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[juancarlosmhz]

Ok so this is my story.
Im an 18 year old guy, average looking around 5''9 and with a great body.
Before I got into this site, I was a nice guy, I used to let my friend´s opinions bother me to much. I didnt think it was possible for me to attract women, well at least nice looking or decent women. I was shy and whenever a girl looked at me i'll look away, I was always negative and had a low self-steem. When I started reading the articles at this site my sucess with women went up amazingly, my attitude changed aswell, I started attracting women and I was confident in my game. I went from being a shy person to being an outgoing one. Everything seemed to go well. I felt like i could attract any girl I wanted and knew for a fact that many girls felt attraction towards me.
After some time I lost track of this site and slowly began to lose my confidence. I stoped exercicing and got out of shape. I started to lose contact with my girl-friends and I began hang out more with my insecure friends. I let their insecurities take over me, I started behaving more like them and now im afraid of becoming the nice guy I was in the past. I got into shape again and started to read the articles at this site again, but it doesnt seem to work, I don´t know how to recover the confidence I once had with girls. I don't know how to get rid of all this insecurities.

If anyone has come across an experience like this I would appreciate their advice.

 

[jeffthechef]

during the first few motnsh after finding htis site...i was excited...and my life with the ladies was much ebtter...but like you, it went away...

i never really understood the articles or put in the work...of course i understood what they were saying...but only on the surface level, as you probably do too...and i only took what i thought were quick fixes...i never really changed..i just did different things...and that's not enough

you have to change yourself..not just waht you do...any guy can start doing things differently, but if he's the same guy inside, he'll never be able to do what he is doing consistently because he will pull himself back

you need to really change yourself...did you fully read the dj bible"?...have you actually done the inner development **** too??

 

[eaglez1177]

Jeff is right...you have to change yourself on the inside, not on the surface. It seems to me that during the time when you were succeeding with women, that it was all just a cover up, and wasnt really the actual you. Am I right? Its not a matter of losing track of this site and losing your confidence, and its not a matter of reading the articles on here and then just magically having your game improve. Its a matter of improving on the inside, and making the change permanent, not a temporary cover.

 

[juancarlosmhz]

I guess I havent thought of it that way,
but how do I do the inner development part jeff talked about?