"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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help with those two cases

l23

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Hi guys I really need help asap. It's about two girls that I'm trying 2 get w/ no intention of cheating, just trying to get one of them. Here are the stories.
1) i've seen a girl working at a Walgreens pharmacy n I like her. I would like 2 know how I would approach her and close the deal without disturbing her or something like that. I have the confidence and all but sometimes I am in lack of openers.

2) I work at a shoestore mostly for ladies. One day a girl came in. I said "Hi" with a smile with no intention of flirting or whatever, and she answered "Hellooooo". She took a quick look and on her way out I wanted to improve my DJ skills by practicing:
Me: hey excuse me do you work upstairs?
Her: No I work at Doo Wop Diner (a diner in the same area)
Me: Oh ok. It's just that I've noticed you passing by a lot of times. So what's your name?
Her: Lisa
Me: I'm LeBron. Nice to meet you.
Her: Nice to meet you too ( shake hands). Hey I'm in a hurry but I'll be back. Bye.
And she was gone.
An hour later she came back but didn't see me. On her way out again, she saw me and said " hey I'm back " ( smiling). Since I was talking to the district manager, I couldn't step to her and speak to her. I just said " hey wat's up". After a few seconds standing next to the door, she asked the time and went out.
I work part-time and I haven't seen her for 3 weeks. After that, she came again. That's when I noticed that she was really hot. we talked a lil bit and I let her look arround. When she was paying, I was at the register, and since we have to asked for customer's phone numbers, I asked hers, saved it on the register and asked if I could call her. She said "sure". She gave it to me(smiling), and said " I will talk 2 you later". However, when I try 2 call her, they tell me that her phone is not in service at that time.
Should I go where she works(for lunch or something), or should I just forget about her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What does "phone not in service" mean in the states? Is it a malfunction or did she just give you the wrong number?

If its a malfunction try calling her back at a later point (once, then maybe a txt, nothing more if she doesn't reply).

If she gave out a fake number, just forget about her (dont approach her, only have contact with her if she initates, and start acting ****y)
 

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dude I think it's a malfunction bcuz I tried a phone that was not working and it was not the same speech. For the first case also, I'm confused about how to handle it and I don't want to disturb the girl at her work.
 

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l23 said:
Hi guys I really need help asap. It's about two girls that I'm trying 2 get w/ no intention of cheating, just trying to get one of them. Here are the stories.
1) i've seen a girl working at a Walgreens pharmacy n I like her. I would like 2 know how I would approach her and close the deal without disturbing her or something like that. I have the confidence and all but sometimes I am in lack of openers.

WALK UP TO HER AND SAY HI, MY NAME IS LEBRON.

2) I work at a shoestore mostly for ladies.

WOW YOU MUST BE IN CHICK HEAVEN


One day a girl came in. I said "Hi" with a smile with no intention of flirting or whatever, and she answered "Hellooooo". She took a quick look and on her way out I wanted to improve my DJ skills by practicing:
Me: hey excuse me do you work upstairs?
Her: No I work at Doo Wop Diner (a diner in the same area)
Me: Oh ok. It's just that I've noticed you passing by a lot of times. So what's your name?
Her: Lisa
Me: I'm LeBron. Nice to meet you.
Her: Nice to meet you too ( shake hands). Hey I'm in a hurry but I'll be back. Bye.
And she was gone.
An hour later she came back but didn't see me. On her way out again, she saw me and said " hey I'm back " ( smiling). Since I was talking to the district manager, I couldn't step to her and speak to her. I just said " hey wat's up". After a few seconds standing next to the door, she asked the time and went out.
I work part-time and I haven't seen her for 3 weeks. After that, she came again. That's when I noticed that she was really hot. we talked a lil bit and I let her look arround. When she was paying, I was at the register, and since we have to asked for customer's phone numbers, I asked hers, saved it on the register and asked if I could call her. She said "sure". She gave it to me(smiling), and said " I will talk 2 you later". However, when I try 2 call her, they tell me that her phone is not in service at that time.
Should I go where she works(for lunch or something), or should I just forget about her?

CALL AGAIN AS NORMAL DURING YOUR NUMBER DIALING UP TIME (YOU SHOULD HAVE A LOT OF NUMBERS FROM GOING OUT REGUALRY AND APPROACHING WOMEN TO IMPROVE (WHICH IT DOESN'T SEEM YOUR DOING) , SO START GOING OUT AND APPROACHING, ITS IMPORTANT FOR IMPROVING YOUR SKILLS AND CREATING AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET)
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