"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help with what to message a hb10

fyrefly

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Hey guys, i got a number tuesday last week, this is the fr, as you read it, please work out something i can use this week to message the girl.

A hb9 and a hb10 ( she had tongue stud/belly ring, in a black boob tube with a black revealing dress over the top, amazing green
eyes and golden blonde hair) walk out of the club, they look at me sitting
like a lost puppy next to the entrance, and just as they passed i got up and said outta nowhere

Me: hey......is it still like....busy in there?
HB10: Yeah, sorta, kinda like, medium....why?
Me: oh my friends are all in there and they won't let me in
HB10: oh that's so not fair, so what are you doing why don't you message
them?
Me: i tried but they all seem to be having too much fun
HB10: welll why don't u walk to maccas with us
Me: hmmm, well i'm waitin for a message back so okay lets go

We talk fluff, they ask about the hats i tell them i won them in a dancing
competition with a random girl i met that night, they find it very funny, i
can't even remember what i said after that, i just remember keeping my voice
slow, my tone down and my body language at relaxed/attracted. Just as the
HB10 stepped towards me and asked my name my phone went off, my hb9 friend
was comin out to meet me so i said goodbye to the hb10 and hb9 and ran back.

I meet my hb9 friend at the door of the club and we start talking, her being
my pivot i tell her how i met these random hot chicks at maccas so we start
walking down that direction, they come round the corner, come up to us and
engage my hb9 friend like they'd known her for years. We joke about how many
hot chicks i hang around with and i just gloat and smile, they left the
maccas line to get seven11 but i had a sneakin suspicion they came because
they were interested in me, they went off into seven11 leavin me with my hb9
friend, me thinking "okay how do i work this"...... i tell my hb9 friend to
follow my lead, i enter the seven11

Me: Oh my god wow i just openned the doors with my mind i'm a jedi
HB9friend: you dork (shoves me, HB10 turns and see us and smiles)
Me: i have to grab another gatorade as SHE drunk all my last one
HB9friend: and i'll drink this one too
Me (reaching the counter where hb10 is standing): hey you guys were really
nice to me, are you coming out this time next week? (i had to repeat this
line as i jumbled all the words the first time, making the hb10 give a weird
look and a laugh)
HB10: yeah
Me (thank you david d): Well we should meet up for coffee beforehand or
something, here give me your number (give her phone)
HB10 (seemed excited and quite comfortable): sure thing, here (she puts
number in and steps closer to me) what do i do now??
Me: you press the save button (reaching around and clickin the phone) i then
go to walk out
HB10: hey so next tuesday you'll be like coming out??
Me: yeah i'll drop u a message or something, seeya
HB10: ......fyrefly right???
Me: yeah ( i point at her) HB10?
Her: yeah, nice meeting you
Me (big smile, walks out with hb9friend grabbing my arm and barely
containing laughter)


So, any ideas?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good_ol_boy

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Originally posted by flexion_
Get her number and ask her out?
Read the post? ;)

He got her number! :D

But, he's right, ask her out! :cheer:
 

Wiesman44

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why do u want help on what to message her ? Just be yourself.
 

Colinski282

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Dont microanalyze, you know to do Jedi boy. Keep up the eye contact and body language.

your hott wingman helped u alot probly....she may have seen ur attractive friend and said hey that sexy girl likes em, maybe i will too. Having a female friend at your side has worked wonders for me too.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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wow, I need to recruit a hot girl wingman... haha

sounds like you're doing fine so far by the way, just keep it up!
 

fyrefly

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okay i sent

Me: You going to BLAH tonight?

Her: Yeah i mite b later. Soz dont hav ur number? Who u?

Me: the cute guy you rescued last week, hb9friend and i might come down later if we haven't spent all our cash in the city


Didn't get a response back all night from her, did get a response from another number i tried from last week but i did run outta money in the city and had to come home.

I'm thinkin to just NEXT her and forget about it, maybe sms when i get back from my one month holiday, what you boys think of what i messaged her, and what i should do now?
 

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Originally posted by fyrefly
okay i sent

Me: You going to BLAH tonight?

Her: Yeah i mite b later. Soz dont hav ur number? Who u?

Me: the cute guy you rescued last week, hb9friend and i might come down later if we haven't spent all our cash in the city


Didn't get a response back all night from her, did get a response from another number i tried from last week but i did run outta money in the city and had to come home.

I'm thinkin to just NEXT her and forget about it, maybe sms when i get back from my one month holiday, what you boys think of what i messaged her, and what i should do now?
LOL I've hung up on girls for that sh!t.

"Who are you again?!"
"If you don't remember, never mind." *CLICK*

Think about it...what would Miss HB10 super-beautiful do if SHE called YOU and you said, "Who is this again??"

So what right does she have to do that to YOU, Mr. DJ10???

Her loss.
 

fyrefly

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well she didn't have my number and it's been a week since i got hers so i didn't expect her to know who it was, i was blunt, to the point and didn't come off as needy which is what you want when you deal with hb10, she should have messaged back but she didn't, but i've given the impression i wanted to give so i'm happy with the situation.
 

SamePendo

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Should have read this earlier.

Next time, don't sms her. CALL her. And ask her out, not to a club and ****, but to a place where you can actually hear what you both are saying. You two can go to the club AFTER you had the actual date. But do not make the date to consist of meeting up at the club.

I'm not a club-goer anyway. But, after all, you picked her up when you were OUTSIDE, and you could hear what you were saying.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm also not into SMS and messaging in general, feels pretty much the same as emailing. I say use the phone, plain and simple, quit the messaging routine asap.

-Bill
 
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