"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kazzanova

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Im pretty new on here jus been readin the bibble recently wish i coulda found it before but here goes my problem... I met this girl online or whatever and things were goin great got her number we decided to meet up.. now me bein at stupid AFC was blinded by her beauty and I jus tought man i gotta have this girl so we went out to a movie and dinner (both paid by me so stupid) things didnt go super well on the night either cuz i was kinda shy next thing you know im being stupid and tellin her how good she looks and how i wish she was mine and all when i talked to her.. she said she likes me but probably as a friend im thinkin cuz she has this other guy come over to watch movies all the time at her house she tells me hes a friend thats shes comfortable with cuz their not goin out or nothing .. so then I find this site and start doin some stuff and all of a sudden have her txt my phone and calling askin to go out .. wtf whats goin on here.. should i next her or what ..? i still wouldnt mind doin anything with her..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Kazzanova

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yeah we set up another date i feel more confidant now and im deff gonna flirt more...ill see what happens.. ps what aobut the other guy should i be worried or what..?
 

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Pretend like he doesn't exsist. Just be better at making this girl hot then he is.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kazzanova

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update here.. well i met up with the girl again... things went better ... we flirted and everything.. after whatever we left and i went home then at like 4am i get a call from some guy sayin its her bf and that i should stay away from her and threatened me i was like wtf... that completly threw me of.. I havent talked to her since that day but damn i still want to call her or something .. what should i do?
 

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great drama... I hope she isn't using you to make this guy jealous...
Especially when she's asking you out for a 2nd date...


she has a guy friend that comes over and watches movies,
YEAH RIGHT! hahahahahha

be like "the funniest thing happened last night, this guy called me saying he was your boyfriend and he said if I don't stay away from you..." etc...

be funny about it, play it off,

make him look controlling / crazy ... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

but dude you didnt' play your cards right on the first date...
I doubt this is going far... I believe you are stuck in someone elses drama...

I wouldn't go out with her anytime soon, play busy bro...
Just for the time being. Or make her wait a week and a half...
Something like "I have plans this weekend, maybe next weekend."
You need to rechallenge her...
 

Kazzanova

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yeah i dont need someone elses drama.. i havent talked to her since.. thinkin callin and sayin that tho.. to try to make him look controllin wich he kinda was ****in emotional *****.. ima do what i can to rechalenger her..
 
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