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[Telos]

Boyfriend of girl I am seeing sexually wants to slit my throat and has vowed to next time he sees me with his girlfriend again. I remain calm and tell him that would be the worst mistake of his life.

She wants out of the relationship but also seems simultaneously hesitant. He is deathly afraid of losing her and literally calls her 20 times a day to check up on where she is... which is driving her insane. He's a control freak, has nothing to offer (makes minimum wage, plans on living in a trailer), and never lets her out of his sight for more than 10 minutes.

Do I back the **** off and wait for her to break up with him? Tell this ****ing clown to try me and **** him up? Run boyfriend destroyer and keep painting him as a nice guy AFC (which I've been doing all along)? I normally wouldn't put so much effort into a situation like this but I have a past with this girl.

I have a feeling the most popular answer is going to be NEXT, but for the sake of discussion lets say that isn't an option. I will ignore any responses along that line, so please don't waste your effort.

 

[KontrollerX]

I won't tell you to next her but I will tell you she is currently stringing you along (which isn't to say you aren't a boyfriend candidate its just saying you are stuck in a holding pattern of her making currently) and making excuses for not cutting the chord to this guy outright.

The reason for that is despite what she tells you about this guy being annoying or she's worried about him if she leaves him or she's worried about her own safety if she leaves him MOST LIKELY all of that is bullsh!t to mask the truth that she still has some feelings for this guy and is keeping you both on seperate leashes telling you what you want to hear and telling the other guy what he wants to hear.

The only way you get what you want is to tell her to come and talk to you when she finally ends it with this guy and not one second sooner (of course as politely as you can put it in your own words) because right now she is getting her cake and eating it too and she will continue this disrespectful unhealthy scenario for you both as long as you allow her to.

So other than backing away until she makes the right decision for you both and in so doing proves she wants you over anyone else I will tell you if you follow my advice and she then says all the right things to you, you will have to drop her immediately and without remorse if you find out she has been lying to you just to keep you and still seeing the other guy on the side.

DJ's can tolerate a great many things and give people chances but what they should never tolerate is a liar no matter what the situation.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Why are you making her problems yours?

Since next is not a option for you then you will end up in a fight with someone who is emotionally unstable - good luck!!

 

[lildevil]

Think about it...

Telos...Boyfriend of girl I am seeing sexually wants to slit my throat and has vowed to next time he sees me with his girlfriend again. I remain calm and tell him that would be the worst mistake of his life.

Supporting threats by an AFC who is emotionaly unstable...yeah it seems like your fvcking stuck in the middle of the sh1t(ha haha)

She wants out of the relationship but also seems simultaneously hesitant.

Hum...yeah she still has memories ... is still some what attracted to the guy... feels like she cant just forget the guy just like that

He is deathly afraid of losing her and literally calls her 20 times a day to check up on where she is... which is driving her insane. He's a control freak, has nothing to offer (makes minimum wage, plans on living in a trailer), and never lets her out of his sight for more than 10 minutes.

This guy probably has some history with this chick as well...

Now a new guy (thats you if you haven't found out yet) comes along nd he feels like he is going to ...take him out of the picture...Now the boyfriend sees u as a threat

Do I back the **** off and wait for her to break up with him?

This is most like going to keep on going ....with u in this is like igniting the problem even more...

Tell this ****ing clown to try me and **** him up?

doing this...is you wanting to keep on going backwards and haven't learned anything in this website...

Run boyfriend destroyer and keep painting him as a nice guy AFC (which I've been doing all along)? I normally wouldn't put so much effort into a situation like this but I have a past with this girl.

I understand that you might have history with this girl.... but is it really worth it to keep on fighting fights that are not yours....

Is up to you think this over

I have a feeling the most popular answer is going to be NEXT, but for the sake of discussion lets say that isn't an option.

and yes ....Your feeling is correct(about most people)..

Good luck