but with sure signs of blatent disrespect, your forgiven to give them a shot over the bow, but in your case you already did this, I feel your problem is, you didn't milk it, or should I say you went back to being a nice guy afterwards.
What you should do, is ramp up the dic* inside you, not being abusive but at least making her know that if she steps out of line again, she is dust.
The problem you have is that her actions and her infractions have not dented your interest in her, you've pritty much given her a golden free ticket to be a cun* - that is what you have done, the damage is done, like others have said.
But I can tell you want to try to salvage it, the only way your going to really salvage it, is to not be so invested in it, I.e she knows she has you invested, that is why she is blowing hot and cold - she knows no matter how much she does, you'll always come back for round two.
The only way your women will respect you, is if she knows if she fuc*ks up again she is history, she probably wont believe you due to your actions in the past, and that's the problem.
You can break up with her again, you can argue your case, or you can be a bit of a dic*.
Personnally, i'd start being a bit of a dcik, if she started her little games.
Her
"I like a guy better than you, I couldn't have him so I settled for you"
You
"Oh really" - Then take yourself out at the weekend find a nice bar slu* and screw her brains out, go back the next day! Trust me, those little blips on her radar wont matter.
Or
Her
"Your not getting sex tonight"
You
"Thats what you think"
Men think this is counter-productive, but listen now and listen good, this is not counter-productive. If your women is showing you disrespect, you tell her firm and hard for her to not do that otherwise she is dust, or if you want to absorb it, add it as another x against her name and use it as a motivator to get out there and meet and even sleep with other women.
I mean this! Totally and utterly.
To me I have no problems doing the above, to a nice guy, that stuff is like swearing off god in a church -
You wont do either, but eventually you may and that is why I responded, eventually, you may be sat in a bar, some cutie will come along, your still with your GF - the cutie, pays a few compliments, remember at that time just how cra* your current GF is, and seriously! Enjoy yourself.
You'd think you'd loose your women afterwards?! Not true, it makes you aloof, it makes you none concerned.
I'm not telling you to cheat on a girl out-right, but I am telling you if your Girl shows disrespect like your girl is doing at least start seriously considering spinning more plates and at the very least, tell her in no uncertain terms, you being the man that you are, dont put up with that shi*.
Edit - Also never ever EVER apologise for standing up for yourself, she will press the issue after you laid down the law - most guys will apologise or say sorry for standing up to their ball sack - you do not do that, you stand up to your first point.
Her
"You'd really finish with me other something so trivial"
You
"I wouldn't test me"
