Help!

[danslenoir]

So tonight is the first "date" date I've had in a long, long time. I'm 23, but previous hookups have been more through friends etc, this date has been lined up through a dating site.

Anyway, I feel incredibly rusty and a bit of a pep talk would be much appreciated! I'm gonna take her to a little pub on a canal somewhere close to where we both live which hopefully won't be too busy on a Sun night.

What I'd really like to know is whether to go for the first date kiss or not? I've heard so much conflicting opinion on this. Also, she has never met anyone from the internet before so I'm guessing she might be a bit shy/weirded out by the whole experience. Any way of telling whether I'd be better going for it or holding off?

We've (bad idea I know) exhausted lots of convo topics through quite lengthly IM chats so I hope I don't run out of things to say. Things to look out for to indicate whether she is interested or not?

Cheers!

 

[Igetit!]

Hey,congrats on the date man.This is a loaded question you've asked.It would be helpful to have more information,like how long you have known each other,how often you 2 have communicated,what sort of vibe are you feeling,etc.

 

[danslenoir]

Mmmm I messaged her for the first time about a week ago, maybe slightly longer. We've been having some quite lengthly IM conversations since then (one until 4am!). Vibes have generally been good, but I guess it's hard to be sure.

Just called her for the first time to sort out time/place etc for tonight and it was a little awkward as such things invariably are but I'm sure it will be better in person, especially with a glass of wine or two