Help!

[Lion]

I feel really badly confused!


This girl who has been interested in me for a long time (years) has screwed me over- or I don't know what to do????


Tonight she declared her feeling of attraction to me and was all over me at the club which I went to for new years.


I teased her and eventually kissed her, she was using tongues before I even opened my lips, but she has some weird complex about me being the hottest guy in the club and her friend who has been my aquaintance for some years (through a sports club).


This girl who is really into me, is totally paranoid and drunk about me hooking up with her friend- who i did not even kiss let alone make out with.


Paranoid, weird- she even chatted up another guy and then told ME she gave him a fake number and that I am the one for her- yeah?!



She then bought me a drink after much paranoid deliberation and because I was having fun (being a DJ talking with other girls I knew) went off to chat to an ugly (sorry fella) overweight guy to make me jealous! Obviosly it failed to get my attention- until.......

She went so far, I actually caught her kissing him-at which point I grabbed her arm and she broke away and said she thought she could make me jealous and that i was the sexiest guy there..... I said rubbish, what do you think youre doing? Kissing another guy, she said the other guy knew that I (ME) was with her and that she knew she had made me angry-
what do you want me to do- how can I make it up to you....(pleading me)

I said I don't care, don't believe what you say now you've kissed another guy- how would you feel if I did the same--- Basically ignored her pleas

She's either crazy or has a really bad friend...




AM I OVEREACTING???

She went home early, confiding her friend...... crazy lady


I swear she's mental (and I mean crazy, like she'd do anything to get with me) about me but I don't know how to deal with it- please tell me your advice and experience in this situation :nervous:


I like her, but I didn't realise she was so paranoid!
It went from the perfect night to -I don't know how to react so leave me alone

 

[Lion]

Gotta say this- it was as if she was trying to copy me in my flirtatious mode by chatting up randoms.... sheesh,


Happy New Year! May 2007 be a progressive year for you all!

 

[Georgey]

leave her my friend. find yourself sumone who will respect.
now im 99% ure she'll come back and appologise and try to make excuses and play on u sayin she wants u so bad.. so, get wut she's gona say to u next time(dont go to her, let her come talk to u if she wants) and write it here so that u get more help. but dont give her a final decision when she talks to u coz i think she's probably crazy and u need help

 

[Lion]

thanks Georgey, I'll hit the bed and get some rest.

It's as if I didn't show her enough interest- she was the one making all the moves and I became the dominant one thereafter...

Should I txt her along the lines... "you don't need to go so far in order to show your feelings for me"?

I like her but she's gotta sort her alcohol fuelled mind out..... haha me too for that matter, roll on 2007!

 

[Last Man Standing]

Hors love everybody and no one at the same time!

She has a twisted sense of showing how much she cares for you and you believe it?

She owes you nothing kid!!!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Hors love everybody and no one at the same time!

She has a twisted sense of showing how much she cares for you and you believe it?

She owes you nothing kid!!!

This is proably one of the most important quotes of the new year right here!

Way to bring in the new year, Dr. P!

 

[MacAvoy]

sh1t test and you failed

She went so far, I actually caught her kissing him-at which point I grabbed her arm and she broke away and

At that point, you should have ignored her and stepped up your game with the other women. A DJ doesn't man handle his women. It was a sh1t test and you failed it.

Prior to this, you made her feel like a slvt. She felt liked that she was just "one" of your girls, you didn't make her feel special enough, that you were going to spend the night with her, that you wanted her.

 

[Georgey]

Should I txt her along the lines... "you don't need to go so far in order to show your feelings for me"?

I like her but she's gotta sort her alcohol fuelled mind out..... haha me too for that matter, roll on 2007!

no dont text her, if she cares 1% for u , she'll make a step, but remember that even if she makes a step it doesnt mean that she likes u, man im sorry to say that she's taking advantage of u for sure.... ihad the same problem and my girl seemed soo sweet and like she loved me and only me till the day everything could be seen that she wanted another guy and i was a just for fun game...
lzn man, be a man, see wut U want and go get it, dont let a girl EVER play with u the way she wants... stand ur ground man and look AT WUT U WANT and get it

stop liking her.. she is insane to go kiss an old fatty in front of ur eyes

 

[Lion]

wow- this put an amused smile on my face: (p.message)

"I am so so sorry, I don't know what to say. My behaviour last night was inexcusable, I genuinely like you, I don't know why or how I messed up so badly. I had a fantastic evening with you until I turned into a drunken paranoid *****. I am so sorry....." and so on

she says sorry more than 10 times!


Haha, so I think I'm gonna say its alright I've forgotten about it..... but not overtly like that.... how to say

 

[Lion]

At that point, you should have ignored her and stepped up your game with the other women. A DJ doesn't man handle his women. It was a sh1t test and you failed it.

Prior to this, you made her feel like a slvt. She felt liked that she was just "one" of your girls, you didn't make her feel special enough, that you were going to spend the night with her, that you wanted her.

Thanks, I actually grabbed her arm but didn't pull her away, just held it- but yes, you are right, the sh1t test.


I think you are probably right about the second point too, I didn't spend enough time with her, she offered me a drink and I went off to chat with others while she qued up!

I guess its cos she was too in my face at the time.


So what do you think is the best way to reply to her big self-depricating apology!?

I didn't txt her in the end Georgey!

I wanna have some fun with her but I think she's going on hol this wkend....

 

[MacAvoy]

Accept her apology & move on. Move on as in, forgot that the whole night happened. Make plans to see her again, make it a date this time, that way its perfectly clear, don't see her as a group at a party.

Then simply work your skills.

 

[Lion]

Thats exactly what I did dude, validated! She could not stop apologising, then she apologised for apologising so much-then she realised, STOP haha!

She's nice, I found talking with her really fun and relaxing, left the kiss till the parting moment.

Thanks chaps, you really helped!